Pledging GF

33girl · #1 09-15-2006, 02:26 PM

That's another issue, completely independent of her pledging.

Get involved in some things on your own that you enjoy that don't include her and that make you feel good about yourself as a person. If you continue to be joined at the hip, as you said, it just increases the chances of the relationship burning out more quickly.

Upenn111 · #2 09-15-2006, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

That's another issue, completely independent of her pledging.

Get involved in some things on your own that you enjoy that don't include her and that make you feel good about yourself as a person. If you continue to be joined at the hip, as you said, it just increases the chances of the relationship burning out more quickly.

Youre probably right... Thata does make sense i guess i just put the two togeather because it started at the same time that rush did... Thanks for all the help.

purplewindex · #3 09-15-2006, 02:41 PM

When I first joined my house, my boyfriend was DEAD against it. He thought I was going to turn into a whore and go down to the fraternities every night and cheat on him or something. I have no idea what he thought, but it was completely unjustified because he and I both knew that I would never cheat on him. I brought him over to the house and he met the girls and then felt comfortable about it. She shouldn't be angry with you for sharing your feelings about her rushing. It can be stressful on a relationship because a sorority is so time consuming, especially when she's on the other side of Recruitment, but if the relationship is meant to be it'll work out.

Hope everything gets better!

Buttonz · #4 09-15-2006, 02:49 PM

Go ahead and get invovled on campus yourself, as many others have suggested.

I understand being worried about her, but realize that her sisters iwll (hopefully) know her situation and they will look out for her just like you do.

When you talk to your GF, you need to do it in a way tha tdoesn't sound like your blaming her, yet still letting her know that your worried.

My BF is very anti-Greek because of some issues he had back as a freshman, but he was always there for me and supported me, and was okay if he wasn't able to come join us at a party, mixer, etc. Even when I went through some rocky times with my sisters, he was the one that was always there for me, and it was great to have him around (along with my other friends) when I needed that sorority break. Hopefully you will be the same for her.

AChiOhSnap · #5 09-15-2006, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Upenn111

Youre probably right... Thata does make sense i guess i just put the two togeather because it started at the same time that rush did... Thanks for all the help.

UPenn, I am still with the same boyfriend I had when I received my bid to Alpha Chi and I guarantee you, I never ever did anything to jeopardize our relationship. She would get drunk at the fraternities with or without a sorority...if your relationship is strong and trusting, nothing will change about her behavior around other men simply because she joins a sorority.

Think of it this way: now all your guy friends are going to be jealous because you now have an "in" to sorority parties.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #6 09-16-2006, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

If you continue to be joined at the hip, as you said, it just increases the chances of the relationship burning out more quickly.

Regardless of whether she's greek......

Kevin · #7 09-16-2006, 04:29 PM

If she cheats on you with some random fraternity man, your relationship probably wouldn't have worked out anyhow in the long run. Stop being so insecure. If your relationship holds together, fine, if her being exposed to a lot of single fraternity men is too much for your relationship to bear, it wasn't meant to be. A little more self-confidence wouldn't hurt you though.

adpiucf · #8 09-16-2006, 04:38 PM

Also, you're worried about her joining a sorority b/c you are the one who monitors her disease?

That's a lame excuse for objecting to her joining. The truth is that you're afraid she's going to go off and cheat on you and hook up with other guys. Trust her not to. She's old enough to control and check her blood sugar. And if she cheats on you, then she's an immature skank and you deserve someone better.

Chill out. You don't have to monitor her blood sugar, dress her for recruitment or drive her spoiled ass around town. She sounds like a perfect nightmare. She has you by the balls. Grow some new ones and either walk away or get involved with an activity so you're not hanging around the house crying in your Cheerios because she is at a chapter meeting.

Kevin · #9 09-16-2006, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by adpiucf

Also, you're worried about her joining a sorority b/c you are the one who monitors her disease?

That's a lame excuse for objecting to her joining. The truth is that you're afraid she's going to go off and cheat on you and hook up with other guys. Trust her not to. She's old enough to control and check her blood sugar. And if she cheats on you, then she's an immature skank and you deserve someone better.

Chill out. You don't have to monitor her blood sugar, dress her for recruitment or drive her spoiled ass around town. She sounds like a perfect nightmare. She has you by the balls. Grow some new ones and either walk away or get involved with an activity so you're not hanging around the house crying in your Cheerios because she is at a chapter meeting.

Perfect.