What would you do if your daughter....

RozRochelle · #1 05-15-2007, 02:13 AM

That wouldn't be a problem for me. My sorority is for women who fall under the "non-traditional student" umbrella, anyway. Besides, I would never let my sorority (or any other organization) rise to such an important level in my life that it became an object of idolatry.

Akception · #2 05-15-2007, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by RozRochelle

That wouldn't be a problem for me. My sorority is for women who fall under the "non-traditional student" umbrella, anyway. Besides, I would never let my sorority (or any other organization) rise to such an important level in my life that it became an object of idolatry.

Idolatry, never, but I must say that being in the presence of awesome sorors or basking in their legacy is an honor. Hailing from Winston-Salem, NC, AKA's have a proud past, present, and future here. While I don't have any children yet, I do have a wonderful one year old niece. She too will be an AKA, if I have something to say about it! I figure since I am the first in my family to be in a sorority, I get to make the rules!! I also have a little cousin who just told me that she wanted to be a Delta...*faints*...lol... but on the real, I think that women should want to pledge AKA, but if they don't, then it is okay because the ones who want to will, not matter what. As for paying for my niece to be a part of the organization, well, I would love to. That gives me some time, seeing that she just turned one in March!!

RozRochelle · #3 05-16-2007, 12:04 AM

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Idolatry, never, but I must say that being in the presence of awesome sorors or basking in their legacy is an honor. Hailing from Winston-Salem, NC, AKA's have a proud past, present, and future here. While I don't have any children yet, I do have a wonderful one year old niece. She too will be an AKA, if I have something to say about it! I figure since I am the first in my family to be in a sorority, I get to make the rules!! I also have a little cousin who just told me that she wanted to be a Delta...*faints*...lol... but on the real, I think that women should want to pledge AKA, but if they don't, then it is okay because the ones who want to will, not matter what. As for paying for my niece to be a part of the organization, well, I would love to. That gives me some time, seeing that she just turned one in March!!

I don't see being in another human being's presence as an honor, because to ME that belief, conversely, implies that I am less of a person than they are, and therefore am not worthy to be in their presence. In my mind, that "position" is reserved for God. Don't get me wrong, I deeply respect accomplished black women - and I do have my "she-roes" - but there is a limit to my admiration of them. There's a fine line between admiring and idolizing.

Now, as for "grooming" daughters, neices, cousins, etc for membership in your respective organizations? I say "y'all be scheming!", LOL.

Little32 · #4 05-16-2007, 10:49 AM

^^I really think that you are trying to take this thread to a place that it has not gone.

Not only is it an honor to be a part of ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA Sorority, Inc., but it is an honor for me to meet any of my sorors and an honor to be in their presence as we do the work of our organization.

As far as children joining another organization, I can't even conceive of that. Of course, that's because I can not conceive of having children at this point in time. I do have a cousin that is interested in being Greek, and I advised her to research all of the organizations and find the one that fits her. I know that I only want women (family, friend, or other) who really want it to pursue membership in my organization; and that desire has to stem from them not from my choice for them.

AKA_Monet · #5 05-16-2007, 03:13 PM

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As far as children joining another organization, I can't even conceive of that. Of course, that's because I can not conceive of having children at this point in time. I do have a cousin that is interested in being Greek, and I advised her to research all of the organizations and find the one that fits her. I know that I only want women (family, friend, or other) who really want it to pursue membership in my organization; and that desire has to stem from them not from my choice for them.

^^^
I concur 1908%

Out of my box:

Bottomline, one must be attending a 4 year accredited college/university, have at least a 3.0 GPA, done some community service--preferably with our respective chapters located on their campus and have letters of recommendations. That's AKA1908.com

If a child is legacy or family member influenced, then they are turning their papers in early...

That is what heritage is all about.

Now, if my fictitious daughter did not want to do what I ask

for membership in my sorority and actually did what she was told for another organization, I would let her go and be a part of that. Because that is what she wanted. That would not be what I wanted for her, but as an adult, she made a decision and I am just happy that at least she is making one...

But, I would not blindly allow her to do so by feeding this child to the wolves.

Most young girls like imitating what their mother does. Most. I know I did and look at me now...

RozRochelle · #6 05-16-2007, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Little32

^^I really think that you are trying to take this thread to a place that it has not gone.

Not only is it an honor to be a part of ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA Sorority, Inc., but it is an honor for me to meet any of my sorors and an honor to be in their presence as we do the work of our organization.

As far as children joining another organization, I can't even conceive of that. Of course, that's because I can not conceive of having children at this point in time. I do have a cousin that is interested in being Greek, and I advised her to research all of the organizations and find the one that fits her. I know that I only want women (family, friend, or other) who really want it to pursue membership in my organization; and that desire has to stem from them not from my choice for them.

I honestly wasn't trying to take this thread anywhere, LOL. If I was, trust me, I'm bold enough to say so. I simply answered the question and gave my general opinion like everyone else. I just happen to have a different viewpoint, that's all. Blame my parents.

As I replied earlier, I wouldn't have a problem with my daughter (if/when I have one) joining another organization. None whatsoever, because my org is for non-traditional/adult women, and has a minimum age of 24 to join. So, unless she detoured from "the plan", for which her father and I would have groomed her, and became a non-traditional, she wouldn't be eligible to join my organization, anyway. However, if I was a member of a traditional GLO, a new family tradition would be welcomed. I might do some urging, but I wouldn't put a lot of pressure on her... I don't think, LOLOL.

Little32 · #7 05-16-2007, 10:41 PM

When you come in throwing around language like idolatry, in a thread where neither that language nor those idea have been introduced (suggesting in a way that some here have raised their organization to that level), that's what it seems like.

But, okay, I will take your word for it.

SummerChild · #8 05-17-2007, 02:06 AM

Soror, ya'll are better than me...responding to these people. Ya'll know that they come in trying to drop bait to get a reaction. Why even respond? (Shrug) at these folk. I just look at 'em through my computer screen (lol) like "nice try, you almost got me" - then I keep it moving. Sometimes I even laugh like, "yeah, that was slick." "Idolatry." Hah! Yeah, you almost had me. Then you lolololololololololololol all over the place when you get called out. Yeah, bet. Ok, now i'm laughing out loud for real. Please excuse, it's been a looong day,

I'm clowning.

I'm so tired. Calgon take me awaaaaaay! lol.

At least it's good for laughs.

Good night ya'll...and I have to get on a plane tomorrow morning after I get my hair done at 5a.m.
SC

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Originally Posted by Little32

When you come in throwing around language like idolatry, in a thread where neither that language nor those idea have been introduced (suggesting in a way that some here have raised their organization to that level), that's what it seems like.

But, okay, I will take your word for it.

RozRochelle · #9 05-17-2007, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Little32

When you come in throwing around language like idolatry, in a thread where neither that language nor those idea have been introduced (suggesting in a way that some here have raised their organization to that level), that's what it seems like.

I didn't suggest anything. I only gave MY feelings on the subject. I'm sure many people don't raise their orgs to that level, just like I'm sure that many do. But that's not my call to make. However, I can't help it if someone's heart is pricked while/after reading my post. That wasn't my intent, but if it happens and ultimately someone is helped, I won't be angry.

Is there some rule about who can talk about, or introduce, what?

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But, okay, I will take your word for it.

Please do.

Live_Wire17 · #10 05-26-2007, 05:02 PM

My husband told our kids, "you don't have to be greek, but you won't bring anything but Krimson and Kream in here."

His words...not mine. I want my kids to do "them" and hopefully they have seen our work for the cause and lean that way, but you just never know. I do know that My husband and I are very close to our kids (11 yr old girl and 12 yr old boy) and spend a lot of time with them at different functions so they are very familiar with Kappa and Delta.

Only time will tell...hopefully our influence is MAJOR!