Lavaliering and Pinning Questions

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

Originally Posted by TSteven

I understand how/where someone can get a lavaliere now in this day and age. However, back in the late 1970s there wasn't the internet or the proliferation of 800 phone number centers, about the only place to get anything like this would be at the local college bookstore's Greek Life department. (Which, for you kids, is an actual physical place.) And if the bookstore didn't carry it - and few if any carried necklaces with fraternity letters at the time - you might be able to order it through them. And then get it six to eight weeks later. This is why the whole necklaces with fraternity letters (or charms what have you) was not something done as a spur of the moment thing. And perhaps why the giving of a lavaliere was often skipped and the guy went right to pinning. He didn't need to wait six to eight weeks because he already had his badge.

And perhaps it is (was) a Southern thing. A gentleman just did not give a lady jewelery unless they were in a serious relationship.

A lavalier is supposed to be for a guy in a serious relationship with a girl. And you still have to wait 4-6 weeks. At least that's what he told me...it's not supposed to be a spur of the moment thing, but it's also not as serious as pinning because it doesn't necessarily imply you're about to get engaged any time soon...that and I mean if it were me I'd be way reluctant to give my badge to someone else.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl

A lavalier is supposed to be for a guy in a serious relationship with a girl. And you still have to wait 4-6 weeks. At least that's what he told me...it's not supposed to be a spur of the moment thing, but it's also not as serious as pinning because it doesn't necessarily imply you're about to get engaged any time soon...

I believe we are on the same page here.

I mean if it were me I'd be way reluctant to give my badge to someone else.

Exactly. Basically, the only time to do so (pin) would be prior to their formal engagement.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

there were lots of lavalierings, pinnings and engagements and the fraternity brothers would come over and serenade the girl for a pinning or engagement. the boy would then be hauled up the street to westcott fountain and thrown in.

Sounds like UK. But instead of being thrown in a fountain, the guy would be "treed".