Jack & Jill

[AKA_Monet]

I interpreted Black_princess' comments as one who was not born with a "silver spoon" could break into the some of these groups, not if one was fortunate to be pass the "paper bag test".

Yes, these groups are about elitism. It is all about who you know. It is all about who you married or simply how far you can passe blanc.

I was born into it. Yes, I am saditiy and what of it? But the Links blackballed my mother because they felt she did not contribute anything to the community, albeit my folks had just moved to SoCal and my father was establishing himself and his business. This ~30 years ago. And because we lived in a "new construction" area in 1975 and because my grandfather was very high up the elitist change it still did not remove the fact that the Links straightjacketed my mother...

Then she proved to be somebody, about something and make somethangs happen and they have since asked her to join dozens of time. She plainly say absolutely not.

Moreover, I HATED JNJ in my city. I can count on one hand how many in JNJ's in my teen group succeeded in life--meaning becoming taxpayers and NOT in jail... Because several of them had out-of-wedlock children, in jail, addicted to drugs.

On the West Coast, we are lucky to even discuss things like never have gone to prison, much less folks think about college. We all have to be mindful of that.