KitKat's Fall Recruitment story

KSUViolet06 · #1 09-19-2006, 11:16 PM

You are allowed to rush as long as you were not previously an initiated member of any of the 26 national panhellenic sororities. So it's okay to rush if you were once in a local, since locals are not part of national panhellenic council.

Buttonz · #2 09-19-2006, 11:26 PM

I really hope you get the choice that you want tomorrow and your happy no matter where you end up!

KitKatMac · #3 09-20-2006, 10:09 AM

Well i went and got my bid and I didn't get a bid to Aquarius which is Alpha Chi Omega, I got one to Libra which is Chi Omega. I'm not really sure how I feel about it yet. To be honest I've been crying since I found out cuz I'm really dissapointed so I'm not sure if I'm going tonight or not.

sailboatgirl · #4 09-20-2006, 10:40 AM

((HUGS))

My thoughts are with you! I know that you will make the decision that is best for you...only you know what that is.

I will add, however, that one of my best friend's had put another chapter first on her card, but got her second choice and got a bid to Sigma. She made the decision through tears to see how things went...attended bid day...began the new member process...and was initiated. She went on to be very active in college (an officer a few years, several chairs, etc.) and is now our alum chapter president.

(Edited for spelling/grammar...hope I got them all!)

NutBrnHair · #5 09-20-2006, 10:41 AM

Wow. I don't know what to say. It's not possible for me to put myself in your shoes completely, but on the other hand...knowing what I know...having had 25+ years of fantastic Sisterhood experiences -- I hope you'll give it a chance.

xo_kathy · #6 09-20-2006, 11:12 AM

First off, Kit Kat, let me say that even though it's my sisterhood that you are not exactly thrilled to be with, I really am sorry you did not get into your first choice. (((Kit Kat)))

Now my advice - and this is the SAME advice I give all women regardless of the org involved -
PLEASE go tonight! Please give pledging some time (at least a month) and see how you feel then! Since you were willing to put Chi O on your pref card, there must be something inside you that says maybe it will work out. You could have SIPd but you didn't, so I personally think that's your sub-consious talking to ya!

I also have a story of a chapter sister who got Chi O as her second choice and was less than thrilled at bid day. She stuck it out and became extrememly involved, held leadership positions and was a huge geek for all things Chi O.

Remember that you didn't meet every sister during recruitment. The girl I mentioned above never met me while she was going through. We ended up being the best of friends. Also, you need to see what the girls in the new member class are like. You didn't really get to meet any of them during recruitment, and they may make all the difference.

So good luck and give it a shot.

On a secondary note about prefs - and this is a general point/question to everyone...
I think just about every house tells every PNM at their pref party that they can really see a girl fitting in there. That's the point of prefs. You only invite to prefs women you really want as part of your sisterhood. So I wouldn't be turned off that they told everyone that - it's true!

I personally would think it's really weird to have a new woman be my main rusher on pref night. But Kit Kat's story is not the first we've heard like this. To people who have done this on the chapter side, what's the rationale for it? Just wondering.

honeychile · #7 09-20-2006, 11:14 AM

May I suggest something? Assuming that most of the other GLOs won't be participating in COR, give it a week or two weeks - a definite but short period of time. See how you like it. If you don't, then cancel your membership and concentrate on becoming active yet scholastically desirable for next year.

Just like most decisions, giving it some time may change how you feel about it. The sole exception would be if you absolutely cannot stand more than one of the other New Members - that could make your life miserable in years to come!

KitKatMac · #8 09-20-2006, 11:23 AM

I just want to let everyone know that after talking to me mother and thinking things over I will be going to bid day tonight. I'm trying to think of all the things I did like about Chi Omega and not the things I didn't like so hopefully things will work out but I'm still very unsure and kind of sad. It is also kind of hard for me to talk to my cousin right now, since she was an alpha chi at this school. I know it will be hard for me to see all the girls running to alpha chi tonight and knowing they were chosen over me. I also want to thank KLPDaisy, your message was really helpful, thanks for taking the time to write to me. I'll try to update you guys later today about how things are going.

tunatartare · #9 09-20-2006, 11:33 AM

Glad to help. Have fun tonight.

adpiucf · #10 09-20-2006, 01:34 PM

Congratulations on Chi Omega. Do give pledgeship a try and give it 100%! Come to the socials, make the new friends, wear the letters and after a month, see if you've come to feel differently. If you give it a fair chance, I think you'll come to see in time with the friendships and memories you'll make: this sorority is number one in your heart!