Honest Question

[FSUZeta]

palm,

i am sorry that recruitment did not work out for you. i know that you must be feeling confused and hurt.

no one here can(or will) tell you why you were dropped before prefs. we just don't know the reasons, and even if we did, membership selection is a private matter, not meant to be discussed outside the chapter room.

that being said, i can share with you some general reasons potential new members(pnms=rushees) might not be invited back, besides the obvious reasons. sometimes bad things just happen. sorority members can get potential new members mixed up. sometimes , if it is informal recruitment, there are only a few spaces the sorority needs to fill before they will reach campus total(the maximum number of members each sorority can have) and there are more pnms than there are spots. sometimes the chapters are told (by their headquarters)that they need to concentrate on freshman and sophomores.

depending on the campus, the sorority may need a letter of recommendation from an alumna member for each girl they want to extend a bid to. sometimes the pnm misreads the reactions she is getting from the sorority members she is meeting at the parties. the pnm thinks she has really wowed them, but in reality she did not. other times non-invitations can be because of the placement of the sororities on the pnms list. her choices of which groups she would like to receive invitations from does not match up with the sororities list.

please don't feel betrayed by your friends in sororities-i am sure they were on your side. as you can see from my list of reasons, and the other ladies lists, there are a multitude of reasons why girls do not receive bids. we just don't know.

i don't want to create false hope, but if all the sororities did not pledge quota, or did not fill to total, they may decide to hold some informal recruitment parties. if you would consider attending informal recruitment parties, be sure that your name is on the list of interested pnms at the panhellenic office-maybe your rho chi could advise you on that possibility.