Not accepting juniors??

REE1993 · #1 01-18-2007, 04:09 PM

If they don't want to accept a junior now, what will be different next semester when you are still a junior?

The situation seems pretty sketchy to me.

ETA - since when do sororities CALL PNMs? Even during informal rush?

33girl · #2 01-18-2007, 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by REE1993

ETA - since when do sororities CALL PNMs? Even during informal rush?

If it was a party that women had gone to knowing open bids were being handed out, it would be nice of the sorority to call and tell them they didn't receive a bid - especially if there weren't a lot of girls there. It's like in formal rush where your rho chi calls you if you don't get a bid, which I presume was their thinking. In the OPs case though, the sorority was just sharing TMI. They should have just said "I'm sorry, but you did not receive a bid" and let it at that. That's the ONLY info any PNM is ever entitled to.

Oh, and as to what might change next semester? They might lose a lot of girls to graduation or transfers and be under the gun to get their numbers up.

lyrica9 · #3 01-18-2007, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Oh, and as to what might change next semester? They might lose a lot of girls to graduation or transfers and be under the gun to get their numbers up.

maybe they get free juniors and want to pad their new member class?

#4 01-18-2007, 05:07 PM

what does that exactly mean?? free juniors??

33girl · #5 01-18-2007, 05:08 PM

Sometimes in formal rush, juniors and seniors are not counted in a sorority's quota number.

#6 01-18-2007, 05:10 PM

So if they aren't counted, doesnt that mean that they can have as many as they want ( juniors that is ), or as little??

33girl · #7 01-18-2007, 05:15 PM

Yes. That is IF the school does it - not all schools do.

#8 01-18-2007, 04:29 PM

Well, I don't know alot about how everything works, at the end of teh night they just said that they are going to make their decisions tonight and to stay by our phones. From what I understood, she said that they didn't have many slots open for alot of members to join this semester, and that in the fall, there are way more spots open and usually they are more open to juniors than it is in the spring. I am not sure what to do. There are 4 sororities on campus and this was the one that I really wanted, I liked everything about them, the girls, their philanthropy, just everything. I don't know that much about the other sororites, I'm jsut so lost and don't know what to do, it was such a disappointment when I got that call.

AChiOhSnap · #9 01-18-2007, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by fadyas

Well, I don't know alot about how everything works, at the end of teh night they just said that they are going to make their decisions tonight and to stay by our phones. From what I understood, she said that they didn't have many slots open for alot of members to join this semester, and that in the fall, there are way more spots open and usually they are more open to juniors than it is in the spring. I am not sure what to do. There are 4 sororities on campus and this was the one that I really wanted, I liked everything about them, the girls, their philanthropy, just everything. I don't know that much about the other sororites, I'm jsut so lost and don't know what to do, it was such a disappointment when I got that call.

Umm, based on this description I honestly wouldn't encourage you to try again (at least with this chapter)... I can't imagine the reasons for discouraging bidding juniors would be any different in the fall, even if they have more spots to fill. Basically I don't know why they're telling you to go through recruitment again and saying things that are borderline secret, but I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you. What they're saying doesn't make sense -- if they wanted to extend you a bid, it would have been far more beneficial of this chapter to do so during this recruitment period, at least financially.

I'm really sorry to say this but I think whoever you talked to was trying to "let you down easy." My best guess is that they really did like you and think you were genuine but for whatever reason they did not select you. It's kind of a cop-out but it's much easier for a sorority sister to say "Wow, we all really loved you and thought you were sweet buuuut you're a junior and we don't normally bid juniors...in any case, I encourage you to go through recruitment in the fall. We really liked you though!" than just straight up saying "I'm sorry, we did not feel that you were right for this sisterhood at this time."

In fact, at my school, sorority members were instructed to encourage disappointed women to go through recruitment again in the future...I obviously don't know exactly what was said between you and this member, but I wouldn't get necessarily read too much into her encouragement to rush again. It might just be a standard line they feed everyone.

But obviously you're the only person that can read the situation -- I didn't hear the phone call and I didn't get enough details from your description to tell one way or the other.

In any case, I'm sorry it didn't work out and I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

#10 01-18-2007, 04:54 PM

You might be very right, She might have just said that to be nice and as a cop-out, I started to think about it and I guess in a way it makes sense that they would rush freshman or sophomores, they would rather have someone in teh sorority for 3-4 years than maybe 1 or 2. I don't know, but I am trying to contact the other chapters and see if they have held their spring rush yet. And thank you for being so honest.