GPA Question *tricky*

[Miss{BooperDoo}]

Okay, I know I ended this rather badly. All replies after this that include "thought you said..." will be read, no worries Long weekend coupled with not knowing much about the way Greek Chat works has turned what should have been a simple question into something of a cat fight. I never expected everything to be...rainbows and sunshine? Can't remember that one. But I did expect advice on the topic I posted, not about my life. I'm not looking to argue with anyone over something that was posted on the internet. Truth be told, before I got in this paticular thread I posted numerous times about how I wasn't even sure I wanted to go greek. I got really definsive in this, and came across as some what of a...well bitch. (But there was much provocation)
And I feel like I also gave the impression I'm dead set on joining a sorority. Which can't be farther from the truth. It just seemed like something worth finding out more about. I do stand firm on the fact that you should never judge someone, especially someone you know over the internet so quickly, and expect them to take it with a smile and a "wow...your negative opinion of me makes me so happy!"...rainbows and sunshine.... But thats besides the point I'm trying to make. I've never threatened anyone on this site, and don't much care WHAT organization you belong to.

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

But we should probably keep in mind that they're completely anonymous, but that some of us are unofficially representing our orgs.

Not saying there was an insinuation that there would be bad mouthing going on here, but I would like to address the issue. In all likelyhood, I won't even be pledging. I'm not going to college for Greek life, I never said I was, I had just expressed an interest in it, that turned into a heated defense of my interest in it.

To address the issue about USA, though its been the University I have until now planned to attend, recent events (ha, so recent as in this past weekend) have pushed me in another direction...another state even Without being too detailed about my personal life, its just a great (huge) change in plans that wasn't expected and I'm going to be having way to much going on in my life for anything as time consuming as a sorority. I'm not even sure if I'm going to be attending a college/university that HAS a greek system. As I've yet to look into the schools in that area. Just too excited to function I guess lol.

Anyway just wanted to say that I might hang around here for awhile and read through some of the rush stories, because they are fun to read. Granted I could just view them without signing in, but I'm sure I'll comment on something.

Later

[UGAalum94]

I didn't mean that you would try to retaliate in some way. I didn't see any sort of threatening behavior from you. My point was that we ought to think about how we present ourselves because of the impressions that people form as a result. I meant directly from reading what we said, not because anyone was going to repeat the story or intentionally use it

[Miss{BooperDoo}]

You concern is definatly understandable, as in this paticular thread it was more on a person to person level that there were issues, forget the greek end of it. I was having issues with the way someone reacted to my question, and it would often be better if there was a way to blind people to the greek letters in your name so they didnt assume it was a representation of that organization. Hope that makes sense...

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

I was having issues with the way someone reacted to my question, and it would often be better if there was a way to blind people to the greek letters in your name so they didnt assume it was a representation of that organization.

If you have to put so much effort into convincing and reminding yourself that a GCer isn't a representation of his/her organization each time you see a post that's not to YOUR liking, then well, I really feel sorry for you.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

You concern is definatly understandable, as in this paticular thread it was more on a person to person level that there were issues, forget the greek end of it. I was having issues with the way someone reacted to my question, and it would often be better if there was a way to blind people to the greek letters in your name so they didnt assume it was a representation of that organization. Hope that makes sense...

If someone has to be told that one person on a messageboard does not represent thousands of women in an organization, you're not worth they're not worth the time anyway.

And, for what it's worth, there is a "do not include signature" checkbox to take your "letters" off your post for those who choose to include them.

[Miss{BooperDoo}]

I never said that I had any problems not seeing this.

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
But we should probably keep in mind that they're completely anonymous, but that some of us are unofficially representing our orgs.

I wanted to clear up that I was not forming an opinion on an organization just because of one persons comments.

[quote=Miss{BooperDoo};1426326] I've never threatened anyone on this site, and don't much care WHAT organization you belong to.Not saying there was an insinuation that there would be bad mouthing going on here, but I would like to address the issue

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

I didn't mean that you would try to retaliate in some way. I didn't see any sort of threatening behavior from you. My point was that we ought to think about how we present ourselves because of the impressions that people form as a result. I meant directly from reading what we said, not because anyone was going to repeat the story or intentionally use it

Alphagamuga, correct me if I'm wrong but you were acknowledging that I personally had no intention of bad mouthing someone's greek affiliation because of that person, you were addressing that people who come and read this thread might form opinions of someone based on what they typed and tied that opinion with the letters in their name and formed a sterotype for all the people in that organization because of one measly comment in a forum.

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

You concern is definatly understandable, as in this paticular thread it was more on a person to person level that there were issues, forget the greek end of it. I was having issues with the way someone reacted to my question, and it would often be better if there was a way to blind people to the greek letters in your name so they didnt assume it was a representation of that organization. Hope that makes sense...

Ok this is me saying, yes I get what your saying. I had a problem with THE PERSON who posted those things, not whatever orgaization they were affiliated with. I never once said anything about "you greeks" or "you XYZ's" Did I? I simply said wouldn't it be nice for those who have that simplemindedness to form instant opinions on a whole group of people based on one persons comments, to not be able to see the greek letters in someones name, so there wouldn't be that confusion.

Originally Posted by OTW

If you have to put so much effort into convincing and reminding yourself that a GCer isn't a representation of his/her organization each time you see a post that's not to YOUR liking, then well, I really feel sorry for you.

Not sure where you formed this from. Please explain as I would like to understand.

[Tom Earp]

[QUOTE=Miss{BooperDoo};1426747]I never said that I had any problems not seeing this.

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga
But we should probably keep in mind that they're completely anonymous, but that some of us are unofficially representing our orgs.

I wanted to clear up that I was not forming an opinion on an organization just because of one persons comments.

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

I've never threatened anyone on this site, and don't much care WHAT organization you belong to.Not saying there was an insinuation that there would be bad mouthing going on here, but I would like to address the issue

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

Alphagamuga, correct me if I'm wrong but you were acknowledging that I personally had no intention of bad mouthing someone's greek affiliation because of that person, you were addressing that people who come and read this thread might form opinions of someone based on what they typed and tied that opinion with the letters in their name and formed a sterotype for all the people in that organization because of one measly comment in a forum.



Ok this is me saying, yes I get what your saying. I had a problem with THE PERSON who posted those things, not whatever orgaization they were affiliated with. I never once said anything about "you greeks" or "you XYZ's" Did I? I simply said wouldn't it be nice for those who have that simplemindedness to form instant opinions on a whole group of people based on one persons comments, to not be able to see the greek letters in someones name, so there wouldn't be that confusion.



Not sure where you formed this from. Please explain as I would like to understand.

You may never uderstand the way some people peple on this site post or what they say!

Gets vicuious does it not?

You can tell whom are good or bad.

Not everyone is like this, just a few and those who feel they have to jump on the band wagon!

[UGAalum94]

Originally Posted by Miss{BooperDoo}

Alphagamuga, correct me if I'm wrong but you were acknowledging that I personally had no intention of bad mouthing someone's greek affiliation because of that person, you were addressing that people who come and read this thread might form opinions of someone based on what they typed and tied that opinion with the letters in their name and formed a sterotype for all the people in that organization because of one measly comment in a forum.

Yep, I think we understand each other. Other people don't agree, and that's okay. Many people do just as you recommended, but I foolishly chose a user name when I registered that provided more info. than in retrospect was really wise or necessary, not that there have been any problems that I know of. If I had it to do all over again, I think I would have made my campus and group affiliation less obvious.

I agree with some others that it's foolish to stereotype a group based on one person's actions or ideas, especially one on an anonymous message board, but I also know that how I regard groups is at least somewhat based on the people who I know in the group and how they act. Why chance the impression you're making of you and your group, over someone's reaction to the advice you gave? People will find out soon enough whether you know of what you speak. That's all I meant originally.

Just a heads up: I suspect that this might get ugly/uglier because Tom has joined the thread. I'm not trying to make you shut up, but I'd just let it go, unless you just want dramatic and hostile back and forth over not much.

[Miss{BooperDoo}]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Yep, I think we understand each other. Other people don't agree, and that's okay. Many people do just as you recommended, but I foolishly chose a user name when I registered that provided more info. than in retrospect was really wise or necessary, not that there have been any problems that I know of. If I had it to do all over again, I think I would have made my campus and group affiliation less obvious.

I agree with some others that it's foolish to stereotype a group based on one person's actions or ideas, especially one on an anonymous message board, but I also know that how I regard groups is at least somewhat based on the people who I know in the group and how they act. Why chance the impression you're making of you and your group, over someone's reaction to the advice you gave? People will find out soon enough whether you know of what you speak. That's all I meant originally.

Just a heads up: I suspect that this might get ugly/uglier because Tom has joined the thread. I'm not trying to make you shut up, but I'd just let it go, unless you just want dramatic and hostile back and forth over not much.

Hostile towards me or other GC-ers...I don't really understand what he posted, the sentences don't make sense. But I've seen enough signatures that include his name to know that I don't want any part in the battle between him and others. Theres already enough drama/hostility over nothing in this thread.