Are black guys really better in bed?

[thesweetestone]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

And if anything, Cheerfulgreek, I as an African American highly educated woman, say go get yourself some big big Mandingo dick fast so you can get over your fetish so as to let us true and real sistahs have a wonderful time in the 'hood workin' it...

This is the only statement on the thread that I've found to be offensive. I can't see how the original question could compare to your statements.

[DSTKellie]

Originally Posted by thesweetestone

This is the only statement on the thread that I've found to be offensive. I can't see how the original question could compare to your statements.

How was that offensive?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DSTKellie

How was that offensive?

As much as I rolled my eyes at the original poster's comment, I thought that AKA_Monet's comment was just as bad.

As for why:
a) the implication that this is some fixation that white girls have
b) the implication that the OP just wanted to act on said fixation
c) the implication that white girls liking black guys is a fetish
d) the implication that only black women - "real and true sistahs" should date black men

Btw, I get what "Mandingo" is supposed to mean, but I've never ever heard this term before.

However misguided, this isn't exactly an uncommon question. It shouldn't be treated as a sign of an unhealthy fixation.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

Btw, I get what "Mandingo" is supposed to mean, but I've never ever heard this term before.

Get out more - you've really never heard this term?

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

Get out more - you've really never heard this term?

Yes, seriously. And your witty image doesn't accept hotlinking.

Like I said, I got what it meant and I've heard other terms meaning the same thing.

[DSTKellie]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

As much as I rolled my eyes at the original poster's comment, I thought that AKA_Monet's comment was just as bad.

As for why:
a) the implication that this is some fixation that white girls have
b) the implication that the OP just wanted to act on said fixation
c) the implication that white girls liking black guys is a fetish
d) the implication that only black women - "real and true sistahs" should date black men

Btw, I get what "Mandingo" is supposed to mean, but I've never ever heard this term before.

However misguided, this isn't exactly an uncommon question. It shouldn't be treated as a sign of an unhealthy fixation.

Hmm point taken but I think she was being facetious....but i could be wrong.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DSTKellie

Hmm point taken but I think she was being facetious....but i could be wrong.

Very possibly, but what was almost certainly an honest question received a reply that insulted not only the OP but also by implication interracial relationships and white women in general.

[DSTKellie]

Well she may have had an honest question but it seemed very silly and ignorant to me which is why people responded the way that they did. I was not offended by the question but I just thought it was silly.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by DSTKellie

Well she may have had an honest question but it seemed very silly and ignorant to me which is why people responded the way that they did. I was not offended by the question but I just thought it was silly.

I agree with that assessment, like I said earlier, I was rolling my eyes at the OP too.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

As much as I rolled my eyes at the original poster's comment, I thought that AKA_Monet's comment was just as bad.

As for why:
a) the implication that this is some fixation that white girls have
b) the implication that the OP just wanted to act on said fixation
c) the implication that white girls liking black guys is a fetish
d) the implication that only black women - "real and true sistahs" should date black men

You tell me how it is different with just a change in wording with what homegirl stated to "killing" or the "murdering" of African American men?

[Drolefille]

You tell me how it is different with just a change in wording with what homegirl stated to "killing" or the "murdering" of African American men?

Whiskey Tango Foxtrot?

Seriously, um, are you saying that her original post should have been something like "EVER KILLED A BLACK MAN?" Because that doesn't make sense. You may want to clarify your comment if you'd actually like a reply...

[Sistermadly]

Originally Posted by Drolefille

However misguided, this isn't exactly an uncommon question. It shouldn't be treated as a sign of an unhealthy fixation.

Anytime you reduce 50% of an entire race to their (alleged) sexual prowess, it's an unhealthy fixation. It's objectification. It's reducing them to their body parts, and nothing else.

This is especially touchy for (some, I'm not going to say all) black folks, because these same body parts that (some) white girls get so "unhealthily fixated" on were the same body parts that were/are routinely cut off when black men were/are lynched for supposed "transgressions" with white women.

Maybe it's on us, but when you've got history like that in your back pocket, it's hard to look at this "uncommon question" in a favorable light. She didn't come in here and say "I'm interested in dating a black guy I know, but I don't know how to approach him - can anyone share their experiences", she came in here asking if brothers are swinging their almighty clubs and if they really got it like that. There's a huge difference, and that difference is what some of us are objecting to.

Capice?

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by Sistermadly

Anytime you reduce 50% of an entire race to their (alleged) sexual prowess, it's an unhealthy fixation. It's objectification. It's reducing them to their body parts, and nothing else.

This is especially touchy for (some, I'm not going to say all) black folks, because these same body parts that (some) white girls get so "unhealthily fixated" on were the same body parts that were/are routinely cut off when black men were/are lynched for supposed "transgressions" with white women.

Maybe it's on us, but when you've got history like that in your back pocket, it's hard to look at this "uncommon question" in a favorable light. She didn't come in here and say "I'm interested in dating a black guy I know, but I don't know how to approach him - can anyone share their experiences", she came in here asking if brothers are swinging their almighty clubs and if they really got it like that. There's a huge difference, and that difference is what some of us are objecting to.

Capice?

It's objectification that has been used as a foundation to oppress a people. Our features were clowned but admired at the same time. This is why white women have historically fantasized about being "taken" by a black man and whites have had lip injections. White women historically used black men as a weapon to piss off white men ("he winked at me") and white men preserved white women's purity by taking advantage of black women's sexuality.

People aren't inquisitive about black people's intellect and overall culture. They want to know about black people's sexuality and whether we can dance to hip hop.

This is why I am thrilled when I read about HBCUs and BGLOs focusing on scholarship and service. Not to prove a point to whites and other nonblacks, just to remind ourselves that we do way more than dance a jig and have sex.

[starang21]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

white men preserved white women's purity by taking advantage of black women's sexuality.

hey....

that's not why I do it.

[DSTCHAOS]

Originally Posted by starang21

hey....

that's not why I do it.

you're the yellowist white man i've ever seen

and you don't take advantage of anything but your calculator