Otterbein General Recruitment Thread

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by PhoenixAzul

To review:
You may receive up to 6 invites, but may only accept (or accept with regret) 4. Accepting with regret counts as "accept".

What is "accept with regret"? Or how does it work? Frankly, it does not sound like a favorable thing for a chapter to hear or know. That a girl is accepting their invitation with regret.

As such, and perhaps I'm missing something, why would someone put down "accept with regret"?

[tld221]

Originally Posted by TSteven

What is "accept with regret"? Or how does it work? Frankly, it does not sound like a favorable thing for a chapter to hear or know. That a girl is accepting their invitation with regret.

As such, and perhaps I'm missing something, why would someone put down "accept with regret"?

i would guess that "accept with regret" would be like a PNM saying "i'd take a bid from XYZ but if ABC and/or DEF give me a bid, then sayonara"

so when pref night comes around, XYZ knows that the PNM has someone else in mind? i agree, wouldnt want my chapter to see that, but if it was someone we were really pulling for, it would be good to know, and even helpful when it was time to extend bids?

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[FSUZeta]

on some campuses, pnms may "regret with interest" an invitation when they have received more invitations to parties than they are allowed to attend. perhaps this is the same situation?

example: patty pnm receives 6 invitations but is only allowed to attend 4 parties during the next round. she "regrets with interest" two out of her six choices-letting them know that had things been different, she would have attended their parties. supposedly, it works to the benefit of both sorority and pnm-if patty is dropped after the 4 party round, receiving no invitations from any of the four sororities she visited, supposedly either of the sororities that she "regretted with interest" could extend an invitation for patty to attend their party in the next round of parties.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

on some campuses, pnms may "regret with interest" an invitation when they have received more invitations to parties than they are allowed to attend. perhaps this is the same situation?

example: patty pnm receives 6 invitations but is only allowed to attend 4 parties during the next round. she "regrets with interest" two out of her six choices-letting them know that had things been different, she would have attended their parties. supposedly, it works to the benefit of both sorority and pnm-if patty is dropped after the 4 party round, receiving no invitations from any of the four sororities she visited, supposedly either of the sororities that she "regretted with interest" could extend an invitation for patty to attend their party in the next round of parties.

here's my question: after 2-3 rounds of visiting houses, why cant Patty PNM narrow it down to 4 houses she could be a part of? that's a lot of flexibility. i understand you may get a short amount of time at each house and really dont get much time, but i would think you'd narrow it down to AT MOST 4. i dont want a PNM saying, "i could see myself being at ABC, DEF, GHI, JKL... and oh yeah MNO is really cool too!" because youre pretty much saying that nothing has stuck out over the top from my house to draw you in.

another reason why i'm opposed to first semester freshmen in rush, and more of an advocate for the few sophomore rush threads that come up here

[Drolefille]

At our campus you really couldn't really regret w/o interest. The idea is that you've still only met these women for maybe an 2 hours tops, but you have an order of preference.

The fact that XYZ is #1 means that they have stuck out at you. Some people who actually regret with interest have 0 interest in MNO, but may end up there for the next round anyway.

It's not so much that you don't have a favorite, it's that your favorite may not feel the same way about you. Or they may be everyone's favorite and have to cut many more than other chapters. It maximizes the chances that Suzie PNM will end up with a chapter that she likes, even if it wasn't her absolute favorite when she ranked the chapters. (Though most find it to be their favorite after bonding with their sisters)

[PhoenixAzul]

Holy thread explosion batman!

I don't know what NPC would call our "accept with regret".

Accepting with regret is used in a situation like this:

Patty PNM receives an invite to ABC's novelty party. ABC's novelty party is on Saturday from 12-2. Patty's neice is being baptized on saturday at 1pm. She's really interested in ABC's party, but she really wants to be at the baptism. This is where she marks "accept with regret" and may choose to list her reason on her reply. The reasoning being..."I accept your invitation and would love to come, BUT! i've got this thing that I must attend to and I regret that I cannot make it".

Girls who receive 6 invites MUST regret to 2 of their invites. Regret= cutting them. Girls who receive 5 must regret to 1 of their invites. You may check "accept" OR "accept w/ regret" to 4.

[Drolefille]

I accept your invitation but regret that I cannot attend! I get it now It's not too different from regret w/ interest.

[TSteven]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

on some campuses, pnms may "regret with interest" an invitation when they have received more invitations to parties than they are allowed to attend. perhaps this is the same situation?

example: patty pnm receives 6 invitations but is only allowed to attend 4 parties during the next round. she "regrets with interest" two out of her six choices-letting them know that had things been different, she would have attended their parties. supposedly, it works to the benefit of both sorority and pnm-if patty is dropped after the 4 party round, receiving no invitations from any of the four sororities she visited, supposedly either of the sororities that she "regretted with interest" could extend an invitation for patty to attend their party in the next round of parties.

Now see, a "regret with interest" makes sense. But the "accept with regret" seems to be the total opposite as well as not flattering to the chapter that receives it.

Frankly, if a rushee said during rush "If I don't get a bid to ABC or XYZ, then I'll consider joining Sigma Chi" I would tell them not to bother. Actually, I believe I would use more colorful language than that.