What is clingy?

[KSUViolet06]

*Clingy is being unable to go anywhere or do anything without your significant other.

"Hey Suzy, do you wanna go *insert girly activity here*?"
"Oh that sounds like fun, can Bob come?"

That's a clinger.

*Now there is nothing wrong with supporting your significant other's interests by doing things that he likes to do sometimes. When your boyfriend's interests become your own, you're a clinger.

For example, Suzy used to really like jogging, scrapbooking, and snowboarding. Once she started dating her new boyifriend Bob, she stopped doing all the things she liked to do and started only doing what he liked to do. Her new hobbies now include wearing jean shorts, black t shirts with metal bands on them, watching WWF 5 nights a week and ordering pro wresting events on Pay Per View. Sad.

[James]

I call it, "The Pretzel Effect."

Just an observation that a lot of girls will bend themselves and their interests to meet their idea of what their BF wants . . . in the beginning anyway.

Major problems later when she starts to unbend.

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

*Clingy is being unable to go anywhere or do anything without your significant other.

"Hey Suzy, do you wanna go *insert girly activity here*?"
"Oh that sounds like fun, can Bob come?"

That's a clinger.

*Now there is nothing wrong with supporting your significant other's interests by doing things that he likes to do sometimes. When your boyfriend's interests become your own, you're a clinger.

For example, Suzy used to really like jogging, scrapbooking, and snowboarding. Once she started dating her new boyifriend Bob, she stopped doing all the things she liked to do and started only doing what he liked to do. Her new hobbies now include wearing jean shorts, black t shirts with metal bands on them, watching WWF 5 nights a week and ordering pro wresting events on Pay Per View. Sad.

[SoCalGirl]

I used to work with a woman who would call her man, now husband, when she got to work, when she went to lunch, when she was done with lunch, and when she was leaving work. He would get pissed if she didn't check in at least those four times. He always had to know where she was at any given time. She could not leave work to go out to eat because he wouldn't like that idea! I never could figure out what made me more upset. The fact that he demanded that kind of behavior or the fact that she thought it was just fine. I'd rather stay single than deal with that crap.

[AGDee]

^^^^ That is a controlling man and her life will end up miserable.

Clingy: I've been on 3 dates with this man. I ignore my cell phone around 7:30 pm because I'm at my kids' softball games which are running back to back.. 5:30 to 9:00 pm, essentially. We get home from softball and there are two messages on the home phone and one on the cell. I get the kids showered and put to bed, tidy up the house a little, read the mail, settle in to read my email and it's now 10:45 pm, too late to return a phone call. BUT, the phone rings and it is the guy's sister, who lives in Florida, who I have not met (because I've only been on 3 dates with this guy) and she wants to know if I've dumped him because I didn't return his phone call. So yeah, I didn't return a phone call within 3 hours and I'm getting a call from his sister who lives hundreds of miles away???? No, I hadn't dumped him, but after that incident, you bet I did. PSYCHO

[SoCalGirl]

Who's more crazy? The guy or the sister?

[JonInKC]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

[COLOR="Magentawearing jean shorts, black t shirts with metal bands on them, watching WWF 5 nights a week and ordering pro wresting events on Pay Per View. Sad. [/COLOR]

Stop making fun of me!

*cries*

[WVU alpha phi]

My freshman year I dated a guy who went to school in South Carolina. We broke up the beginning of second semester because I had told him over Christmas break if he didn't stop being so clingy, it was over. I got to put up with calls before and after EVERY SINGLE class, mine and his. He also drove 8 hours to beg me to take him back when I broke up with him one time. He also used to call me when I was at the bars just to make sure I wasn't "doing anything" (we dated 9 months and I never cheated on him) and wanted to know what I was wearing out. Then there was the fun part where I'd show him pictures (and I took A LOT because I was pledging and meeting a ton of new people) and he would bash the guys in them, all of which were friends of mine. Another favorite thing of his would be to call me about every hour when my parents were visiting for the weekend, so much to the point that my mom even commented on the excessive calls.


Oh, and let's not forget that when I broke up with him, he called my mom at home (while I was away at school!) to cry about it. He was 20 years old.