Outside The Greek Circle...

[AlethiaSi]

i say... if i pay for my friends, i didn't pay enough... no amount of money would ever cover the love and friendship i have.

[jennie3576]

Originally Posted by AlethiaSi

i say... if i pay for my friends, i didn't pay enough... no amount of money would ever cover the love and friendship i have.

alethia - you stole what i was going to say

i constantly get "you still go up (to my chapter) to do sorority stuff? didn't you get over that?" - um, no - i'm the advisor!!!!

also, i get "you're in a sorority> i never would have thought of you as a sorority girl."

to that i say "thank you!"

[Laak 315]

Most of the people I've encountered who feel as though greeks are "buying friends" are people who are too insecure about themselves to open up to a group of people, be it fraternity brothers or sorority sisters. They feel like they can never be a greek because they won't be accepted. It's sad, but that's how it comes across.

A lot of my friends within my fraternity are in relationships with girls in sororities on campus...namely two sororities. I don't really advocate a fraternity guy going out with a sorority girl. It has nothing to do with them being greek, it's just my view on college relationships in general. However, it seems like the majority of these "greek relationships" work out pretty well because the two people involved seem to "get" each other and understand what each person is about, pertaining to greek life, etc...Greek life being a common ground for a relationship is good in my opinion. I was in a relationship with a sorority girl last year and it didn't work out because she was always partying with another fraternity on campus and I was always partying with my fraternity brothers and other sorority girls at our house...but that's just one isolated incident, so I don't think it would be fair to say that no fraternity guy should ever be involved with a sorority girl or vice versa. You just gotta see what's right for you.

[mystikchick]

i have to be honest, i was once one of "those" people who openly wondered whether my friend had essentially 'bought' her friends by joining DZ, but now that i've got more perspective on the situation, i realize how incredibly wrong i was. yes, she said and did things that deeply hurt me as a friend, but i chalk that up to her immaturity and the rush of finally belonging (in general, not just through her sorority) than to her being in a sorority.

i think what really changed my mind though, was my brother becoming a greek - it's very hard to remain anti-greek when i see how much being a part of a fraternity has done for him. it's pushed him to be really active on campus, to be more confident, to develop his leadership talents, and it's even gotten him great jobs on campus (his chapter advisor is his boss!) it makes it that much harder to hate when people realize that the very traits they're admiring or complimenting you on have been developed and refined through your involvement.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by mystikchick

i have to be honest, i was once one of "those" people who openly wondered whether my friend had essentially 'bought' her friends by joining DZ, but now that i've got more perspective on the situation, i realize how incredibly wrong i was. yes, she said and did things that deeply hurt me as a friend, but i chalk that up to her immaturity and the rush of finally belonging (in general, not just through her sorority) than to her being in a sorority.

i think what really changed my mind though, was my brother becoming a greek - it's very hard to remain anti-greek when i see how much being a part of a fraternity has done for him. it's pushed him to be really active on campus, to be more confident, to develop his leadership talents, and it's even gotten him great jobs on campus (his chapter advisor is his boss!) it makes it that much harder to hate when people realize that the very traits they're admiring or complimenting you on have been developed and refined through your involvement.

Buying Your Friends! That is the oldest thing in the world!

Being a member of a GLO teaches so much more to place you on a plain farther above your so called friends!

Little do they really know!