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Old 02-15-2007, 11:17 PM
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Tough call here.

Going to college and being independent was the most awesome feeling in my life. That is until I pledged my fraternity. I still care deeply for it, but back then it was perhaps the most important thing to me as a pledge and new active.

With age, even during college, it took its proper place in my life- but I expect for most of us, the pledge period and a bit beyond was a time when fraternity had a value and importance that will rarely happen again in a person's lifetime.

So I do not see it as a matter of why this young man did not resist peer pressure or receive better parenting. If he was drinking in a bar with friends and died- sure, I could buy that.

But this was something different. The purpose of a pledge period and any hazing- and by hazing I do not mean the legal definition which includes criminal activity but also the more common acts which are not strictly illegal but still beyond voluntary- is the same as it in in any ritual in life.

When you start a new job, you get hazed. When I started in public accounting, I got "hazed" a bit. And I passed it on good too. I had an intern call a senior manager at home at 11 PM to get a box of tickmarks Fed-Exed over the next day (a tickmark, for you non-accountants, is just a symbol written next to a number to indicate it was traced to another document, verified etc. There is no such thing as a box of tickmarks.)

The hazing process in all walks of life is, I think, a simple human reaction. It is having a bit of fun, but at the same time encouraging the trust of a newcomer. You have some fun with them, and in the process that person becomes part of the group. It is a basic element of human interaction.

However, the great responsibility lies with the group to ensure that the newcomer is not killed or seriously injured. This is supposed to be fun and games with a real goal.

Assuming the news reports are accurate, this was well beyond what I would consider acceptable.

And while that young man may have been an "adult", it is kind of hard to expect him to act like an adult when he was surrounded by a LOT of other people of similar age who were not acting in any way like adults.

I absolutely deplore hazing incidents involving forced alcohol intake. There is no excuse for it- ever. And in all my experience and observation with hazing incidents, alleged rapes at parties, deaths and other serious accidents- alcohol is the overwhelming common thread in many cases.

Young men and women drinking to excess voluntarily is a fact of life 50 years ago, now and forever- both in and out of fraternities.

But forced drinking is another thing entirely. And while this lawsuit may seem a bit extreme and illogical to some, how logical is it for a young man to be isolated and pushed/forced to drink (we will never know the answer to that) and then left to die when he was obviously in trouble?

While the men charged probably did not fully think out their actions in advance- "not thinking" has never been a valid defense in court for anything to my knowledge.

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Old 02-16-2007, 06:49 PM
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When you start a new job, you get hazed.
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The hazing process in all walks of life is, I think, a simple human reaction. It is having a bit of fun, but at the same time encouraging the trust of a newcomer. You have some fun with them, and in the process that person becomes part of the group. It is a basic element of human interaction.
Wait, what?! I've never been hazed at a job (or anywhere else for that matter). I'm sure it happens, but definitely not everywhere.

Maybe hazing is a basic element of human interaction in some circles -- but not in others. Personally, I think that anything to do with hazing (doing the hazing or being hazed) is a huge sign of weakness and incredibly pathetic -- it's outside my reality sphere, just like it's inside yours.
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Old 02-16-2007, 08:03 PM
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When you started a new job, did anyone ever play a little joke on you? That would be a form of hazing.

For example, an irate customer calls in and someone forwards it to you on your first day. Or someone hides something of yours and later gives it back.

Granted it does not exist everywhere- all depends on the environment. I have worked at places where I would not even consider kidding around with anyone, and some places we loved to play jokes on each other. A lot of what deemed acceptable depends on the environment and I think people's own behavior will change to adapt (or they will find another environment where they are more comfortable.)

Or when you are the new kid in school and you get picked on- and whether you are later accepted is due in part to how you react to that. Do you shrug it off and go with it, or do you run to teacher and tattle.

Hazing is a part of life. The word hazing has come to be associated with more extreme forms- and the word is most commonly used in association with unacceptable forms or after a tragedy has happened. But that is not its true meaning.

I make that point just because I think it affects any discussion had on this particular board on the forum.

It matters because it explains why some kids can get drunk, and with impaired judgement do something like this. Some people who haze hard may get some sadistic or erotic pleasure out of it, but for the vast majority of people this is simply a natural human behavior.

Alcohol combined with an environment in which more dangerous hazing practices are a norm within that group is where you run into trouble I think.

And that is what I think happened here- and what I think happens in many cases.

Whether the lawsuit is the right move is hard to say- but only because it is so unimaginable that this whole thing happened.

When I was in college, a lot of us pushed our limits- but whether you were a pledge or a brother, there were always people in the room keeping watch and trying to keep things getting out of hand. They would be drunk too sometimes of course, and so that intervention was not what it should have been.

But I was never witness in my Greek life to anything that involved forced alcohol consumption or even anything that could be construed as such. I really mean that. It is hard to know in a he-said, she-said kind of situation, but in this case if the allegations prove true that guys were drinking while blindfolded and/or in a very isolated setting, it is going to be very hard to convince a reasonable person it was voluntary. The first question is, if this was not so bad- why did it have to take place well out of sight of the rest of the world? If the chapter was afraid to do whatever they were doing in the house behind closed doors, just how can they say these charges are not worth exploring in trial?

Camping out and partying is fun- been there done that. But all the allegations in this case point to something far beyond a situation where people had the voluntary ability to do themselves an injury.

I am a lot more open-minded about "hazing" than many on this forum, but forced drinking is one place where I draw a very hard line. In the long run, the kind of environment that permits that is headed for disaster.

And not just for the victim. What about the guys charged? I am willing to bet they meant no real harm- but even if no charges were filed they have to live with this for the rest of their lives. And so do their fraternity brothers who will wonder "what could I have done to stop this?"

Laws and IHQ regulations are somewhat vague for good reason in my opinion. But there are very clear boundaries beyond which nobody wins or has any real reason to cross the line, and this incident crossed a big one.

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Old 02-16-2007, 08:39 PM
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But I was never witness in my Greek life to anything that involved forced alcohol consumption or even anything that could be construed as such. I really mean that. It is hard to know in a he-said, she-said kind of situation, but in this case if the allegations prove true that guys were drinking while blindfolded and/or in a very isolated setting, it is going to be very hard to convince a reasonable person it was voluntary.

I am a lot more open-minded about "hazing" than many on this forum, but forced drinking is one place where I draw a very hard line. In the long run, the kind of environment that permits that is headed for disaster.

And not just for the victim. What about the guys charged? I am willing to bet they meant no real harm- but even if no charges were filed they have to live with this for the rest of their lives. And so do their fraternity brothers who will wonder "what could I have done to stop this?"
I realize that this may reflect a deep flaw in my thinking, but some of what you are saying is why I think that it might not have gone down exactly as described. The fact that nobody else died also works against the idea that all new members were forced to drink.

I can see the setting out in the wood as some kind of bonding thing, weird as it might be; I can even think of the blindfolds as a test of trust or some junk like that, but I can't really wrap my head around the idea that you could force a bunch of guys to drink that much and only one guy would get hurt.

It also blows my mind that anyone could come of age today and not know that drinking too much can kill you.
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Old 02-17-2007, 01:21 PM
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I realize that this may reflect a deep flaw in my thinking, but some of what you are saying is why I think that it might not have gone down exactly as described. The fact that nobody else died also works against the idea that all new members were forced to drink.

I can see the setting out in the wood as some kind of bonding thing, weird as it might be; I can even think of the blindfolds as a test of trust or some junk like that, but I can't really wrap my head around the idea that you could force a bunch of guys to drink that much and only one guy would get hurt.

It also blows my mind that anyone could come of age today and not know that drinking too much can kill you.
That is a fair point. The actual truth of these kinds of things can never really be known just by the nature of the event- a bunch of people, most of them presumably somewhat intoxicated, in a highly isolated environment.

As for the one guy getting hurt- have you ever read "Wrongs of Passage"? An interesting book- biased in my view against Greeks- but the stories of actual hazing deaths are an important reference.

A lot of people have minor health irregularities that are never detected. And sometimes in a stressful situation that most people can handle, those problems become apparent and manifest themselves in very bad ways. Pledges have died doing basic calisthenics.

My stance on this case is based in part on the appearance that there seems to be quite a lot of information about the actual event that could only have come from people who were there. So unless this is another Duke rape case situation- there were people present who gave out a lot of information that they knew would be very damaging to their fraternity's position.

As for heavy drinking, you would be amazed what some people try. Once in college I did, voluntarily, consume an amount of alcohol that was theoretically lethal. I was sick for 3 days, but I was ok. If I had consumed it a lot faster, then I might not be here writing this. Who knows?

This is the nature of kids experimenting.

But I think when a fraternity takes pledges into an unfamiliar environment, they take on an added responsibility to keep things from getting out of hand and to keep young men from pushing those kinds of limits.

Even if noone actually force-fed him alcohol, he was put into an environment in which he was, essentially, trapped. Blindfolded and taken out into the middle of nowhere- so how could he leave if he wanted to. And then the group pressure to drink.

The latter in and of itself is no excuse for anyone to overindulge, but when you add in the former it becomes a bit different.

How different is impossible to say in real terms.

But in practical legal terms, how different is pretty clear- the fraternity will be presumed to have exercised undue influence that contributed to or directly led to the death of a pledge.

And hence the absolute boundary I speak of. I do not wish these guys ill- in fact I feel pretty bad for the 7 being charged because they surely did not want this to happen and now have to face the guilt of it plus potentially criminal penalties. All this with few people thinking much about their own torment over this (and it is cool to see many in this thread do care about their fate.)

The bottom line is that to a reasonable person (and most people are not Greek and don't even understand how campouts can be an awesome part of the experience) this appears to be a situation where young men in a position subordinate to others were intentionally taken into deep isolation so that no one else would be aware of what happened. It just flat out sounds like bad things were planned- even if they were not.

So when someone dies, there is going to be legal trouble- whether it is fair and reasonable, or not.

And this is why there have to be some set clear boundaries that are never crossed. And one of those boundaries is to neither force people to drink large amounts of booze, nor create an environment in which a sense of "force" can be discerned or implied.
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Old 02-17-2007, 02:15 PM
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Sounds good to me. As I suggested before I think the rules of group behavior should exceed those required by law.

There's no reason why a group should ever be doing stuff that could be harmful to its members really, whether they should be legally responsible or not.
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