Cheating Men

[iotamason]

The no.1 reason men as well as women cheat is they feel their partner is lacking in a certain area in the relationship.

I believe there are 5 points in a relationship in which the people will have to be connected: Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual, and Sexual.

As long as these five points coincide between the two individuals, a man will see no reason to go elsewhere. All needs are met. It is when something is not connecting between the two or they are not on the same "level" will infidelity happen.

Emotionally- A man wants a woman that will encourage him not tear him down. He wants her to let him know that he is needed. In turn he should be comfortable to confide in his woman with his emotions and it not be seen as a "weakness" but strength that he has that much trust in her.

Mentally- The man and woman should be on the same wavelength when it comes to conversation. THe should be able to connect on mulitiple range of topics and share the same interest... also think of this as "Communication"

Physically- There must be some type of attraction....that way if everything else lines up ... something that "Sparkles a little more" will not make the brotha stray.

Spiritually- Every man wants a woman that can be his "rib" especially if it deals with religion, they should have at least the same basic views so that being unequally yoked spiritually will not become a problem.

Sexually- In marriage a husband and his wife become one. The husband should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his wife satisfied as well as vice versa.. If everything you need to satisfy you is done behind closed doors then a man will not go out else where to be satisfied..

[pinkies up]

^^^. The above is true, however, the reason someone cheats is not an excuse to cheat. Just because someone feels that an area is lacking, it gives the person no excuse to go and cheat. (especially in a marriage). When people are dating, it's important for both parties to express expectations. For example, if the two agree to date eachother, but have an open relationship, then they both need to be mature enough to handle it. Don't say it's okay to have friends of the opposite sex, but then nag about it.

[7thSonofOsiris]

In regards to this topic, I think that, all too often, honor and integrity driven brothers, make an intensely concerted effort to remain just that, honorable. But, then there's the number of cheesy brothers out there that spent their bachelor party events, engaged in some actions that should not have come to fruition, so, the ability or the inability/proclivity of a man to cheat lies deeply embedded in the man's character. If he was garbage before the marriage, there is a chance that he may not change his ways, and remain garbage after he's married.
But too, the same inferrence can be connected to some of the sisters out there. Recently, I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris

In regards to this topic, I think that, all too often, honor and integrity driven brothers, make an intensely concerted effort to remain just that, honorable. But, then there's the number of cheesy brothers out there that spent their bachelor party events, engaged in some actions that should not have come to fruition, so, the ability or the inability/proclivity of a man to cheat lies deeply embedded in the man's character. If he was garbage before the marriage, there is a chance that he may not change his ways, and remain garbage after he's married.
But too, the same inferrence can be connected to some of the sisters out there. Recently, I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th

This is so true. Once a cheater 9 times out of 10 always a cheater. I was watching this show on National Geographic. It was about wolves and it was just saying that wolves stay with one mate. I heard that dolphins do too. These are animals and it's shame human beings can't stay with one person.

[Professor]

This is just what I'm talking about - - - for me, it has nothing to do with my maturity. Its about why women are always after men that are not available. I'm just like the next man, sometimes I'm weak and give in to having conversations with women when I should just keep moving. At these times, I set myselft up for trouble.

I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th[/QUOTE]

[btb87]

Tony, this is why I loves you man!

Professor, I'm sure it's hard, but it's not impossible. You can only control you. Not a thing in the world you can do about these women. Don't even try to figure out why they are rolling up on you. YOU JUST DO THE RIGHT THING! So whether you have to walk away or RUN AWAY, then you need to do so. Don't even get caught up. As your frat (TonyB) loves to say, "don't start none, won't be none".

What's the saying about character? It's doing the right thing even when no one is looking.

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by Professor

This is just what I'm talking about - - - for me, it has nothing to do with my maturity. Its about why women are always after men that are not available. I'm just like the next man, sometimes I'm weak and give in to having conversations with women when I should just keep moving. At these times, I set myselft up for trouble.

I was on a visit to Atlanta, and although I know that Atlanta ain't the best city to try to be focused in, the women were rolling up trippin'. It's hard man. Anyway, I came across some women who just didn't give a damn. Some were married, and most weren't. I was with some of my Bruhs, and oh boy, my newly married Sands' would show the women his ring and then he'd say, "oh, I'm married" and some women were like, "so, I didn't ask you that". I was like, okay. The world can be a debauched place, but, its all about the character of both the man and the woman, and ultimately, the role that Christ plays in their lives.

The 7th

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I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot!

[7thSonofOsiris]

I have always been taught that "the way you get a person, will be the same way you loose them..." meaning, if she is married and throwing it at you, then she will do you the same way with some other man. About the ATL situation, since I have ties to the ATL, I can say, women in the ATL are very aggressive and confident. They will roll up in the parking lot![/quote]



Bruh, I agree with you 100%, the women in Atlanta are on a different level. The ratio of male to female is like, less than 1 male for every 21 females, and then you have to figure into that equation, all of the different semantics of what we as a people are facing down there, from that Down Low shit, to the number of incarcerated males, to the number of men who are married but are cheating, to that lower numeric of males who are single and trying to take care of business. It's such a rough game. Nationally and statistically though, its the worst place for "us" to be married. That's pretty bad considering how much we are interwoven into the fabric of the city, but, I think that the many different facets to how we're living down there, is negatively impacting what could be an awesome place for us to converge with our beautiful sisters, and to make families and to live progressively.
Let me ask you this though Bruh. In regards to people schooling us that, "the way we get them is the way we'll lose them", does that mean that we should anticipate that it's inevitable that we are going to lose them, regardless of what we do, how hard we work, or how much we love them? What's the truth, mang?

the7th

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally Posted by 7thSonofOsiris

Let me ask you this though Bruh. In regards to people schooling us that, "the way we get them is the way we'll lose them", does that mean that we should anticipate that it's inevitable that we are going to lose them, regardless of what we do, how hard we work, or how much we love them? What's the truth, mang?

the7th

I think that is meaning, that if you get a woman who is still in a relationship, then if she is cheating to be with you, then she will sooner or later cheat on you!

[AKA2D '91]

Onnnnnnnnnnn the next episode of 'Black Men Revealed'...

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by iotamason

The no.1 reason men as well as women cheat is they feel their partner is lacking in a certain area in the relationship.

I believe there are 5 points in a relationship in which the people will have to be connected: Emotional, Mental, Physical, Spiritual, and Sexual.

As long as these five points coincide between the two individuals, a man will see no reason to go elsewhere. All needs are met. It is when something is not connecting between the two or they are not on the same "level" will infidelity happen.

Emotionally- A man wants a woman that will encourage him not tear him down. He wants her to let him know that he is needed. In turn he should be comfortable to confide in his woman with his emotions and it not be seen as a "weakness" but strength that he has that much trust in her.

Mentally- The man and woman should be on the same wavelength when it comes to conversation. THe should be able to connect on mulitiple range of topics and share the same interest... also think of this as "Communication"

Physically- There must be some type of attraction....that way if everything else lines up ... something that "Sparkles a little more" will not make the brotha stray.

Spiritually- Every man wants a woman that can be his "rib" especially if it deals with religion, they should have at least the same basic views so that being unequally yoked spiritually will not become a problem.

Sexually- In marriage a husband and his wife become one. The husband should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep his wife satisfied as well as vice versa.. If everything you need to satisfy you is done behind closed doors then a man will not go out else where to be satisfied..

See, this is why I'm going to go ahead and stay single. All of this is too much for me. All this connection stuff. Nobody is perfect, because if we were, arguments wouldn't start. I definitely don't disagree with you. All of your points are right on, but no one is this perfect. See, this is why the divorce rate is 65%, because as soon as one of those points you just mentioned is off, rather it be a little or a lot, most couples want to call it quits. Relationships are way too hard.

[7thSonofOsiris]

PB,

What up mang? Fear not young Padawan, for you are destined to fall in

love, simply because that's part of GOD's plan for all of us. You just need

to pray that she's not half-retarded or krazy. This country's

divorce rate is only indicative of this country's leadership and this

country's moral decay. It's all a cyclical flow of madness Bruh, but, that's

convo for a later show.

In regards to love, I don't know much, but I do know this.

Your job is to be the man that you were designed to be, and as you

work to become that beacon, your light will become so illuminescently

bright and strong, that the woman that GOD has destined for you, will find

her way to you because of it Bruh.

the 7th Son

[btb87]

^^^

[KAPPAtivating]

I believe women have known their "Power" over men since Adam and Eve. But like my pastor says, you know what is about to go down when the candles are burning, the wine is in the glass, and Jodeci is playing...so don't even get in the situation. But the Bible states that GOD never allows us to be tempted without having a way out.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by KAPPAtivating

I believe women have known their "Power" over men since Adam and Eve. But like my pastor says, you know what is about to go down when the candles are burning, the wine is in the glass, and Jodeci is playing...so don't even get in the situation. But the Bible states that GOD never allows us to be tempted without having a way out.

LOL.