Almost64's Recruitment Thread (at an SEC school)

[REE1993]

Were you born here? I too am a first-generation American. The fact that both your parents grew up and schooled in Europe, and (I am guessing) that your family is very immersed in your ethnic culture, might be very interesting to many sisters.

Americans tend to think that Europeans are "cool". Especially if you speak another language. I would definitely embrace your culture. I am not sure how much of a part of your life your heritage plays, but in my case, I grew up very Italian. It's part of my identity. Obviously, I didn't show up to rush waving the Italian flag and speaking Italian, but if it is part of who you are, don't let that hold you back.

The suggestions that the women here have given you is great. I am in a non-NPC sorority, so I did not face the rec issue, but reaching out an meeting alums is a great idea, regardless. Good luck, and I hope that you find a sisterhood to "come home to".

Just remember, discretion is extremely important in these threads.

[UGAalum94]

Good luck, Almost 64! If rush is in January, you may be able to still some recs. sent. It almost certainly won't ruin your rush not to have them, but it does help. If a group really needs one, and they love you during rush, they can probably get one.

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Alphagamuga

Highjack about recs:

Does anyone know why the official word from Greek Life about recs is so often wrong? Why don't they tell the girls up front that it's good to have recs for as many different groups as you can?

Anyone who works in greek life, can you tell us?

See my post above.

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally Posted by almost64

I thought about trying to get some earlier in the year, but my Greek Ambassador (other schools' equivalents of Rho Chi, I think?), said that they really aren't necessary and it really doesn't hurt you if you don't have them, blah blah. Ah, the process was soooo confusing. Then she said that if a chapter wants a rec for you, they'll get one and that it's not your responsibility, which I didn't really understand but was too much of a shy freshman to ask about. So I was like "ok dont have to do anything," and then later found out that EVERYONE seems to have a whole portfolio organized.

I really, really hate it that many PNMs get told this! They said the same thing when I registered for rush, and dummy me turned down several recs because I assumed that they weren't necessary. After all, the brochure Panhellenic sent out said it was so! Not everyone is coached practically from birth on how to have a successful rush and it's not fair to assume that PNMs will just automatically know what a rec is or how to get one. At some schools it doesn't make too big a difference--everything ended up OK for me--but on other campuses it's a completely different story. Please don't feel bad that you didn't secure recs earlier...how were you supposed to know?

I wish Panhellenics would be a little more forthcoming about this kind of thing instead of just saying, "Oh, don't worry! If they like you enough, they'll get a rec for you!"