Interracial relationships, the acid test of racism?

[dst2004]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I know this thread is old but I recently got asked out by a girl in XYZ sorority. I think she just wants to be friends I guess. I hope . She's kool and attractive, but even though we are all GOD's creations, I know when we go eat or wherever we hang out, it's going to cause some snares and stares. LOL Seriously though, it just feels awkward.

I understand that and I've been through that, but you have to be confident in yourself enough to ignore all of that stuff. It will bother you at times, but you if you really like a person you can't let what other people do or say effect what you do.

[RU OX Alum]

I think that maybe, we could use a refresher of the only thing I've ever read (and hoped you have too) that I thought was absolutely true, and will be true forever, in all times, at any place, anywhere in the universe:

Love Conquers All


That's from Virgil. I couldn't spell the Latin. But think about it, really, think about that for a minute. If it was love, true love, then you wouldn't think twice about the color of the skin, etc. You wouldn't care at all. Well, you might care, and others might care, but if it was true love, it wouldn't mattered if you cared. You'll care that you get stared at. But it won't matter, and it probablly won't enter your head, because you'll be in love. They'll be staring at you b/c black/white but all you will think of that, if you notice the stares at all, is that they are staring at the same thing you are...her belu eyes. (i like girls with blue eyes, but this is just an example, and I hope it was clear enough that you got it)

In closing

skin color= an interesting aside [at least in dating, i know this has more implications in life, but not in love]

true love = the most important thing on earth and the most powerful force in the universe.

True Love is stronger than even the A-Bomb.

(that last line was an example of hyperbole)

[dst2004]

You are absolutely right.

[Marie]

Yeah...no. Love does not conquer all. If it did, then people would be getting divorced as often as they do. In real life, people who are in love either fall out of love or just decide to end it b/c other issues/problems become too great to overcome. Usually it may be things like finances or lack of communication or trust. However depending on your lifestyle, family, background, etc. then race may also cause you insurmountable troubles. I'm not saying that you can't have a successful relationship w/someone of a different race. I'm just saying that we have to be real and admit that for some people it will create an uphill battle for success, which you just might lose.

[RU OX Alum]

true love conquers all......if it didn't, people wouldn't stay married when one of them has to move, etc. People get divorced because it wasn't true love.

[dst2004]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

true love conquers all......if it didn't, people wouldn't stay married when one of them has to move, etc. People get divorced because it wasn't true love.

You are so right. If people are getting divorced over issures, such as money, lack of trust, or race, is because they wasn't any true love there from the beginning. I learn from my parents. They have been through a lot of ups and down, but they have been married for 35 years. No matter what obstacles they have faced and will face they will always love each other. A lot of people don't know anything about that kind of love, though. They take marriage too lightly.

[RU OX Alum]

Originally Posted by dst2004

You are so right. If people are getting divorced over issures, such as money, lack of trust, or race, is because they wasn't any true love there from the beginning. I learn from my parents. They have been through a lot of ups and down, but they have been married for 35 years. No matter what obstacles they have faced and will face they will always love each other. A lot of people don't know anything about that kind of love, though. They take marriage too lightly.

I don't know if I would say they take marriage lightly, but I think people marry usually because "its time" or they don't want to end up alone. In either case they are marrying for the wrong reasons, conformity to societal norms or fear of being alone. Peer presure and fear are both the wrong answer to "why did you get married" the only right answer "we are in love"

[Marie]

Originally Posted by RU OX Alum

true love conquers all......if it didn't, people wouldn't stay married when one of them has to move, etc. People get divorced because it wasn't true love.

I'm sure that there are many many people who will disagree with you. You really have to be careful about placing too much confidence in love or true love or whatever other kind of love you want to call it. It really is fragile and not this indestructable emotion that we tend to assume it is. It (along with the overall relationship) needs to be nurtured and developed. When you assume that it is immune to stress then you can become neglectful of it, your partner, your relationship, or your responsibilities...all of which contribute to the relationship failing.

[Still BLUTANG]

I moonlight as a photographer in a mall shop. Last night i was @ work and this cute young couple comes in. black guy, white girl, and young son maybe 2-3 mos old.

they want just the baby, but i made sure to get some with dad and baby and then mom and baby. I asked them if they wanted a couples shot or family shot for their last pose, and they hesitated. The girl told me they are not TOGETHER but it would be nice to have a family picture to give the child when he's old enough to start asking questions (and if i do say so myself, it was a great portrait).

As they're viewing the shots the chick said to babydaddy "Your mom would like this. we can get her one. Too bad we won't be able to send this anyone on my side."

I was WTF?!?!?! but sad at the same time. I can't imagine my parents not accepting my child or my child's father. I'm not a parent tho, so maybe its just something i won't ever understand.

Anyway, i write all that to say people need to stop trippin on this interracial thing. Especially disowning / not acknowledging the children who are born from these relationships.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by dst2004

I understand that and I've been through that, but you have to be confident in yourself enough to ignore all of that stuff. It will bother you at times, but you if you really like a person you can't let what other people do or say effect what you do.

You're right, but I would just rather do without all of the drama. But you're absolutley right.

[dst2004]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

You're right, but I would just rather do without all of the drama. But you're absolutley right.

I feel you. I'd rather not deal with all the drama, but I'm glad that you feel where I'm coming from.