Almost64's Recruitment Thread (at an SEC school)

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by epchick

/mini hijack

Hahaha..sorry I just had to say that i'm proud of myself. Even though I pretty much know nothing about SEC schools, I knew that almost64 was talking about Vandy! YAY *applause* for me! lol.

/end mini hijack

FYI, it is considered bad form to announce at which school a PNM is rushing, if she does not mention it.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

FYI, it is considered bad form to announce at which school a PNM is rushing, if she does not mention it.

FYI: I didn't not announce the school before the PNM mentioned it. Someone else mentioned it...and the PNM affirmed the school before I said anything.

[Jill1228]

I added you to the list

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by epchick

FYI: I didn't not announce the school before the PNM mentioned it. Someone else mentioned it...and the PNM affirmed the school before I said anything.

My mistake, I quoted the wrong poster, sorry.

[sport]

Good Luck Almost64!

I can sympathize!!! I am also rushing this spring and I'm as nervous as can be!!!!

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

FYI, it is considered bad form to announce at which school a PNM is rushing, if she does not mention it.

If she was really concerned about that, she wouldn't have mentioned the following:

-SEC
-Deferred rush

[almost64]

yeah, I really didn't care all that much about making the name of the school public, I just wasn't sure if it was OK to say it. After all, there have got to be at least 400-500 girls rushing, and I haven't given out my name or anything like that.

I think that in my case, the school is an important part of how my rush will turn out. Since the SEC is notoriously competitive, my lack of recs, legacies, new outfits for every single round (don't have the time to go shopping for 7 new outfits!), etc. will probably make an impact on my rushing.

I dunno, maybe someone else at a school similar to mine can learn from my experience/result? haha, like....learn not to trust a single word that comes out of your GA's mouth. I wonder if when she said "oh yeah, don't worry, I didn't have a single rec and I didn't have issues getting cut from tons of houses because of it," she was just lying?

[kdonline]

Originally Posted by almost64

I dunno, maybe someone else at a school similar to mine can learn from my experience/result? haha, like....learn not to trust a single word that comes out of your GA's mouth. I wonder if when she said "oh yeah, don't worry, I didn't have a single rec and I didn't have issues getting cut from tons of houses because of it," she was just lying?

There could be some truth to it.

Some alumnae write recs without ever telling the PNM about it. I did.

When I was a high school teacher, I wrote many recs for my students, even those who did not tell me if they were rushing. I just sent the recs to their school's chapters (and passed their names on to my friends in other sororities so they could do the same).

We all know that women's minds change quickly. "Oh, everyone in my hall was rushing, so I signed up at the last minute!"

Good luck!

[aopirose]

Originally Posted by kdonline

Some alumnae write recs without ever telling the PNM about it. I did.

Me too. I'll scan the registration lists from our Alumnae Panhellenics and I'll see some familiar names. If I know the family well enough, I won't need to call for additional information.

[33girl]

Official Panhellenic policy and official policy for many sororities is that the sorority will obtain a rec for the woman if one is needed to give her a bid. So your GA really wasn't lying to you.

Of course, official policy isn't always what is actually happening.

[Buttonz]

Good luck! I hope your able to get at least a few recs before rush starts.

Did you go to HS in the area? If so, maybe some of your teachers went ahead and sent them in without you knowing?

[Denise_DPhiE]

Originally Posted by aopirose

Me too. I'll scan the registration lists from our Alumnae Panhellenics and I'll see some familiar names. If I know the family well enough, I won't need to call for additional information.

That is wonderful!

Denise

[REE1993]

Were you born here? I too am a first-generation American. The fact that both your parents grew up and schooled in Europe, and (I am guessing) that your family is very immersed in your ethnic culture, might be very interesting to many sisters.

Americans tend to think that Europeans are "cool". Especially if you speak another language. I would definitely embrace your culture. I am not sure how much of a part of your life your heritage plays, but in my case, I grew up very Italian. It's part of my identity. Obviously, I didn't show up to rush waving the Italian flag and speaking Italian, but if it is part of who you are, don't let that hold you back.

The suggestions that the women here have given you is great. I am in a non-NPC sorority, so I did not face the rec issue, but reaching out an meeting alums is a great idea, regardless. Good luck, and I hope that you find a sisterhood to "come home to".

Just remember, discretion is extremely important in these threads.

[UGAalum94]

Good luck, Almost 64! If rush is in January, you may be able to still some recs. sent. It almost certainly won't ruin your rush not to have them, but it does help. If a group really needs one, and they love you during rush, they can probably get one.

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

See my post above.