D9 stereotyping..

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

Stereotyping does still exist. I have been a member of Sigma Gamma Rho for 2 weeks and three days. A friend of my sent me an email to congratulate me. About half way through the she begin to ask me why did choose sgrho. She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. She preceded to tell me that I wasn't like that and that Aka would have been better for me. Because I was pretty, smart, and friendly.. and that i should have followed the path my sister and she had went down. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

Congratulations!

[raggann03]

You know this is so funny because just YESTERDAY and "friend" of mine was commenting on one of our sorhors and was like "yes, she fits cause she's chubby, SGRhos are known as the chubby ones". I just laughed because I had never heard that before. Quickly dismissed

[MsRaidiance522]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Congratulations!

Thank you!

[BlueReign]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

Stereotyping does still exist. I have been a member of Sigma Gamma Rho for 2 weeks and three days. A friend of my sent me an email to congratulate me. About half way through the she begin to ask me why did choose sgrho. She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. She preceded to tell me that I wasn't like that and that Aka would have been better for me. Because I was pretty, smart, and friendly.. and that i should have followed the path my sister and she had went down. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

I'm glad you told her Soror!

I'm pretty, smart, AND confrontational. I wonder what that makes me.

Honestly, I am told by mostly stupid men (who mainly perpetuate this nonsense stereotyping) that I fit the stereotype of AKA.

The only comments I hear from women -- and other greek women in my local NPHC chapter at that -- is that we are so small we all know each other. My pet peeve is other greek women in my area (DC/Baltimore) who are surprised that we have so many graduate chapters in this area. I even had one neo Zeta ask me if I was able to "find a chapter"? Whatever?

My response: For the record, there are 6 graduate chapters in the DC area alone, not including the Baltimore area chapters. This is a greater metropolitan area with a large black population, what did you expect?

[OneBadZeta02]

Originally Posted by GRACED2BSGRHO

All they had were XL and XXL jackets. So i asked the guy why he didn't have any mediums or smalls. He said i stopped ordering them because they told me all the Sgrho's were fat..

I agree with you here fellow Greek. There are never any small or even medium jackets or t-shirts for Z-Phi-B in most Greek shops. The Greek shop here <in Virginia> says that "most of the Zeta's we make things for are larger in size, you just so happen to be a small one". I was mad as hell! Here I am 5'2 and 110 pounds and you mean to tell me I'm supposed to wear a large or extra large because you feel like ZETA'S are "larger in size"? I almost went upside his damn head! So I feel you on this one GRACED2BSGRHO...

[Sophist08edLady]

Originally Posted by OneBadZeta02

I agree with you here fellow Greek. There are never any small or even medium jackets or t-shirts for Z-Phi-B in most Greek shops. The Greek shop here <in Virginia> says that "most of the Zeta's we make things for are larger in size, you just so happen to be a small one". I was mad as hell! Here I am 5'2 and 110 pounds and you mean to tell me I'm supposed to wear a large or extra large because you feel like ZETA'S are "larger in size"? I almost went upside his damn head! So I feel you on this one GRACED2BSGRHO...

This is funny...because as a "pleasingly plump" AKA I normally see the reverse of this.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by MsRaidiance522

She began to tell Sgrhos on her campus are hoes, ugly, and confrontational. and That sgrho was a very small org. and that i would meet all my sorhors at one regional. I told her that i chose the best sorority for me the last created the best designed, the sorority that has best gpa nationwide... and that quality is better than quantity... I asked her did she know the sgrhos on her campus personally she said no.. I told to keep my sorhors out her mouth.

First of all Congratulations SoRHOr!! Secondly, she said what!
I would have been too mad to respond at first because I would have been trying to cyberslam her on the concrete. She had the audacity to open her mouth like that about my SoRHOrs... I am glad you let her know to keep her mouth OFF SGRHO's. This is yet another example of a sistergreek ( so sad ) perpetuating the stereotypes. One thing that I learned coming into this great sisterhood is that class goes a longgggggg way and class DOES NOT include down talking your sister/brother greeks. SGRHO's keep it tight, classy and sexy, that's why SGRHO is the only RHOad.

[bluethunder]

okay, i am probably going to be taking the less popular approach to this topic, but i go forth nonetheless:

i, like many soRHOrs, have had people tell me that i just COULDN'T be an SGRho because Sigma Gamma Rho sorors are either really big or really skinny or really nerdy or sloppy or whatever... or they will talk about how Sigma Gamma Rho is mostly older ladies...there have even been times when individuals have made the comment that i'm the "best looking" SGRho they have met...
i don't buy into the hype of stereotypes because one size definitely does not fit all. Wearing certain letters and colors doesn't make you pretty, smart, or ladylike and wearing others don't mean you are a reject or the size of a polar bear...

HOWEVER, i think we have to acknowledge that stereotypes do come from somewhere...whether or not they hold true is another issue. keep it real, y'all. look at some of these photogalleries--and i mean this for ALL of us orgs.--and you'll see some stereotypes "appear".

[tld221]

Originally Posted by BlueReign

I'm glad you told her Soror!

I'm pretty, smart, AND confrontational. I wonder what that makes me.

Honestly, I am told by mostly stupid men (who mainly perpetuate this nonsense stereotyping) that I fit the stereotype of AKA.

The only comments I hear from women -- and other greek women in my local NPHC chapter at that -- is that we are so small we all know each other. My pet peeve is other greek women in my area (DC/Baltimore) who are surprised that we have so many graduate chapters in this area. I even had one neo Zeta ask me if I was able to "find a chapter"? Whatever?

My response: For the record, there are 6 graduate chapters in the DC area alone, not including the Baltimore area chapters. This is a greater metropolitan area with a large black population, what did you expect?

i hear that soror - NYC has 3 grad chapters, with another nearby in Westchester and in LI. dont tell me about some "finding a chapter" cause we got this!

Originally Posted by bluethunder

okay, i am probably going to be taking the less popular approach to this topic, but i go forth nonetheless:

i, like many soRHOrs, have had people tell me that i just COULDN'T be an SGRho because Sigma Gamma Rho sorors are either really big or really skinny or really nerdy or sloppy or whatever... or they will talk about how Sigma Gamma Rho is mostly older ladies...there have even been times when individuals have made the comment that i'm the "best looking" SGRho they have met...
i don't buy into the hype of stereotypes because one size definitely does not fit all. Wearing certain letters and colors doesn't make you pretty, smart, or ladylike and wearing others don't mean you are a reject or the size of a polar bear...

HOWEVER, i think we have to acknowledge that stereotypes do come from somewhere...whether or not they hold true is another issue. keep it real, y'all. look at some of these photogalleries--and i mean this for ALL of us orgs.--and you'll see some stereotypes "appear".

i've gotten that too! i mean i cute and all, but i aint no model chick either! so dudes, greek and non-greek, really get me when theyre like "damn you are a fine SGRho, do you got other sorors who look like you?"

another greek dude said to me "man yall are like the AKA chapter of SGRho cause some other chapters - dayum!"

but word, i feel like ive perpetuated some stereotypes (physically and mentally, within my org and other orgs) and i shouldnt. bad soror, bad. (slaps myself on the hand)

[NinjaPoodle]

Originally Posted by bluethunder

okay, i am probably going to be taking the less popular approach to this topic, but i go forth nonetheless:...

HOWEVER, i think we have to acknowledge that stereotypes do come from somewhere...whether or not they hold true is another issue. keep it real, y'all. look at some of these photogalleries--and i mean this for ALL of us orgs.--and you'll see some stereotypes "appear".

I agree soror.

[rhoyaltempest]

Hi Sorors and Sistergreeks!

I hear what everyone is saying but I think it depends on where you are. I'm in Philly and in the Northeast (which includes chapters in PA., New Jersey, New York, Delaware, etc.) we rarely hear negative stereotypes about ourselves although I have heard some about sorors in other areas and when I do hear something, I shut the person down real quick because I don't let anyone talk bad about my sorority...I don't care where you're from. As for being small, we may be smaller than the other 3 but we're definately not small by any means. Up here anyway, we are on every campus where there are NPHC orgs and some where we are the only one there (and PA. alone has a whole lot of colleges and universities, probably more than any other state).

I think the stereotyping goes on because non-greeks and greeks alike only go by what they see on their campus or in one geographical area, but I think that's really messed up to label an entire organization (which spans throughout the U.S. and beyond) based on what you've personally seen or heard. Then you have those non-greeks who haven't even met any SGRho's, passing along rumors they personally know nothing about.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by rhoyaltempest

Hi Sorors and Sistergreeks!

I hear what everyone is saying but I think it depends on where you are. I'm in Philly and in the Northeast (which includes chapters in PA., New Jersey, New York, Delaware, etc.) we rarely hear negative stereotypes about ourselves although I have heard some about sorors in other areas and when I do hear something, I shut the person down real quick because I don't let anyone talk bad about my sorority...I don't care where you're from. As for being small, we may be smaller than the other 3 but we're definately not small by any means. Up here anyway, we are on every campus where there are NPHC orgs and some where we are the only one there (and PA. alone has a whole lot of colleges and universities, probably more than any other state).

I think the stereotyping goes on because non-greeks and greeks alike only go by what they see on their campus or in one geographical area, but I think that's really messed up to label an entire organization (which spans throughout the U.S. and beyond) based on what you've personally seen or heard. Then you have those non-greeks who haven't even met any SGRho's, passing along rumors they personally know nothing about.

I was speaking with a soror yesterday about this very subject and she said that she finds that we get hated on most by the other sororities. About 2 years ago on her campus XYZ she was sayin that the other sororities (namely 2 of them) was trash talkin SGRHO and they did not even know them but was trash talking them. In one instance, we had an informational and one of the girls at the informational was legacy to another sorority but wanted SGRHO to call home. The (now) soror told SGRHO how she asked XYZ sorority what makes them different from us and the responses were trash talking. To trash talk someone else's organization only shows your insecurity about your own organization imo. D9 sororities are a majority of women of color united for one cause and that is to uplift and improve the conditions of our communities. How can we do that if we are tearing each other down? I believe that we need to look up the definition of class and check ourselves to be sure that we are living up to it. JMO.

[jojapeach]

^^^ There are many of us in the D9 that share your opinion.

But don't get it twisted. We get hated on by frats, too. Of course, it's usually a case of a Sassy Sigma breaking his heart and trying to direct his hurt at all Sigmas, not just the one that hurt him.

For instance, a popular DJ in Atlanta has always hated on us. ALWAYS. He plugged having the other three sororities in the step show he sponsored, but Sigma was not mentioned. Funny that he didn't there were only us and two Delta teams stepping, and he knew we were in the show at least 10 days before the show. It's really sad when men hate on sororities. It really makes a guy look...pathetic.

And ditto what others have said about each sorority having gorgeous and not so gorgeous members. There is no mold, no matter what anyone wants to perpetuate.

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by jojapeach

^^^ There are many of us in the D9 that share your opinion.

But don't get it twisted. We get hated on by frats, too. Of course, it's usually a case of a Sassy Sigma breaking his heart and trying to direct his hurt at all Sigmas, not just the one that hurt him.

For instance, a popular DJ in Atlanta has always hated on us. ALWAYS. He plugged having the other three sororities in the step show he sponsored, but Sigma was not mentioned. Funny that he didn't there were only us and two Delta teams stepping, and he knew we were in the show at least 10 days before the show. It's really sad when men hate on sororities. It really makes a guy look...pathetic.

And ditto what others have said about each sorority having gorgeous and not so gorgeous members. There is no mold, no matter what anyone wants to perpetuate.

Soror, you ain't neva lied. And its look sooooo childish to me for a frat to stoop to the level of hatin on a sorority..how ridiculous? I mean are we dealing with men or little girls?

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by bluethunder

okay, i am probably going to be taking the less popular approach to this topic, but i go forth nonetheless:

i, like many soRHOrs, have had people tell me that i just COULDN'T be an SGRho because Sigma Gamma Rho sorors are either really big or really skinny or really nerdy or sloppy or whatever... or they will talk about how Sigma Gamma Rho is mostly older ladies...there have even been times when individuals have made the comment that i'm the "best looking" SGRho they have met...
i don't buy into the hype of stereotypes because one size definitely does not fit all. Wearing certain letters and colors doesn't make you pretty, smart, or ladylike and wearing others don't mean you are a reject or the size of a polar bear...

HOWEVER, i think we have to acknowledge that stereotypes do come from somewhere...whether or not they hold true is another issue. keep it real, y'all. look at some of these photogalleries--and i mean this for ALL of us orgs.--and you'll see some stereotypes "appear".

I hear what you're sayin' but I've met far more sorors and seen far more websites and pictures of sorors who do not fit the so called negative stereotypes at all...and this goes for all of the NPHC orgs. So while stereotypes do come from somewhere, they're just not fair to use...especially if they are negative.