Cheating Men

[TonyB06]

Originally Posted by Professor

the pimp part, of course i'm joking - but not about women chasing men in relationships.

No I meant the "challenging for men to remain in committed relationships" because there are always availalble women part?

for me, the key is what type of "man" we really want to be, and how quickly and surely we come to understand what we want. Sure, we all play the "get all you can get while you can get it" game. Women play it too. Emotional maturity shows a man -- or it should, anyway -- that life, and relationships are about depth, intensity, the recognition that a relationship that is good and fulfilling is well worth the "allure" of what's still out there, what we've been chasing all our lives up until the point of our maturity.

I just do not think my ability to be "committed" is affected by who else is after me. If I make the decision to make it "good in my house," then it doesn't matter who is down the street waiting for an opportunity.

[Professor]

This is just what I'm talking about - - - for me, it has nothing to do with my maturity. Its about why women are always after men that are not available. I'm just like the next man, sometimes I'm weak and give in to having conversations with women when I should just keep moving. At these times, I set myselft up for trouble.

I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th[/QUOTE]

[btb87]

Tony, this is why I loves you man!

Professor, I'm sure it's hard, but it's not impossible. You can only control you. Not a thing in the world you can do about these women. Don't even try to figure out why they are rolling up on you. YOU JUST DO THE RIGHT THING! So whether you have to walk away or RUN AWAY, then you need to do so. Don't even get caught up. As your frat (TonyB) loves to say, "don't start none, won't be none".

What's the saying about character? It's doing the right thing even when no one is looking.

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by Professor

This is just what I'm talking about - - - for me, it has nothing to do with my maturity. Its about why women are always after men that are not available. I'm just like the next man, sometimes I'm weak and give in to having conversations with women when I should just keep moving. At these times, I set myselft up for trouble.

I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th

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I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot!

[7thSonofOsiris]

I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot![/quote]



Bruh, I agree with you 100%, the women in Atlanta are on a different level. The ratio of male to female is like, less than 1 male for every 21 females, and then you have to figure into that equation, all of the different semantics of what we as a people are facing down there, from that Down Low shit, to the number of incarcerated males, to the number of men who are married but are cheating, to that lower numeric of males who are single and trying to take care of business. It's such a rough game. Nationally and statistically though, its the worst place for "us" to be married. That's pretty bad considering how much we are interwoven into the fabric of the city, but, I think that the many different facets to how we're living down there, is negatively impacting what could be an awesome place for us to converge with our beautiful sisters, and to make families and to live progressively.
Let me ask you this though Bruh. In regards to people schooling us that, "the way we get them is the way we'll lose them", does that mean that we should anticipate that it's inevitable that we are going to lose them, regardless of what we do, how hard we work, or how much we love them? What's the truth, mang?

the7th

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris

Let me ask you this though Bruh. In regards to people schooling us that, "the way we get them is the way we'll lose them", does that mean that we should anticipate that it's inevitable that we are going to lose them, regardless of what we do, how hard we work, or how much we love them? What's the truth, mang?

the7th

I think that is meaning, that if you get a woman who is still in a relationship, then if she is cheating to be with you, then she will sooner or later cheat on you!

[AKA2D '91]

Onnnnnnnnnnn the next episode of 'Black Men Revealed'...

[lovelyivy84]

Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

Onnnnnnnnnnn the next episode of 'Black Men Revealed'...

LOL

Ahhh blast from the past threads...

[TonyB06]

Originally Posted by AKA2D '91

Onnnnnnnnnnn the next episode of 'Black Men Revealed'...

ahh, here come them signifying AKAs .if they wasn't so dayum fine ...

[PrettyBoy]

I'm kool single. I would like to be in a serious relationship, but it's too hard to tell if she's right. Plus all of the things that have to be done from the beginning. The whole idea of getting to know the person all over again. The last woman I was with, we were together for 8 years. It didn't work out, now I can't see starting all over again. It's like designing something on a computer that you've been working on for hours without saving what you've done while working, and then all of the sudden the computer freezes up on you. Now you have to reboot it and start all over again. That sucks.

[Lady of Pearl]

Is it better to have loved and lost, then never too have loved at all?Try this one on for size, I was in a relationship for five years and thought I had the real deal but in hindsight it was wrong from the beginning-why because it was not of God. As someone stated earlier you will know if someone is right if you look at that person's character. Sometime we don't because were caught up into how that person looks or makes us feel. Mr. Fine or Miss Fine may not be the right one! How do you know if they are the right one-there are signs from the beginning. In how that person behaves and or lives love is blind, we should be more discerning.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by Lady of Pearl

Is it better to have loved and lost, then never too have loved at all?Try this one on for size, I was in a relationship for five years and thought I had the real deal but in hindsight it was wrong from the beginning-why because it was not of God. As someone stated earlier you will know if someone is right if you look at that person's character. Sometime we don't because were caught up into how that person looks or makes us feel. Mr. Fine or Miss Fine may not be the right one! How do you know if they are the right one-there are signs from the beginning. In how that person behaves and or lives love is blind, we should be more discerning.

Yeah, you're right. I had all kinds of signs that she wasn't right, but I still stayed with her. I liked her so much that the signs she gave me I over looked because she came off as this really nice person and on top of that she was very attractive. I think that's why I would rather stay alone because I don't trust myself in choosing the right woman. All of my relationships have been like this, and something I've noticed, is that all the women I've been in relationships with were the same. Different, but with similar backgrounds.

[7thSonofOsiris]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Yeah, you're right. I had all kinds of signs that she wasn't right, but I still stayed with her. I liked her so much that the signs she gave me I over looked because she came off as this really nice person and on top of that she was very attractive. I think that's why I would rather stay alone because I don't trust myself in choosing the right woman. All of my relationships have been like this, and something I've noticed, is that all the women I've been in relationships with were the same. Different, but with similar backgrounds.

Bruh,

I feel you on this one. Sounds like, you need to stop being the President of your selection committee and you need to hand the reigns over to God. He'll work His magic. Too, what are you asking for, specifically Bruh? If you don't make it specific, He won't know what your needs are, mang. Just have faith Bruh. He'll get you what ya need. He always does.

the7th

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris

Bruh,

I feel you on this one. Sounds like, you need to stop being the President of your selection committee and you need to hand the reigns over to God. He'll work His magic. Too, what are you asking for, specifically Bruh? If you don't make it specific, He won't know what your needs are, mang. Just have faith Bruh. He'll get you what ya need. He always does.

the7th

I wasn't really looking for anyone at the moment. At least not to get serious with. My standards are really high, too much to list. I posted some of them on some other threads. Some GCers took offense to my comments. LOL.

[phorbidden1246]

Wow...never knew this was America's number 1 topic.

Just joined and saw this in the frat's section. Heated convo eh?

This is the way I see it. There's a poem I'm sure we all had to memorize/learn/live with by the name of Inviticus which I will use to argue my point of view

"Out of the darkness that covers me
Black as the pit from pole to pole
I thank whatever gods maybe
for my UNCONQUERABLE SOUL."

-The human spirit is quite strong. However we, as human, don't truly live up to our potential. We were made in the image of God....nuff said.

"In the fell cluthes of circumstance
I have not winched nor cried aloud.
In the bludgeoning(check my spelling) of chance
My head is BLOODIED BUT UNBOWED."

-Whoever said it'd be easy. Blood, sweat, and tears come from experience. Sometimes we have to make a mistake in order to never do it again. In defense of the Six that made the mistake(Professor), I say that we all have the potential to cheat provided that we are put in the right place at the right time. Never said it was right though. Again, we are human.

"In this place of wrath and tears
Looms the horror of the shade.
And yet the menace of the years
Finds me and shall FIND ME UNAFRAID."

-Be a man or woman and face the consequences of your decisions. It's a part of maturity.

"It matters not how strait the gate
How charged with punishment the scroll
For I AM THE MASTER OF MY FATE
and the CAPTAIN OF MY SOUL."

-One of God's greatest gifts to mankind/womankind is the power of choice. Please use it wisely.

And it's not just to the brothers either. This is to women too! I've been burnt before. And I never cheated in my life!! Stop this idiotic cycle of pain and frustration here and now please.
That's my 6 cents!