odd question

Adelphean · #1 10-06-2006, 09:10 AM

Just go in her room and collect your stuff. Tell her that you did that and make it clear to her that she is not to "borrow" it again.

Conversation should go something like this:

You: Just so you know I went into your room and got all my stuff back.
Her: Why?
You: Becuase it's my stuff and I want it back.
Her: But you said I could borrow it.
You: I changed my mind.
Her: Well, can I at least use your glass for the house party?
You: No, and you can't wear my shirts. You're not an ADPi, therefore you can't wear my letters. So do not go in my room again or take anything that is mine.

Then... stand by what you say, if she continues to steal your stuff, talk to your RA (I assume you live on campus).

lyrica9 · #2 10-06-2006, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Adelphean

Just go in her room and collect your stuff. Tell her that you did that and make it clear to her that she is not to "borrow" it again.

Then... stand by what you say, if she continues to steal your stuff, talk to your RA (I assume you live on campus).

i did just go get my shirts from her room.
and you assume wrong, i live in an off-campus apartment. i'm a senior and i think i would kill myself if i had to live on campus again.

lyrica9 · #3 10-07-2006, 05:51 AM

hey ladies, i just wanted to say thanks for your help. i don't think i'm going to have to say anything, because it looks as though she will be moving out. she came home really drunk tonight, and a situation escalated with a friend of hers physically threatening me, and i called the cops.. and it's a big sticky situation that i believe ends in her moving out. she started breaking things in my room, i'm really scared right now, and i've got my room locked and i'm staying downstairs tonight. she's asleep so the situation is calm for now, but i really need your thoughts and prayers to get through this one.

sdsuchelle · #4 10-07-2006, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by lyrica9

hey ladies, i just wanted to say thanks for your help. i don't think i'm going to have to say anything, because it looks as though she will be moving out. she came home really drunk tonight, and a situation escalated with a friend of hers physically threatening me, and i called the cops.. and it's a big sticky situation that i believe ends in her moving out. she started breaking things in my room, i'm really scared right now, and i've got my room locked and i'm staying downstairs tonight. she's asleep so the situation is calm for now, but i really need your thoughts and prayers to get through this one.

Oh my goodness :-/

Well I guess we should all be glad that she isn't an ADPi. Haha.

honeychile · #5 10-07-2006, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by lyrica9

hey ladies, i just wanted to say thanks for your help. i don't think i'm going to have to say anything, because it looks as though she will be moving out. she came home really drunk tonight, and a situation escalated with a friend of hers physically threatening me, and i called the cops.. and it's a big sticky situation that i believe ends in her moving out. she started breaking things in my room, i'm really scared right now, and i've got my room locked and i'm staying downstairs tonight. she's asleep so the situation is calm for now, but i really need your thoughts and prayers to get through this one.

Wow! Talk about your psychos - no wonder she's not in a sorority! Glad you're out of harm's way, and I'll be praying for you.

HBADPi · #6 10-08-2006, 12:15 PM

Hugs to you! Sorry shes been so much trouble

texas*princess · #7 10-08-2006, 02:44 PM

whoa. i can't believe i missed this one.

sorry that this girl is such a psycho.

i think you were right in taking what is yours... she has no respect for anything of yours if she is drinking in bidday/alpha retreat/whatever shirts.

I'm sure she has a closet full of shirts of her own and a cupboard full of cups to take to work. It's really funny (to me anyway) that she said she hates sororities but tries so hard to look like she was in one.

i'm really glad you called the proper authorities... hopefully she will move out and you can concentrate on your school stuff.

adpiucf · #8 10-08-2006, 04:33 PM

To be fair, there's a decent amount of psychos in sororities, too. Sounds like she suffers from poor self-esteem and she gets an ego boost of looking like she is in a sorority and knowngly drinking in your letters. I hope she'll move out, but regardless, all future roommates need to know in advance that you look forward to being roommates, but using/wearing your sorority things are strictly offlimits. Be clear so there is no question on where you stand.

She sounds like a freak. You should go in her room and take the photos off her dresser and put them on yours. She can ask why you did that and you can say, "Well, I don't want to be in your family. I just want to look like I am..."

Roommate conflicts will occur for the rest of your life. Take the time now to learn to be assertive, b/c this silliness doesn't end when you graduate, have professionals as roommates or even a husband and kids as roommates. Take a stand and lay down rules.