Chapter V. National/International

[33girl]

Originally Posted by NutBrnHair

I think it's a sensitive subject for some who have been undergraduates (or recent grads) when their chapters were closed.

What the hell is your problem?

Quit post stalking me, and quit acting like I'm not allowed to offer an opinion because my chapter closed. Or maybe it's because I'm not from a good southern sorority.

Anyone who would say, in effect, that they don't care if their chapter closes and that if it does it's 100% because the actives screwed up, has a lot to learn. There are plenty of people on here whose chapters closed who could tell you differently.

I have no problem with saying you feel more attached nationally than locally - there are lots of people who didn't have a great collegiate experience and then reconnect as alums and as national volunteers. I have a HUGE problem with someone who says that the thing that brought her to that point - her local chapter - is as disposable as a Kleenex as far as she's concerned.

[NutBrnHair]

Yikes!

[Sock Puppet2]

Originally Posted by 33girl

... maybe it's because I'm not from a good southern sorority.

That was an ugly thing to say about your sorority.
There's this new drug that might help with your symptoms: Midol

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Sock Puppet2

That was an ugly thing to say about your sorority.

Actually, no, it wasn't.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Actually, no, it wasn't.

Was I the only one who got the sarcasm?

[Sister Havana]

Originally Posted by OTW

Was I the only one who got the sarcasm?

No, you weren't. I got it.

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by Sock Puppet2

That was an ugly thing to say about your sorority.
There's this new drug that might help with your symptoms: Midol

As as much as I want to disagree with you, there seems to be the mentality of some who finally really, it is not about me or us, it is not about the total picture!

To bad so many miss the whole point!

Well, in that case then many are wrong!

They are self centered Persons!

[macallan25]

Originally Posted by Tom Earp

As as much as I want to disagree with you, there seems to be the mentality of some who finally really, it is not about me or us, it is not about the total picture!

To bad so many miss the whole point!

Well, in that case then many are wrong!

They are self centered Persons!

....and I think your train of thought is mostly bullshit. There is nothing wrong with showing a stronger loyalty to the people that you are always around, pledged with, have gone through things with, etc.

To say that a person who feels that way is self centered and missing the point is unfair and simply wrong.

[sueali]

For all you NPHCers, I'm just curious, since you do (the majority) have more of an emphasis on the national/international status or level of the sorority rather than the individual chapter, are you really close with those in your chapter or are they seen as another sister/brother of the international chapter. I guess what I am trying to say is, I hold my chapter sisters in a much higher regard than a sister from another chapter, only because my chapter sisters know me, we've been through alot together and understand my experiences with the sorority.

[12dn94dst]

Emphasis is placed on international involvement THOUGH a chapter, be it collegiate or alumnae.

There are sorors from my line to whom I'm close, on lines after mine to whom I'm close and mentor in Delta, and sorors in my alumnae chapter to whom I'm close. I do not look "down" on any soror because she is not Delta Nu. In any chapter that I'm a member, any soror has the chance to get to know me (and I her) as well as, if not better than in some cases, sorors who pledged Delta Nu. I love all of my sorors not because they came though the same chapter I did, but because they they took the same oath I did. I do tend to expect more of my Delta Nu sorors, but they're no "better" than any other soror.

[jubilance1922]

Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

Emphasis is placed on international involvement THOUGH a chapter, be it collegiate or alumnae.

There are sorors from my line to whom I'm close, on lines after mine to whom I'm close and mentor in Delta, and sorors in my alumnae chapter to whom I'm close. I do not look "down" on any soror because she is not Delta Nu. In any chapter that I'm a member, any soror has the chance to get to know me (and I her) as well as, if not better than in some cases, sorors who pledged Delta Nu. I love all of my sorors not because they came though the same chapter I did, but because they they took the same oath I did. I do tend to expect more of my Delta Nu sorors, but they're no "better" than any other soror.

This is totally off topic, my undergrad chapter is also Delta Nu! Just wanted to share.....

Ok, carry on....

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by 12dn94dst

Emphasis is placed on international involvement THOUGH a chapter, be it collegiate or alumnae.

I love all of my sorors not because they came though the same chapter I did, but because they they took the same oath I did. I do tend to expect more of my Delta Nu sorors, but they're no "better" than any other soror.

Exactly. I cannot say that I have met any NPHCers that value their chapter more. Not that there aren't any out there, I've just never come across them. As 12dn94dst stated, my sorors are all on the same level as far as I'm concerned.. If you are repRhosenting that Rhoyal blue and Gold, you are just as important to me as my chapters sorors.

[ladygreek]

Originally Posted by sueali

For all you NPHCers, I'm just curious, since you do (the majority) have more of an emphasis on the national/international status or level of the sorority rather than the individual chapter, are you really close with those in your chapter or are they seen as another sister/brother of the international chapter. I guess what I am trying to say is, I hold my chapter sisters in a much higher regard than a sister from another chapter, only because my chapter sisters know me, we've been through alot together and understand my experiences with the sorority.

I have been out of my collegiate chapter for 37 years. I have no clue who the members are, nor do I need to. My affiliation now is with my alumnae chapter. That is not to say that my collegiate chapters sorors who were there when I was there don't have reunions at national conventions and regional conferences, but except for two, they really don't know me as well as my alumnae chapter sorors.

And when I go to conventions and conference I always make it a point to introduce myself to the current sorors in my collegiate chapter, but that is about it, except for the occasional milestone anniversary--20 years, 30 years, because I was a charter member of the chapter.

The two I have kept in touch with are members of alumnae chapters in the same region as my chapter, so we see each other all the time at various regional functions, as well as talk on the phone regularly. And one is in my hometown, so I see her whenever I visit.

Plus Delta has rules about going back to your collegiate chapter and "helping them" unless you are a chapter advisor, especially during certain times of the sororal year.

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Or maybe it's because I'm not from a good southern sorority.

No, no, no -- I'm not like that. I'm really more about national reputations.