Would you get seriously involved with a guy/girl if he/she......

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by valkyrie

She wouldn't know enough to judge the technique, but I find it VERY hard to believe that a woman wouldn't know that the sex was bad. I also find it hard to believe that even if she wasn't sure it was bad, she'd slowly begin to suspect as much, and by the time her sex drive really takes off in her 30s, she'd be frustrated and ready to kick it with the next reasonably attractive guy who pays the slightest bit of attention to her.

OMG....gasp.....JAMES IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!! lol, except for the cheese spread EEEEWWWW! j/k

Lol, I do think about that sometimes (mainly because people like you keep asking me ). Honestly, I doubt I'll know it's bad unless it hurts like hell (after the 3rd or 4th time). That's one of the pluses of waiting...we could be having really lousy sex, but if I can't compare it with anything, how should I know? I think of it like this: When I was 8, my mom gave me 10 bucks and I was practically HIGH with excitement. I'd never had so much and absolutely lost my mind with how good I had it. Now, some 13-ish years later, I can go through $1000 like it's nothing. What I wouldn't give to be THAT excited over $10 without being practically starving with $3 in my account and nothing but a stick of butter in the fridge.

Besides, 1. I figure if I don't marry my husband for sex, I won't stray from him for sex and I certainly wouldn't leave him for sex. 2. I can probably keep it interesting enough that it won't be bad for long. I have the sneaking suspicion that after all the time I'm waiting, I'm gonna be a freak.

/end hijack

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

OMG....gasp.....JAMES IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!!

Lol, I do think about that sometimes (mainly because people like you keep asking me ). Honestly, I doubt I'll know it's bad unless it hurts like hell (after the 3rd or 4th time). That's one of the pluses of waiting...we could be having really lousy sex, but if I can't compare it with anything, how should I know? I think of it like this: When I was 8, my mom gave me 10 bucks and I was practically HIGH with excitement. I'd never had so much and absolutely lost my mind with how good I had it. Now, some 13-ish years later, I can go through $1000 like it's nothing. What I wouldn't give to be THAT excited over $10 without being practically starving with $3 in my account and nothing but a stick of butter in the fridge.

Besides, I can probably keep it interesting enough that it won't ever be too bad. I have the sneaking suspicion that after all the time I'm waiting, I'm gonna be a freak.

You will know it is bad. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise. Trust the "experienced" people on this.

[jwright25]

Originally Posted by GeekyPenguin

You will know it is bad. You are kidding yourself if you think otherwise. Trust the "experienced" people on this.

Exactly. Plus - you can see "good" sex on any sitcom nowadays. You can watch TV and see a couple all hot, sweaty, tired, and satisfied and then think to yourself, "Hm. All I do is lay there and never feel the need to be tired or satisfied."

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Vitamin V

Hahahahahahahahahaha! I will use this term from now on.

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

Honestly, I doubt I'll know it's bad unless it hurts like hell (after the 3rd or 4th time). That's one of the pluses of waiting...we could be having really lousy sex, but if I can't compare it with anything, how should I know?

I'm not trying to pick on you, but this is disturbing. You're saying that ignorance is a good thing in this situation? Is it a good thing in other situations?

Here's what I really think -- the attitude you have might be admirable in some circles (devout Christians) but you're selling yourself short. There's NO REASON to spend your life with some one-minute man who couldn't satisfy a woman to save his life. I'm not saying you should go out and hit it with the next dude on the street, but isn't it possible that the whole save-yourself-for-marriage thing was established a LONG ass time ago, when people got married at the age of 12, had 19 kids, and died before 40? Maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

[christiangirl]

I moved my answer to my own thread because I don't wanna take CG's thread from her....it's not supposed to be about me!!

[James]

I'm having a lot of trouble telling you two apart. . .

Originally Posted by christiangirl

I moved my answer to my own thread because I don't wanna take CG's thread from her....it's not supposed to be about me!!

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by James

I'm having a lot of trouble telling you two apart. . .

Many seem to be....I'm used to being the only CG around, so it's kind of weird. But I still don't get why people refer to us as "the two virgins" when she's already said she's not one .

[Dionysus]

cheerfulgreek is white.
christiangirl is black.



And, that's the only difference.

[christiangirl]

Originally Posted by Dionysus

cheerfulgreek is white.
christiangirl is black.



And, that's the only difference.

Not the only one! But good point, I hadn't thought about that.

[ziasha07]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

OMG....gasp.....JAMES IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!! lol, except for the cheese spread EEEEWWWW! j/k

Lol, I do think about that sometimes (mainly because people like you keep asking me ). Honestly, I doubt I'll know it's bad unless it hurts like hell (after the 3rd or 4th time). That's one of the pluses of waiting...we could be having really lousy sex, but if I can't compare it with anything, how should I know? I think of it like this: When I was 8, my mom gave me 10 bucks and I was practically HIGH with excitement. I'd never had so much and absolutely lost my mind with how good I had it. Now, some 13-ish years later, I can go through $1000 like it's nothing. What I wouldn't give to be THAT excited over $10 without being practically starving with $3 in my account and nothing but a stick of butter in the fridge.

Besides, 1. I figure if I don't marry my husband for sex, I won't stray from him for sex and I certainly wouldn't leave him for sex. 2. I can probably keep it interesting enough that it won't be bad for long. I have the sneaking suspicion that after all the time I'm waiting, I'm gonna be a freak.

/end hijack

Yeah I'm definetly getting the feeling that I'm gonna be a little bit more than freaky once it actually happens... Like hooked freaky.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by christiangirl

OMG....gasp.....JAMES IS RIGHT!!!!!!!!! lol, except for the cheese spread EEEEWWWW! j/k

Lol, I do think about that sometimes (mainly because people like you keep asking me ). Honestly, I doubt I'll know it's bad unless it hurts like hell (after the 3rd or 4th time). That's one of the pluses of waiting...we could be having really lousy sex, but if I can't compare it with anything, how should I know? I think of it like this: When I was 8, my mom gave me 10 bucks and I was practically HIGH with excitement. I'd never had so much and absolutely lost my mind with how good I had it. Now, some 13-ish years later, I can go through $1000 like it's nothing. What I wouldn't give to be THAT excited over $10 without being practically starving with $3 in my account and nothing but a stick of butter in the fridge.

Besides, 1. I figure if I don't marry my husband for sex, I won't stray from him for sex and I certainly wouldn't leave him for sex. 2. I can probably keep it interesting enough that it won't be bad for long. I have the sneaking suspicion that after all the time I'm waiting, I'm gonna be a freak.

/end hijack

I used to be a strong christian...before I lost my faith and became a giant asshole...anywho I also used to believe the same thing. If I had nothing to compare to, the sex would be amazing to me.
The reality is sorely disappointing. You won't know what you're doing in bed, if he's a virgin, he won't know, most likely you'll be really shy about your sexuality and after repressing it for so long, who knows if you'll ever be able to truly open up?
I'm not saying run out, sleep around like a $10 hooker, but...IDK...maybe wait until you're engaged?
Sex is not that great unless someone knows what the hell they're doing in bed. Anyone here will tell you that.

[ziasha07]

Centaur532 ~ I plan on marrying a somewhat experienced man. Not to endorse a double standard or anything but I'd feel quite dumb on my wedding night. And it would make us stronger, if he wanted to wait and be faithful to me for that long.

[AlexMack]

Originally Posted by ziasha07

Centaur532 ~ I plan on marrying a somewhat experienced man. Not to endorse a double standard or anything but I'd feel quite dumb on my wedding night. And it would make us stronger, if he wanted to wait and be faithful to me for that long.

I will say it does make a difference. I'm all about integrity, standing by your beliefs, but sex is fun. It's supposed to be fun. The most important part is finding someone who you're completely comfortable with in an intimate setting, someone who won't make you feel dumb.

EDIT: ^^^if you say so...remember who's been laid here and who hasn't...

[ziasha07]

I think you misread. What I'm saying is, if we are both inexperienced I'd feel dumb. I will stand by MY beleifs but I can't force "him" to beleive in waiting. By the time I meet him if he has lost it already, he can't take it back and I have to know that now before I meet someone. At any rate, I think I'd feel more comfortable with him knowing things about sex versus someone who doesn't know anything.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by ziasha07

I will stand by MY beleifs but I can't force "him" to beleive in waiting.

Which is exactly why the "how many" question is dumb to ask a man or a woman.

Keep standing for YOUR beliefs and living YOUR life.

The only things you should care about regarding a man's past are: 1) if he's been regularly tested for ALL STDS and can prove that he's negative, 2) does he have children, legititimate or illegitimate, and 3) does he have remnants of his past (former lovers, a desire to be a playa, etc.) haunting him still.