I Don't Date Outside of My Race...

[Conskeeted7]

Originally Posted by troy86

i'am black man and i don't date black woman,it's not that i don't like black woman is just that im just in to white woman,i would love to have kids one day and if i had a child by a white woman my child will come out with soft hair and not nappy hair.

Is your hair nappy? Do you somehow feel inferior because of that? What about your mom or sisters? Do any of them have nappy hair? Would you consider them unattractive because of that?

It's ok to sincerely be attracted to a certain type of person. I'm just concerned about your self-hate statement as a reason for this attraction. I hope that you learn to accept the fact that your hair and that of your future children may be nappy, but you can still be beautiful.

[troy86]

Originally Posted by Conskeeted7

Is your hair nappy? Do you somehow feel inferior because of that? What about your mom or sisters? Do any of them have nappy hair? Would you consider them unattractive because of that?

It's ok to sincerely be attracted to a certain type of person. I'm just concerned about your self-hate statement as a reason for this attraction. I hope that you learn to accept the fact that your hair and that of your future children may be nappy, but you can still be beautiful.

im one if those brothas that would leave he's black girl for a white girl and have her baby.i don't want no big lip nappy head kids.i like to date outside my race,yes i have nappy hair and i wouldn't wish this on my child because what i had to go throgh with my hair is karzy.i feel like me being with a white woman my child would have it easier when it comes on to hair u know what im sayin? it's hard to take care of negro hair and if you are black like me than u would understand where im comin from.


p.s. what black man wouldn't leave their black girl for a white girl and knock her up huh?

Yes I am black like you, but no I don't understand where you're coming from. Although I have never done so, I don't see a problem with dating outside your race. Everybody has their preference. However, for someone to make a statement about have a big lip baby is just ridiculous. A lot of white women are going to extremes trying to get the big lips you so hate. For you to make the comments about lips and hair, you must not have an understanding of genetics. I would suggest you do a little research about the subject before making such comments. It doesn't matter what your child looks like, chances are they will be teased at some point. Even if they have straight and silky hair, they will be too fat or too skinny, too dark or too light, too tall or too short, too proper or too country etc. There will always be something. That's when you, as a parent, step in and let them know that they are beautiful just the way they are. Interracial kids go through just as much as other kids if not more. Marinate on that!

[black_princess]

Originally Posted by troy86

im one if those brothas that would leave he's black girl for a white girl and have her baby.i don't want no big lip nappy head kids.i like to date outside my race,yes i have nappy hair and i wouldn't wish this on my child because what i had to go throgh with my hair is karzy.i feel like me being with a white woman my child would have it easier when it comes on to hair u know what im sayin? it's hard to take care of negro hair and if you are black like me than u would understand where im comin from.


p.s. what black man wouldn't leave their black girl for a white girl and knock her up huh?

Yes, I know folks may feel this way, but something about this post seems fake to me. You know how sometimes you ladies mentions "Trolls" or folks that come on here just to throw lobs of hate . . I can help but feel that this person is just attempting enter here and say inflamatory statements just to get a rise out of a forum of black women . . . . I'm just not buying it

Excuse me if this is a real post from the heart. if this is the case, these issues go way past hair. If it were just about hair then a perm, straightener, texturizer,or even a hot comb would be clear solutions. You just told on your self by mentionng big black lips as another issue you have

[ChanelLover]

Originally Posted by black_princess

Yes, I know folks may feel this way, but something about this post seems fake to me. You know how sometimes you ladies mentions "Trolls" or folks that come on here just to throw lobs of hate . . I can help but feel that this person is just attempting enter here and say inflamatory statements just to get a rise out of a forum of black women . . . . I'm just not buying it

Excuse me if this is a real post from the heart. if this is the case, these issues go way past hair. If it were just about hair then a perm, straightener, texturizer,or even a hot comb would be clear solutions. You just told on your self by mentionng big black lips as another issue you
have

I was thinking that myself, something just didnt sound right. If it is real, then obviously this person has some issues of self-hate that needs to be dealt with accordingly. When people say things like this I always wonder how they feel about their mother and/ or sisters/

[lilbay77]

Originally Posted by black_princess

Yes, I know folks may feel this way, but something about this post seems fake to me. You know how sometimes you ladies mentions "Trolls" or folks that come on here just to throw lobs of hate . . I can help but feel that this person is just attempting enter here and say inflamatory statements just to get a rise out of a forum of black women . . . . I'm just not buying it

We are >>>>>>Here<<<<<<.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by troy86

im one if those brothas that would leave he's black girl for a white girl and have her baby.i don't want no big lip nappy head kids.i like to date outside my race,yes i have nappy hair and i wouldn't wish this on my child because what i had to go throgh with my hair is karzy.i feel like me being with a white woman my child would have it easier when it comes on to hair u know what im sayin? it's hard to take care of negro hair and if you are black like me than u would understand where im comin from.


p.s. what black man wouldn't leave their black girl for a white girl and knock her up huh?

Well....I am not trying to offend your family, but do all of the people in your family have big lips and nappy hair?
If I had big lips then great, but I don't and I am fine with that. So does that put me in a different black girl category?? Did your hair put you through that much trauma for it to be 'karzy' (as you said)?

I know plenty of black men who would not leave their woman just to make a baby....if you want to speak with one you can ask my dad, grandfather, uncle or my boyfriend.

Oh well if you respond or not...doesn't matter ....carry on everyone else!

[mulattogyrl]

Originally Posted by troy86

i feel like me being with a white woman my child would have it easier when it comes on to hair u know what im sayin?

Your posts are ridiculous but anyway somebody lied to you because mixed hair is NOT easy to do

[PhrozenGenius]

While I (like my role model Michael Eric Dyson) LOVE BLACK WOMEN TO NO END, I am not necessarily limiting myself to simply black women. WhileI have only dated outside my race once, I must admit that I can be attracted to a variety of mental/physical attributes and ethnicities.

What I'M MOST CONCERNED ABOUT are whether or not she will be a good mother, a good helpmate, and whether or not she is caring and understanding enough to support my ambitions and chase her own.

Plus she gotta have pretty feet and good credit too...

[BellaSF]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGenius

Plus she gotta have pretty feet and good credit too...

Good credit is important!

[AKA_Monet]

Hey, if you search my posts prior to August, 2003 you will find I said all kinna thangs before I was married.

But after being married nearly 4 years, which has been tough, I found that if I had invested my time in being AKA_Monet more than runnin' up under men, then I'd be in an enriched marriage than trying to go thru stuh right now.

Simple stuh, like toilet seat up or down--or flushin' for that matter... Or a symphony poots whenever I'm around... Chit like dat.

Hey, dating is supposed to be for fun. Courting is more for marriage. We had this discussion.

Mr. Troy86, if that's your age, you could be my child... And since you said some ignant crap like this and posted in the Alpha Kappa Alpha Ave, I, like your Mama, am going to have to correct you...

You ain't said NUTHIN' about dating before you said CHILDREN. I am not ready to be anybody's grandma! So, keep you little ding-a-ling in your pants. You are an HIV/AIDS case waiting to happen! Do you want baby's mama drama at 21 years old? You have your entire life ahead of you and all you wanna do be OJ'ed (notice how he's in the news again) and have some white man blow your brains for "raping" his daughter? Are you nutz? You wanna be Bubba's boyfriend in prison? And even if homegirl chases up under you, you think it's perfectly fine to NOT marry her after you knocked her up? Well, it's your death warrant. And like a mother, I have to say I love you and it's your life. Besides, you might be the only somebody that your mama loves... So, you need are reality check. Do you choose to be under someone's Glock on the pavement hogtied? Or do you wanna be shakin' the man's hand when you get your bacalaureate diploma or after your first job interview?

Ultimately, you have choices in your life. What you do with them is upto you.

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Dr. AKA_Monet
Chief of GC Hospital

So, Soror Doc Monet.....When you retire I want a promotion an chit like dat! Sorry I am watching GA...and the chief w/ his retirement...ya know

[Conskeeted7]

Originally Posted by PhrozenGenius

Plus she gotta have pretty feet and good credit too...

I know this isn't the subject of the thread, but would you really let an otherwise qualified lady go because of her credit? How early in the dating stages do you inquire about credit? Just wondering...

[starang21]

Originally Posted by Conskeeted7

I know this isn't the subject of the thread, but would you really let an otherwise qualified lady go because of her credit? How early in the dating stages do you inquire about credit? Just wondering...

LOL, how does that come into conversation? but yea, she should have pretty tight credit.

[Conskeeted7]

Originally Posted by starang21

LOL, how does that come into conversation? but yea, she should have pretty tight credit.

I'm just wondering how you would bring it up. I mean is it "I'm really feeling your style, but there's just one thing I have to know...do you have at least a 740 Fico score"? LOL