Actives Need to Clean Up Facebook, Too

[Ocalagirl]

It's funny though because I was looking at some of the actives profiles at where I will be going in the fall. I was trying to get a rough idea of what each chapter is like or atleast what their girls looked liked. There is not one GLO that did not have atleast ten members that had pics showing them drinking and I even saw one with their GLO's letters on a coozie holding a longneck. I thought it was actually rude to drink in their letters because I don't think you should drink in them. While I am not sure they need to clean up everything, but come on don't drink in your letters!

[kchaptergphib]

I realize some of these posts are from a while ago, but my advice is still pretty much the same-
1. DON'T LET ANYONE BUT YOUR FRIENDS (real friends, not some random from lecture who's your facebook friend) SEE YOUR PROFILE.
2. USE A DIFFERENT PHOTO SITE FOR YOUR PICTURES.

It's now at the point where I KNOW chapters who have had their charters revoked and members who have been asked to resign their membership for pictures that were posted on Facebook. Also, now that Facebook is available to businesses and anyone in any city to join, ANYONE can see your profile unless you alter the privacy settings. I have heard of people not getting continued interviews/ hired due to the fact that people from the prospective employer could see how poorly they represented themselves on the internet.

I can't tell you how many times I have to remind high school women to privatize their facebook profiles, since college women can look them up, once I send in my recruitment recommendations (as by then, these soon-to-be freshmen usually have their college e-mail address).

So, I'll say it again...
DO NOT PUT UP ANY PICTURES WHERE YOU ARE BEING LEWD, DRUNK, OVERLY-SEXUAL, ETC.

I know it can seem lame that independent folks can post whatever they want, but we can't. But honestly, do you really want to present yourself like you're Paris Hilton? I hope not.

** stepping down from my soapbox, as I am a member of some fun facebook groups, but I don't have any icky pictures of myself up, either **

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Ocalagirl

It's funny though because I was looking at some of the actives profiles at where I will be going in the fall. I was trying to get a rough idea of what each chapter is like or atleast what their girls looked liked. There is not one GLO that did not have atleast ten members that had pics showing them drinking and I even saw one with their GLO's letters on a coozie holding a longneck. I thought it was actually rude to drink in their letters because I don't think you should drink in them. While I am not sure they need to clean up everything, but come on don't drink in your letters!

Until you are an initiated member, you have absolutely no place telling people what they can and cannot do in their letters.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Until you are an initiated member, you have absolutely no place telling people what they can and cannot do in their letters.

And we won't even talk about the shallowness of judging what each group is like by the physical appearance of their members...

Originally Posted by Ocalagirl

It's funny though because I was looking at some of the actives profiles at where I will be going in the fall. I was trying to get a rough idea of what each chapter is like or atleast what their girls looked liked. There is not one GLO that did not have atleast ten members that had pics showing them drinking and I even saw one with their GLO's letters on a coozie holding a longneck. I thought it was actually rude to drink in their letters because I don't think you should drink in them. While I am not sure they need to clean up everything, but come on don't drink in your letters!

I've been keeping quiet for a long time, but now it really needs to be said.

If you really want to have a successful rush at your new school, I'd suggest learning how to keep your damn mouth shut.

Your grades aren't that great, you're rushing as a junior, and you've said a lot of things here that pissed a lot of people off. I don't know what school you'll be rushing at and I don't care that I don't know, but I'll say this -- a lot of people DO care because you know what? They don't want you joining their organization. I'm serious. They'll stop at nothing to make sure of it. Your lack of discretion probably made it a lot easier for them to do so.

So please...if you're serious about rushing and if you really want to get a bid, quit putting your foot in your mouth. You might also want to change your perspective on Greek Life in general and stop being so freaking shallow.

Have a nice day.

[AUDeltaGam]

Originally Posted by OTW

I've been keeping quiet for a long time, but now it really needs to be said.

If you really want to have a successful rush at your new school, I'd suggest learning how to keep your damn mouth shut.

Your grades aren't that great, you're rushing as a junior, and you've said a lot of things here that pissed a lot of people off. I don't know what school you'll be rushing at and I don't care that I don't know, but I'll say this -- a lot of people DO care because you know what? They don't want you joining their organization. I'm serious. They'll stop at nothing to make sure of it. Your lack of discretion probably made it a lot easier for them to do so.

So please...if you're serious about rushing and if you really want to get a bid, quit putting your foot in your mouth. You might also want to change your perspective on Greek Life in general and stop being so freaking shallow.

Have a nice day.

I think I love you.

[KSUViolet06]

My chapter never told us the things we could/couldn't have on Facebook. We were instructed to just make our Facebook/MySpace pages visible to our friends only (which most people did anyway in response to a stalking situation we had). That solved the problem of "cleaning up" Facebook because no PNMs could even see our profiles.

My attitude about PNMs and sorority members partying is different because I went to one of the "party" schools in my state. So girls are in a picture and they're partying? Okay. This is college. A beer in a picture is not awful. And about the coozie, people aren't always thinking about whether items have letters on them, especially if they're not in public. If you're judging ENTIRE groups based on their Facebook photos, then you are going to have a limited choice of sororities because guess what, EVERYONE parties.

[GeekyPenguin]

Here's my first problem with this PNM judging actives issue:

The girls you are looking at are not for sure actives. One of my pledge sisters (who has been an alum for two years but her profile does not indicate the year she graduated) has a Facebook photo that says "all the Gamma Phis toasting X at her wedding" and there are pictures of a bunch of us holding up wine/champagne/cocktails (and yes, even some beer bottles) toasting the bride. We are alumnae! We are allowed to drink alcohol!

If you don't want to join a house where sisters of age are allowed to consume alcohol, then don't. However, suggesting this is really not going to help you, as OTW pointed out in her post. I really think that you should stop posting on GC ASAP if you would like to entertain any thoughts of getting a bid. How many junior transfers will be going through at your school? You are probably very easily identifiable.

[AOII Angel]

AOII has no ban on drinking in letters, nor does several other groups that were on my campus. All four sororities went to PIKEFest every year clothed in bid day shirts (usually sewn letters) and drank PIKE punch until we were all tipsy. Some groups may have a rule against it, but in my humble opinion, I won't do anything out of my letters that I wouldn't do in them! If it's a rule of the sorority in general or of the chapter, then I'd follow it. Otherwise, I don't think it is disrespectful.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

AOII has no ban on drinking in letters, nor does several other groups that were on my campus. All four sororities went to PIKEFest every year clothed in bid day shirts (usually sewn letters) and drank PIKE punch until we were all tipsy. Some groups may have a rule against it, but in my humble opinion, I won't do anything out of my letters that I wouldn't do in them! If it's a rule of the sorority in general or of the chapter, then I'd follow it. Otherwise, I don't think it is disrespectful.

That may be the first thing I agree with you on.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by AOII Angel

AOII has no ban on drinking in letters, nor does several other groups that were on my campus. All four sororities went to PIKEFest every year clothed in bid day shirts (usually sewn letters) and drank PIKE punch until we were all tipsy. Some groups may have a rule against it, but in my humble opinion, I won't do anything out of my letters that I wouldn't do in them! If it's a rule of the sorority in general or of the chapter, then I'd follow it. Otherwise, I don't think it is disrespectful.

The way I understand it this has a lot to do with campus culture and by laws in many organizations...not necessarily the national/international regulations. Actually I'm not sure which ours falls under (I know my chapter is fairly strict about what we should do in our letters/not do and where they should/should not be worn, but I don't know if that's a chapter thing or an international thing)...AGD's?


I have no idea what this girl said before, but she DID post in this thread two things that I would give her a YES for...not believeing in "top and bottom" tiers, and pursuing dreams.

[Xylochick216]

Originally Posted by AUDeltaGam

I think I love you.

Me, too.

[Ocalagirl]

never mind.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by Ocalagirl

never mind.

Oh come on, just say it.

[Ocalagirl]

OK to set things straight...

1) I didn't mean to piss so many people off so I am sorry. I don't care if actives drink or not. It's none of my business what anyone does in their spare time. But if you are going to tell pnm to clean up their profiles so should actives. No I am not an initiated member thanks for pointing out the obvious but when I have respect for anyones letters I would think they would too.
2) I looked at the people on facebook to get a look at campus culture. I know its not the ideal way to do it, but I am far away and don't know what else to do. I wanted really an idea of what people wore to rush last year to get an idea what to buy. I am sorry if it seemed I was judging them or whatnot because I am not. I do not know which sorority I want to join because I haven't met any of them. I don't believe in "top tier" and "bottom tier" because in my understand of the sisterhood that is not what it is about.
3) I know I have a lot of things riding againt me. So what? I am willing to put myself out there and go for my dreams. I have a lot of dreams and I have accomplished a lot already. So what my GPA might not be a 4.0? Yes it might not work in my favor at all, but its one of things I will have to deal with. And for being a junior, I wouldn't want to be a freshman again for anything. I am proud of who I am and most people think I am a mature, compassionate, caring, and loving young women and will follow my dreams wherever they may take me.
4)OTW, so who have I pissed off besides you? I probably should have explained myself better and this uproar wouldn't have occured but I'm sorry that we all can't be perfect like you.

thanks. I needed to get this off my chest.