What do boys think of..

[AKA_Monet]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

No, gross was watching them dance together at our boss' daughter's wedding.

Now 10-15 years your junior... Hey, chickadee was robbin' the cradle...

My husband is 3 years younger than me. But we are both in our 30's.

Before I was married, a young man put it to me like this... When your 50, I'll be 42 and my back will still be good... A woman reaches her "peak" well after her 50's and it pretty much starts in her late 20's to mid-30's...

If chick doesn't wind up with kids or female problems, she's fully functional in the "spin move".

Besides, virgins cannot do the tantra. They don't know where it's at.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by AKA_Monet

Besides, virgins cannot do the tantra. They don't know where it's at.

LOL made me giggle.

actually this has been an issue with all the guys ive dated. on one hand, they found it hot, but it shifted the relationship big time. either they were all over me, trying to hit it, or wouldnt even kiss me. its like, "dayum, i DO know how to control myself, how bout you do the same?"

so it seems to be pretty split. there are guys who think its super hot, cause they think theyll be the first. but then there are guys who HATE it because then there's a chance they WILL be the first, and dont want to handle all the emotional behind it.

[Dionysus]

A possible solution: Use friend sex as a stepping stone to relationship sex?

1. There's not a lot of emotion in friend sex, well it's not supposed to be.

2. Voila, you're no longer a virgin when you cross over into relationship sex, and you had a little "practice".

3. Of course, you don't do this DURING a major relationship, you do it before, lol. And, it may defeat the purpose if you're one of those people looking for "the one".

[KAY10]

I'd rather be with a virgin or a woman with little experience than a freak.

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by KAY10

I'd rather be with a virgin or a woman with little experience than a freak.

I couldn't disagree more.

[KAY10]

Originally Posted by KSig RC

I couldn't disagree more.

Why do you disagree?

[KSig RC]

Originally Posted by KAY10

Why do you disagree?

No one wants to kick it with a disease bag, but honestly the term "freak" doesn't have negative connotation for me - in fact, I think most people want to be with someone who is sexually adventurous, knows what she wants, and is a sexual person.

Now, the average virgin is nowhere near these things - this is not an indictment of virginity; far be it from me to do anything of the like. However, the average virgin simply is not comfortable enough with sex or sexuality, in my (limited) experience, and requires a LOT of patience and 'coaching' (perhaps cajoling, perhaps simply communication - obviously YMMV). "Little experience", not surprisingly, does little to offset this barrier.

Does this mean I would never date a virgin? Of course not. Does this mean the sex with 'a freak' (versus a virgin or someone with little experience) would most likely be (much) better, especially at first? Obviously.

So, when we compare the two, AND ASSUMING ALL OTHER ASPECTS OF THE RELATIONSHIP ARE EQUAL (I'm not going to give you that out), I would obviously prefer the person with whom the sexual aspect started on a much higher level. It just makes sense.