Bridesmaid Situation

[adpiucf]

Finally... We have contact! At this point they have booked their hall, but still haven't signed with the caterer, no location for the rehearsal dinner (not sure if they will have a rehearsal), and haven't yet found a hotel to reserve a block of rooms for guests. She is doing the invitations at home and they're almost ready to go out... I couldn't eek out any more details than that... I've decided to stay in the wedding, but I told her with the shower date still up in the air I could not attend, coming from so far away. She was really sweet about everything-- nothing is wrong on their end; just lack of communication. I booked my flight this week for the wedding and I'll buy my dress in a few weeks-- they're not custom-made, so it takes about 2-3 weeks to receive the dress (which I can then take to my seamstress to have it hemmed, etc.). I still think this whole event is seriously disorganized, but that's not my problem. I'll be there for the weekend to do whatever they need me for (setting up the hall, etc.), and keep my mouth shut.

Thanks to all during a very frustrating week. I love my friend very much, but this whole epsiode of hunting her down to get some questions answered drove my Type A-self practically insane!

[AChiOhSnap]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Finally... We have contact! At this point they have booked their hall, but still haven't signed with the caterer, no location for the rehearsal dinner (not sure if they will have a rehearsal), and haven't yet found a hotel to reserve a block of rooms for guests. She is doing the invitations at home and they're almost ready to go out... I couldn't eek out any more details than that... I've decided to stay in the wedding, but I told her with the shower date still up in the air I could not attend, coming from so far away. She was really sweet about everything-- nothing is wrong on their end; just lack of communication. I booked my flight this week for the wedding and I'll buy my dress in a few weeks-- they're not custom-made, so it takes about 2-3 weeks to receive the dress (which I can then take to my seamstress to have it hemmed, etc.). I still think this whole event is seriously disorganized, but that's not my problem. I'll be there for the weekend to do whatever they need me for (setting up the hall, etc.), and keep my mouth shut.

Thanks to all during a very frustrating week. I love my friend very much, but this whole epsiode of hunting her down to get some questions answered drove my Type A-self practically insane!

Three months until the wedding and they don't have the rehearsal dinner space yet? Or the hotels? Or the CATERER? WHAT???

(I come from an area where you can't plan a graduation party any later than six months in advance -- weddings need to be finalized about 8-12mos beforehand! Unless it's a casual affair, this seems insane to me!)

I expect some headaches for you regarding this wedding -- hopefully nothing major but if this is really as disorganized as it seems, you might be in for a few surprises. I hope you can zen any annoyances that pop up and feel free to post back here if you need to vent!

[AXO Alum]

Originally Posted by AChiOhSnap

Three months until the wedding and they don't have the rehearsal dinner space yet? Or the hotels? Or the CATERER? WHAT???

(I come from an area where you can't plan a graduation party any later than six months in advance -- weddings need to be finalized about 8-12mos beforehand! Unless it's a casual affair, this seems insane to me!)

I expect some headaches for you regarding this wedding -- hopefully nothing major but if this is really as disorganized as it seems, you might be in for a few surprises. I hope you can zen any annoyances that pop up and feel free to post back here if you need to vent!

Agreed - this is going to be more than you showing up to help decorate or something. Sounds like you guys may end up serving food from KFC at this event!

I know things are "busy" in the wedding planning process, but geez, that's why you have a MoH (if not a wedding consultant) - and sorry, but its beyond being "busy" to have ignored your repeated calls & emails. She was being just plain rude.

Good luck with everything - I won't be surprised if you aren't back on here with another problem she is having (or creating!) because it sounds like she isn't at all ready for this type of event.