What would you do if your daughter....

[DSTCHAOS]

AKA2D'91 is a meanie.

My daughter will pay for whatever organization she joins. Even Delta. I would love for it to be Delta. But I know she'll work for the community whether she's a Delta or not in any sorority at all.

That girl in that photo is so pretty and adorable. Unfortunately, those are the types of children who sometimes end up becoming something other than what their parents are. You drill XYZ in them all their lives to the point of having them taking pics with the handsign or wearing "future XYZ" outfits. They become so disgusted with the whole thing and don't want any part of XYZ when they get grown.

[1908Revelations]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

My daughter will pay for whatever organization she joins. Even Delta. I would love for it to be Delta. But I know she'll work for the community whether she's a Delta or not in any sorority at all.

I do not have any children, but should I have a daughter of course I would want her to be a soror, but like other GC'ers have said about forcing them...that is not my plan. I would hate for her to join and resent the org because she felt like she had to be an AKA. Exposure......oh heck yeah! But at the end of the day she is going to have to decided which sorority (if any) she would like to belong to. Also, I paid my own way by pinching pennies. I am not saying I will not assist, but sororities are not mandatory! Books, food, clothing, ect. are.

[SummerChild]

Don't have kids but if I had a daughter, I'd want her to be a Soror. Now, no matter what she wants to do, she WILL pay for it herself. If I can do it, I hope that I will raise her to be the kind of young woman that can do it on her own too.

SC

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by 1908Revelations

I paid my own way by pinching pennies. I am not saying I will not assist, but sororities are not mandatory! Books, food, clothing, ect. are.

I was mad at my parents for not helping me pay. I understand priorities but man a sista could've used a little help.
I don't have a daughter but if I did I will be honest and say that in my heart I would want her to be a soRHOr, but I would support her no matter what her decision. My family consisted of only Delta's (2 aunts, godmother, 3 cousins) until one of my cousins took a turn down AKA ave. Although there was some pressure on her to be a Delta, she had to go with what was right for her. Another cousin after her also happily joined AKA. Fast forward to me and to another cousin (who both were being groomed for Delta/AKA by the other family members), we took a stRHOll down SGRho lane. It was the best choice for us. I am grateful that my family accepted our choice and was proud of us. Fast forward again to 2 of my little cousins, (who were being lightly pushed by all of us) and they have both joined Zeta. Everyone must choose their own path. I will be happy for my nieces/cousins/daughter decision although I would prefer SGRHO to be that decision. With that being said, I'm not so sure that I would be supportive of my daughter joining a sorority that is NOT one of the D9.

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

...I'm not so sure that I would be supportive of my daughter joining a sorority that is NOT one of the D9.

What would you do if she did?

I don't know what I would do after all these years of hard work in my Sorority. But if I had a daughter and she chose anything but a D9 sorority because she wanted to be obstinent against me, then hey, I love her and I would let her pursue her dreams.

However, given my age and my husband, I would not be have any kind of child going any greek organization.

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

What would you do if she did?

I don't know what I would do after all these years of hard work in my Sorority. But if I had a daughter and she chose anything but a D9 sorority because she wanted to be obstinent against me, then hey, I love her and I would let her pursue her dreams.

However, given my age and my husband, I would not be have any kind of child going any greek organization.

Ya'll can borrow one of mine...

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by pinkies up

Ya'll can borrow one of mine...

I may ceremoniously get my little nephew who needs his butt whooped bigtime! I am really angry about that. My Soror Mom has a Ph.D. in education, is a retired elementary school principal, a mentor teacher/administrator; teaches classes at San Diego State University and all she does now is run after this ~3 year old boy that just lied to me on the phone about not going to bed... Like, I was born yesterday!

I'm tellin' you, that kid gives me lip, he will be lucky to see somethings again...

[pinkies up]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

I may ceremoniously get my little nephew who needs his butt whooped bigtime! I am really angry about that. My Soror Mom has a Ph.D. in education, is a retired elementary school principal, a mentor teacher/administrator; teaches classes at San Diego State University and all she does now is run after this ~3 year old boy that just lied to me on the phone about not going to bed... Like, I was born yesterday!

I'm tellin' you, that kid gives me lip, he will be lucky to see somethings again...

LOL!!!!

[IncontRHOllable]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

What would you do if she did?

I don't know what I would do after all these years of hard work in my Sorority. But if I had a daughter and she chose anything but a D9 sorority because she wanted to be obstinent against me, then hey, I love her and I would let her pursue her dreams.

However, given my age and my husband, I would not be have any kind of child going any greek organization.

You know, SGRHO is my heart, but I hold all of my D9 sisters in high regard (Dang, now I am smiling thinking about how excited our neos from a reactivated chapter were to be welcomed back on the campus by the AKAs and Deltas on campus and was asked to collaborate with them on some projects...oh the love....)
If my daughter did not want to join one of our illustrious orgs, then I would be offended and hurt. All of our orgs are full of educated, respectable women who serve our communities well. What more could a girl ask for? If she opted for an org outside of the D9, then I guess I would have no choice but to support her although I would definitely have to list my objections to her.

[SummerChild]

Whew! I was just reading this post and got a hot flash at the thought of my niece joining anything else but AKA. Whew, that was scary for a minute. LOL.

I can't even see it but stranger things have happened I guess. LOL.

When I told her that I was an AKA a few years ago when she was about 2 or 3 she replied, "*I'm* an AKA!" I loooooved hearing that little voice say that! Maybe I better start indoctrinating her now at the ripe old age of 7. I can't risk her joining another organization. LOL.

However, I STILL say that she will pay for it HERSELF. If she wants it, let her save up her money and pay for it. She will be a capable woman...I hope.

SC

Originally Posted by IncontRHOllable

I was mad at my parents for not helping me pay. I understand priorities but man a sista could've used a little help.
I don't have a daughter but if I did I will be honest and say that in my heart I would want her to be a soRHOr, but I would support her no matter what her decision. My family consisted of only Delta's (2 aunts, godmother, 3 cousins) until one of my cousins took a turn down AKA ave. Although there was some pressure on her to be a Delta, she had to go with what was right for her. Another cousin after her also happily joined AKA. Fast forward to me and to another cousin (who both were being groomed for Delta/AKA by the other family members), we took a stRHOll down SGRho lane. It was the best choice for us. I am grateful that my family accepted our choice and was proud of us. Fast forward again to 2 of my little cousins, (who were being lightly pushed by all of us) and they have both joined Zeta. Everyone must choose their own path. I will be happy for my nieces/cousins/daughter decision although I would prefer SGRHO to be that decision. With that being said, I'm not so sure that I would be supportive of my daughter joining a sorority that is NOT one of the D9.

[RozRochelle]

That wouldn't be a problem for me. My sorority is for women who fall under the "non-traditional student" umbrella, anyway. Besides, I would never let my sorority (or any other organization) rise to such an important level in my life that it became an object of idolatry.

[Akception]

Originally Posted by RozRochelle

That wouldn't be a problem for me. My sorority is for women who fall under the "non-traditional student" umbrella, anyway. Besides, I would never let my sorority (or any other organization) rise to such an important level in my life that it became an object of idolatry.

Idolatry, never, but I must say that being in the presence of awesome sorors or basking in their legacy is an honor. Hailing from Winston-Salem, NC, AKA's have a proud past, present, and future here. While I don't have any children yet, I do have a wonderful one year old niece. She too will be an AKA, if I have something to say about it! I figure since I am the first in my family to be in a sorority, I get to make the rules!! I also have a little cousin who just told me that she wanted to be a Delta...*faints*...lol... but on the real, I think that women should want to pledge AKA, but if they don't, then it is okay because the ones who want to will, not matter what. As for paying for my niece to be a part of the organization, well, I would love to. That gives me some time, seeing that she just turned one in March!!

[RozRochelle]

Originally Posted by Akception

Idolatry, never, but I must say that being in the presence of awesome sorors or basking in their legacy is an honor. Hailing from Winston-Salem, NC, AKA's have a proud past, present, and future here. While I don't have any children yet, I do have a wonderful one year old niece. She too will be an AKA, if I have something to say about it! I figure since I am the first in my family to be in a sorority, I get to make the rules!! I also have a little cousin who just told me that she wanted to be a Delta...*faints*...lol... but on the real, I think that women should want to pledge AKA, but if they don't, then it is okay because the ones who want to will, not matter what. As for paying for my niece to be a part of the organization, well, I would love to. That gives me some time, seeing that she just turned one in March!!

I don't see being in another human being's presence as an honor, because to ME that belief, conversely, implies that I am less of a person than they are, and therefore am not worthy to be in their presence. In my mind, that "position" is reserved for God. Don't get me wrong, I deeply respect accomplished black women - and I do have my "she-roes" - but there is a limit to my admiration of them. There's a fine line between admiring and idolizing.

Now, as for "grooming" daughters, neices, cousins, etc for membership in your respective organizations? I say "y'all be scheming!", LOL.

[firecracker08]

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

My daughter will pay for whatever organization she joins.

What a great way to impress upon her the financial responsibilities!

[Dst4lyfe]

Id be mad lol but my sister brought me up this way when wuz 8 my motto was when i grow up i will walk under the crinsom and cream unbrellawuz a del teen through out my middle and high school year and all the . i members became my soror's we would do our stroll through out every were and i want my daughter to be apart of our legcy. even though we have 2 aunts that were aka's and a cussion. we want the gurl in out family to see the Skeee Weeee lightour the OOO--OOPP light but if she pleages anything outside of that we will have some problems there will be no zetas or anthing else in my house lol