Should I rush?

adpiucf · #1 12-05-2006, 05:30 PM

My parents weren't supportive, but I decided that since I was paying for college that I would be making the decisions on how to spend my time and my money, especially since I was working my way through. On Bid Day, I got a really nice surprise: not only did I get my first choice but my parents were so happy for me that they paid my entire first semester's dues. After that, they remained a bit skeptical of the value of my membership, but we won them over during Parents Weekend. Since then, they have met my Greek friends and sorority sisters, and have come to see it is a supportive and enriching environment.

tinkerbellnell · #2 12-05-2006, 06:37 PM

My parents arent really that supportive. They think that its dangerous, because they believe the things that are shown in movies. But, they can trust that if I was in a situation where there could be physical harm that I wouldnt just go along with it. Its dissapointing to me that they think so badly about an organization that Im looking to join myself with for life, but hopefully with time as I go through rush and then hopefully new membering (keep your fingers crossed) they will understand.

AGDee · #3 12-05-2006, 09:49 PM

My dad was totally supportive because he is a TKE. My mom, however, was not at all supportive because she wasn't in a sorority and dated a TKE. Apparently, the sorority women at that time (late 50's) weren't too pleased that a GDI was dating a fraternity man and treated her poorly. Once I had joined though, and she had attended our first Mother-Daughter tea, she was so impressed with the women in my chapter that she became very supportive. She is still supportive as I'm involved as an alumna now. She recently said "I think that sorority thing you do is a really good thing".

icicle22 · #4 12-06-2006, 10:00 AM

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Originally Posted by tinkerbellnell

My parents arent really that supportive. They think that its dangerous, because they believe the things that are shown in movies. But, they can trust that if I was in a situation where there could be physical harm that I wouldnt just go along with it. Its dissapointing to me that they think so badly about an organization that Im looking to join myself with for life, but hopefully with time as I go through rush and then hopefully new membering (keep your fingers crossed) they will understand.

I would most likely discuss it gradually with your parents if I were you...just as I will as well.

DeltaBetaBaby · #5 12-07-2006, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by icicle22

I would most likely discuss it gradually with your parents if I were you...just as I will as well.

Please don't be the person who rushes first and then tells your parents that you just pledged. It doesn't sound like this is your plan, but remember that it takes a spot away from someone else.

AGDLynn · #6 12-07-2006, 10:58 PM

Some chapters may have a delayed payment plan to ease the "pain" of joining although they may have rule that when you pledge, all outstanding monies have to be paid before you "walk down the aisle" or whatever at Initiation..once you are initiated, it may be easier to be approved for a promissory note or whatever.

Yes, GPA is very important. Most chapters have specific rules about studying. For example, let's say that a group has a rule that those below a 3.0 have to do some proctored hours each week..the farther away you are from the 3.0, the more you have to be proctored.

Yes, it's cool to see some famous person and be able to say "that's my sister or brother"..even though you'll never actually meet them. Of course, it's also neat to find out that the person living across the street is your sister or brother".

And it's fun when you "meet" on GC and then actually meet them in real person.

icicle22 · #7 12-16-2006, 12:03 PM

An update.
Well, I've just seen my fall semester grades and they are below par...except for one class, luckily enough. So I think I'm going to rush next year, because by then, I might have better grades by then.

OhSoSmoothKalyn · #8 12-16-2006, 01:13 PM

Well, fortunately I had a mother and father who were both greek and were encouraging me to rush since, oh about 5th grade lol... I was told about the high ideals of scholarship to the Greek Community, the involvement, etc... I was rushed by my own parents lol!!

But... I had an Aunt who was against me joining anything... she basicially said that greek organizations focus on drinking and partying... and that certainly isn't true... people, like my aunt, who aren't greek, will generalize and make assumptions...

I definitely encourage you to go through recruitment! It's a great way to meet people and a wonderful way to get involved on campus... if your parents are still adamant on you not joining a greek organization, check and see if there is a parent's guide to Greek Life in your Student Life office... I know at my school there are plenty! This helps parents get an insight to what Greek Life promotes and eases them a little bit...

I agree with Delta Beta Baby, don't be the girl who pledges and then has to drop because she didn't tell her parents... that only makes things worse for the sorority and you

I'm sure you won't, but it's better to tell them upfront than to lie to them... it happened to a girl in my pledge class when I pledged in Fall 2005... not pretty...

Best of Luck to you!
-Kalyn