Can non greek guys go to formals?

[shinerbock]

Its true, there is a certain drop off when it comes to greek/non greeks at formals and such. Doesn't mean anybody is gonna beat him or her up or openly berate them, but it may take longer for members to warm up to a non-greek.

[PiKA2001]

Originally Posted by shinerbock

Its true, there is a certain drop off when it comes to greek/non greeks at formals and such. Doesn't mean anybody is gonna beat him or her up or openly berate them, but it may take longer for members to warm up to a non-greek.

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

[Drolefille]

Our formals had all types. Fraternity boyfriends, GDI boyfriends, the guys who come to every one of your parties with someone, and the randoms/set-ups which could be through fraternity friends or dormmates. If a guy didn't have anyone to talk to, it's because he isolated himself. (or the couple did) Seemed like at our tables while the girls drove the conversation(duh), the guys always managed to fit in with everyone, not just other greeks.

It certainly depends on the atmosphere of the school, and the attitudes of the girls. I'd think that if the girls snub him, the guys won't go out of their way. And if the girls include/accept him, their dates will come along for the ride.

/IMO

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

Agreed. We choose our tables beforehand, and some of the girls (including me) arranged who we would sit with based on what fraternity our dates were in. I think it's just better this way because atleast your date has his friends at the table too and you don't have to entertain him.

[JamesBond007]

Curious...do you serve...martinis at these formals? Shaken, not stirred of course.

[Elephant Walk]

Originally Posted by PiKA2001

I always kind of felt bad for some of the random guys at sorority formals. You would have all of the guys there who were in the same org's or at least knew of the other guys, and there sitting at the table talking to nobody but his date was a GDI.

Exactly. It's a family affair when we go to formals and my brothers will always be there at them. We sit with them, which usually leaves the random GDI out in the cold.

[ilovehellweek]

Yeah Non greeks can go to formals. I don't believe that's been an issue.

[aephi alum]

Non-greek dates are always welcome at formals. My husband, who did not join a fraternity, was my date at two AEPhi formals. When a GLO has a formal, each member can invite whomever she or he likes... greek or not.

My sisters were added to my circle of friends - they did not replace them. As the old Girl Scout song goes: "Make new friends, but keep the old; one is silver and the other is gold."

[Buttonz]

My first formal, I brought a non-greek....it was four couples to a table, only ONE of the guys were Greek...the others was a BF, a best friend of a BF that was in the Marines and my friend who met a bunch of the sisters as I pledged (it was right after I got in).

My second year I brought a greek, but once again my table was a mix of Greeks and non-Greeks.

As her BF, I hope you take the chance to meet both her sisters and other Greeks that she will be hanging out with as she goes through the pledge process, so you won't feel left out at events like formal.