how to deal with a cheater?

[James]

Bail now

Yes you could stay and try and play him, if you are cold, cynical, and good enough. But why bother? You still have a worthless guy on your hands that you are going to be spending way too much time thinking about.

Also, keep in mind that you heard it from a source that was supposedly a good enough friend of this guy that tyour BF confided in him. Regardless of how good friends you think you are, that is a serious infraction of the guy code. IT sounds like your friend has some type of like for you that is stronger than mere friendship. Which also makes his information suspect. Faithless friend, don't tell him a secret.

This guy has destroyed your relationship and left you in a position where you can't verify his information. And one way or the other the relationship is now over, its real hard to reover from accusations like that. So walk away now, before you hurt yourself more. If you want the truth confront him with it citing the friend. Screw him, if he is going to make the accusation he can stand up and own up to it. Otherwise he shouldn't have told you.

Good luck.