Bad Alumna Involvement

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sir_fidel_rocks

How do you handle alumnae who are putting their negative $.02 in or who are telling new members the gossip of the chapter?

Well, once the NMs are initiated and become more integrated with the chapter, they're going to find out the gossip, anyway.

Are they trying to get them to stop pledging or what? If it's a personal grudge - i.e. an alum saying "Sandy is a backstabbing ho with no fashion sense" - then that should be stopped. But if they're telling them something that is the truth - i.e. "the reason we don't have mixers w/ XYZ is because they trashed our president's apartment last year" then quite frankly I don't see the harm in NMs knowing that. They shouldn't be sheltered like children.

BTW OTW, I am referring to the Sandy I know IRL, not you.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Well, once the NMs are initiated and become more integrated with the chapter, they're going to find out the gossip, anyway.

Are they trying to get them to stop pledging or what? If it's a personal grudge - i.e. an alum saying "Sandy is a backstabbing ho with no fashion sense" - then that should be stopped. But if they're telling them something that is the truth - i.e. "the reason we don't have mixers w/ XYZ is because they trashed our president's apartment last year" then quite frankly I don't see the harm in NMs knowing that. They shouldn't be sheltered like children.

BTW OTW, I am referring to the Sandy I know IRL, not you.

Hahaha...somehow I had a feeling you weren't talking about me.

Where are these alums gossiping to NMs anyway? At official functions?

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by OTW

Hahaha...somehow I had a feeling you weren't talking about me.

Where are these alums gossiping to NMs anyway? At official functions?

Was going to post, but oh never mind!

[ChildoftheHorn]

I have a friend whose GLO is trying to get rid of their current adviser. She is really nothing but a pain to say the least. They asked if she could change some of her attitudes to be more positive, but no such luck. Right now, they are trying to work above her and get a new adviser.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by ChildoftheHorn

I have a friend whose GLO is trying to get rid of their current adviser. She is really nothing but a pain to say the least. They asked if she could change some of her attitudes to be more positive, but no such luck. Right now, they are trying to work above her and get a new adviser.

Unfortunately, it's not always as easy as just "getting a new advisor". You have to have someone willing to do the job. For us, it's a HUGE job that needs someone with a lot of free time. But yes, a negative attitude should not be allowed.

OP, are there other alums who can deal with the situation? I would suggest using them if possible. Alumnae are involved with a chapter to be supportive and if they aren't being that then they need to just stay away. And that will go over better for the chapter if it comes from another alumnae.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by SmartBlondeGPhB

Unfortunately, it's not always as easy as just "getting a new advisor". You have to have someone willing to do the job. For us, it's a HUGE job that needs someone with a lot of free time. But yes, a negative attitude should not be allowed.

OP, are there other alums who can deal with the situation? I would suggest using them if possible. Alumnae are involved with a chapter to be supportive and if they aren't being that then they need to just stay away. And that will go over better for the chapter if it comes from another alumnae.

Correct, they are Advisors and do not run the Chapter.

They can be fired and then try to find another advisor. It may be hard, but it can be done!

It sounds like a change is needed!

But, the chapter is the deciding factor! The Chapter runs the operation, not so let them know it!

[ChildoftheHorn]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

But, the chapter is the deciding factor! The Chapter runs the operation, not so let them know it!

Unfortunately for these girls, this woman gas the executive power to reject any projects/events/etc. without notice (part of her ability through the sorority). This especially applies to rush, where she gets to approve everything right before - from decorations to plans. So, if you spent time making 500 snowflakes (she knew it was being done beforehand) and then put them up - she could tell you to take them down (and has done things like this).You can see where a negative attitude really gets troublesome.

She may be a regional prez, I have no idea. Personally, I don't want to. Then again, I know more than one org. that is going through this right now. It is sad how this happens...