Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying

[aephi alum]

These questions are good. If, at the time they're preparing to get married, two people strongly disagree on a key point like whether to have children or what religion to raise those children with, it's probably not a good idea for them to get married.

However, as a few people have mentioned, your answers to these questions can change over time. My husband and I are a good example. When we got married, we agreed that we wanted children someday. Now, I've come to realize that I don't really want children - I like being a DINK and I'd make a terrible mother. But according to my husband, it's someday - time to have a baby. We are working through this issue and staying childless for the moment.

I also agree that it's a good idea to live with your partner before getting married. It's one thing to talk theoretically about, say, how to divide the household chores; it's another to have the experience of actually having chores to divide.