Rush - What to NOT do or say

AChiOhSnap · #1 12-12-2006, 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by pssgirl83

One on the biggest don't do's we had is do not ever under any circumstances is to not say anything that has to do with legacy, esp. if the PNM is a younger sibling of an active. We had one of the girls do this. they were twins and one had joined in the fall and the other did spring informal, she did not get a bid just for the fact that she thought we "owed" it to her because her sister was already a member.

This is good advice. Even though we had a fairly competitive recruitment at my school, girls would always go through that didn't know better and assumed they would get a bid to XXX sorority for whatever reason. Acting as if you're owed a bid to a certain house is a great way to get yourself cut from ALL the sororities after the first round.

KSUViolet06 · #2 12-12-2006, 02:50 AM

I agree. If you are an "in house" legacy to a chapter (meaning your sister or other relative is currently in that specific chapter), chances are good that the entire sorority already knows that you are a legacy. You don't need to remind them. It sounds presumptuous.

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

tunatartare · #3 12-12-2006, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

There is also no need to let EVERY OTHER sorority know that you have a sister in XYZ. The more you mention it, the more sororities might think you're not interested in them and drop you. If your legacy sorority cuts you, that puts you in a tough spot.

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

Jill1228 · #4 12-12-2006, 11:38 AM

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

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Originally Posted by tunatartare

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

adpiucf · #5 12-12-2006, 11:50 AM

Don't ask if your GPA, age or class rank will hurt you in membership selection. That's an awkward question that puts your rusher on the spot. It is ok to ask about scholarship and membership requirements for GPA, however. It is also ok to ask about the general make-up of the chapter (approx. how much of the sorority is currently made up of sophomores, etc.).

Stef the Pef · #6 01-21-2007, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by adpiucf

Don't ask if your GPA, age or class rank will hurt you in membership selection. That's an awkward question that puts your rusher on the spot. It is ok to ask about scholarship and membership requirements for GPA, however. It is also ok to ask about the general make-up of the chapter (approx. how much of the sorority is currently made up of sophomores, etc.).

For real. Plus, it kind of makes you come off like you're worried that you won't be able to make the grades to stay in. If you're doubting your grades and you're really concerned about that, that same doubt might just pass on to the member you're speaking with and make her less sure about inviting you back.

tunatartare · #7 12-12-2006, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Jill1228

so was she dropped like a bad habit? It woulda served her ass right!

No she got in, albeit by a technicality that prevented the girls from dropping her. They were not happy about it.

ΑΓΔSquirrelGirl · #8 01-23-2007, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by tunatartare

We had a girl come through one year who not only did this, but also told the other three sororities that she's a legacy to EFG through her sister and that it's "taken care of."

She should've been dropped for that! And it's so bad for her too...what if she in the end decides she wants to join another chapter after all? They won't want her.

tunatartare · #9 01-23-2007, 10:49 PM

No one could drop her. At my school we weren't allowed to cut anyone before pref.

VeniceIsSinking · #10 01-24-2007, 09:19 PM

I really can't say how wonderful all you girls are for taking time to give your input and experience in this thread.

This is absolutely a great way to learn more about rushing. I'm already nervous about formal fall rush all of the posts in this thread really calmed me!

I do have a question, since this really wasn't a topic I saw discussed already, about some of your past rushing experiences:

Last year I had a few run-ins and I'm wondering what your personal take would be. First off I had some words with a member of panhallenic regarding my grades. I felt like I was being discrimnated slightly and I let her know. Everything seems fine now and that particular member seems fine towards me. To top that off after paying my Rush fee, rsvp'ng etc.. at the last my minute the job I had at the time refused to let me leave. I let my boss know way in advance and he decided to just not fufill my request at literally the last minute (literally!). I had no way to reach my Gamma Chi and she ended up contacting me after check-in. I let her know what happened and how horrible I felt etc..

So, if I am rushing at your school after, all of that ^^^, would you look past it after meeting me? Or would it already have a large impact on your impression? I'm just wondering how to handle it when I get there in August (I'm a planner...and a rambler....).

kddani · #11 01-24-2007, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by VeniceIsSinking

Last year I had a few run-ins and I'm wondering what your personal take would be. First off I had some words with a member of panhallenic regarding my grades. I felt like I was being discrimnated slightly and I let her know.

You had a run-in about grades??? Why do you say you were discriminated against? Yes, sororities do look at your grades, and if you don't make the minimum they can't take you, and if there's another girl with higher grades, they may take her over you. So i'm a bit confused about this....

UGAalum94 · #12 01-24-2007, 09:38 PM

If the person you had the run-in with at panhellenic was a personal friend of mine or a sorority sister, then I'd want to hear about it. I can't figure out why they would know about your grades or how you'd be being discriminated against. Without knowing more, I can't say, but if you were a jerk to someone I liked, then I might not want you as a sister.

I may be misunderstanding the situation.

But even so, where I went to school, a lot of people would be unlikely to even know this occurred, unless it happened in front of a lot of people. If the woman you had the run-in with isn't talking about, it wouldn't be a problem.

If your Gamma Chi hasn't told you that there was a problem, then I guess you're okay there. If you'd broken a rule, I think you'd know by now, and in my opinion, as long as you were really nice to her and she doesn't have to penalize you, she won't. But of course, I don't know.