Help! Sig Ep Lavaliere!!!!

[sylmellon]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Lavaliering comes before pinning. Pinning is where you give the girl your actual fraternity pin, not a sweetheart pin (whatever that is).

Pinning is way more hardcore than lavaliering.

From what I know, a sweetheart pin is a jewelry piece designed to be given to a designated sweetheart, much in the same way she might be given flowers or a spa gift certificate - as either a "thank you" or a "congratulations", depending on the sweetheart tradition and role of the sweetheart in the given chapter. I don't think all organizations have them, but many do... the Delta Tau Delta one, for instance, is a modified version of the brothers' membership badge, with some symbols and turned on a diagonal to differentiate it. I know KA order also has one, and many organizations also offer them in some sort of necklace form... you can check them out at http://www.hjgreek.com ... just look for your organization, and then it's usually under "sweetheart / gifts". Very different from lavaliering or pinning.

[texas*princess]

Regarding the original post:

I don't know a whole lot about laveliering b/c it wasn't a big deal at all on my campus (at least while I was there.. things might have changed in the last 2 yrs).

And of course this is my own opinion...... so, with that said, I realize how exciting it is to have a candle passing and how laveliering might be a "big deal" but the OP is talking about it like she's about to get married to the guy or something. Is that something couples seriously talk about before laveliering?

I always thought it was more on the guy - i.e. I really like this girl, and I can see myself with her for a really long time, so I'm gonna give her a lavelier or whatever.

My campus wasn't very "traditional" in that sort of way, so it is obviously different at diff. schools.

I can totally understand having a serious talk w/ the SO before an engagement happened... but ummm... it's a necklace not a ring. Just curious how it is on other campuses.


Regarding the Sweetheart pins/laveliers: At my 1st campus, the only women who were allowed to wear the special laveliers with the fraternity's letters were the elected Sweethearts... not just any ole girlfriend of ABC or XYZ. The elected sweethearts were generally women who helped out the chapter in different ways. Many of them were girlfriends, but not all of them were.

Anyway.. just my thoughts.

[ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl]

I got lavaliered, but here the guys almost never do it. My boyfriend just did it. If he can't find anything out from his brothers, he should just do it anyway. But as I understand it different chapters have different traditions.

[tallgreekalum]

My fraternity (Alpha Delt) does not allow the badge to be worn by any non-member(and not visibly at all) but we have a smaller copy that is the same otherwise, and that is often used as a "pinning" badge. BTW for us, a pin is what a pledge wears(yes, we still call them pledges, athough we do refer to "new member education" to administrators) and badge is what a brother wears. And of course, most of the original social fraternities like ours had watch key badges.