Rush - What to NOT do or say

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by VeniceIsSinking

Hopefully my personality, goals, accomplishments etc along with a few recs will be enough to garner a bid. I just really don't want to spend $40 on rush if I'm not going to get a bid because I will be a sophmore during '07 fall rush. I have a lot of undergrad ahead of me (double minor) so I will be here for awhile...

btw, thanks once again ladies for your input/advice... keep it comin'

4 sororities would be a little less competitive. I do agree that you should talk to the office of Greek Life. They can't tell you your "chances," but you can ask how many sophomores, etc., were placed, out of those rushing.

Also, not to be nitpicky, but if you are hesitant to spend $40 on an activity now, have you budgeted to anticipate sorority dues? Your first semester is typically the most costly due to one time new member fees and purchasing a sorority badge, etc. Make sure you can assume the responsibilities of time and money if you are going to commit to this.

Also remember that in addition to grades and activities, your reputation is paramount. If you are on campus now, make sure to mind your attitudes toward others. Sororities respect individuality, but more importantly, you as a potential member must respect social conformity-- following membership decisions and such. There isn't a stereotype, but there is an culture to maintain-- the same as you would in the workplace. Call it image/reputation, but fitting in is key with any peer group. Don't change who you are to join, but reconsider joining if you feel any drastic changes would be required. I'm not trying to discourage your goals, but to be realistic. Definitely call the office of Greek Life and if you truly want to join a sorority through formal recruitment, a $40 investment with potential results that may not be to your liking should not be the deterrent.

[VeniceIsSinking]

Oh, I know dues will be expensive. My parents have already said they would help out because they know it will be a great experience for me. The time commitment is something I'm welcoming. I could really use a break from the constant studying, I just don't have enough distractions yet to do that!

I'm a friendly and outgoing person to begin with. I always smile and say hi to random people. I don't walk around with a big green mohawk or wearing anything outrageous in general. So overall I think my presence on campus has been a confident and good one. Also, I definitely would never ever change myself to belong to a sorority. While having that membership would be something to be proud of and something to be actively involved in, I wouldn't compromise myself or my beliefs to attain it.

Thanks for your input adpicuf, I will definitely chose my words wisely when I speak to someone at the Greek office and definitely use that as my basis of how to continue.