Boyfriends and Crushes

[James]

This is not a criticism, just a question. But would you be as good a sport if the roles were reversed?

Originally Posted by susan314

I know the date on the thread is old, but I just have to say...

I'm happily married. I adore my husband and am completely loyal to him. He is my best friend and also quite a hottie (in my completely biased opinion ).

That said, I have a huge (innocent) crush on a guy from his softball team. He is just too adorable. (And a police officer too, though I've never had the opportunity to see him in uniform.) My husband knows though - he cracks jokes to me about it. (Ex - when we happened to be driving through his neighborhood to visit family who lives in the same area, my husband pointed and said "hey, there's your boyfriend's house." Or if we're going out with a group of friends, he'll tell me "your boyfriend's going to be there.") Obviously my husband is a very good sport, and we are very secure in our relationship.

Developing an attraction to someone else is normal and isn't necessarily a bad thing. Its what you do (or should I say "don't do") about the attraction that matters.

[AKA_Monet]

I have a crush on a personal trainer at Gold's Gym by my house... Rippling muscles. He's so sexy... But, I am trying to set him up with a friend who I think he'd like.

My husband seems ignore it. I think it makes him a little anxious. But I don't really flirt--that much...

If the roles were reversed, homegirl would have to blow me outta the water. Because I am like a "Maybach" and I would be pissed if he dumped me for a cracky whore is like a Pinto with an anti-theft device in South Central LA.

If he wanted the bootlegged crap, then hey, he can have her...

Old and busted vs. "New Hottness"?

[susan314]

Originally Posted by James

This is not a criticism, just a question. But would you be as good a sport if the roles were reversed?

Believe me - I know all the women he thinks are hot. (Whether celebrity ladies or people we actually know in real life.)

The wife of another couple we are good friends with has a huge crush on my husband. A few of us were going to photoshop a picture for her with my husband's face and some hunky stud's body and give it to her as a gag gift for Christmas one year. But my husband put a stop to that - he's a little too modest to want a half-naked photo of him floating around out there (even if it was photoshopped).

[SLGamma]

is really is impossible to think someone is unattractive when they really are hott... but that doesnt mean you think anything less of your boo. and if you want to talk to him, but you really dont want to cheat, it's bc you want some attention. i mean, 2 1/2 years.. you proabably have only "accepted" attention from your bf, but its a nice ego boost to get it from someone you think is hott. dont sweat it, it could also be your hearing the shackles of marriage.lol.