Don't Marry Career Women - Page 2

Munchkin03 · #16 09-05-2006, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by amycat412

Wow some of the responses about women stayin' home make me feel like we're in the 1950s.

But sadly, it does resonate. I CHOOSE to be single because my overriding ambition scares most men. And I'd rather be who I am, follow my dreams and have fun than make myself less than I am to be in a relationship with someone who believes my place is in the home popping out babies.

I guess I did sound kind of Ward Cleaverish. Men can stay at home too; in fact, my best friend from college's dad stayed at home while his wife did Big Law here in NYC. I just think I have higher standards for the Munchkin Household than the Mr. does, ya know?

DSTRen13 · #17 09-05-2006, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I guess I did sound kind of Ward Cleaverish. Men can stay at home too; in fact, my best friend from college's dad stayed at home while his wife did Big Law here in NYC. I just think I have higher standards for the Munchkin Household than the Mr. does, ya know?

My "Mr." is so much pickier than me, lol. He is constantly horrified my comments I make about childcare, cooking, home maintainance, etc. - there's no way he'd dare let me do it all by myself, since I have apparently been judged completely unfit

blueangel · #18 09-05-2006, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by shinerbock

Whats wrong with the man providing? Its pretty common here for women not to work (at least after she has children).

Why are you assuming all couples want to have children?

KSigkid · #19 09-05-2006, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by amycat412

Wow some of the responses about women stayin' home make me feel like we're in the 1950s.

But sadly, it does resonate. I CHOOSE to be single because my overriding ambition scares most men. And I'd rather be who I am, follow my dreams and have fun than make myself less than I am to be in a relationship with someone who believes my place is in the home popping out babies.

But for some women, they want to stay at home "popping out babies." They work until they have a child, and then they stay at home or work part time. Some women would rather be themselves and stay at home, rather than be someone else and be a career woman.

In the interests of full disclosure, my wife is a career woman, so I can understand that point too.

blueangel · #20 09-05-2006, 10:32 PM

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Originally Posted by KSigkid

But for some women, they want to stay at home "popping out babies." They work until they have a child, and then they stay at home or work part time. Some women would rather be themselves and stay at home, rather than be someone else and be a career woman.

In the interests of full disclosure, my wife is a career woman, so I can understand that point too.

And that's fine too. It's all about choice.

ZTAngel · #21 09-05-2006, 10:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Munchkin03

I don't plan on working when I have children, either. I might work from home part-time to keep my licensure active (I'm an architect), but it won't be my main thing. The quality of a family's life is just so much higher if one person stays at home.

Same here. I'll probably take some night classes and slowly earn my masters or I'll do some freelance work but that's about it. I'll probably go back to working full time once my children are out of elementary school.

My mother was a teacher so I had the luxury of having her there as soon as I came home from school and she was at home during all my breaks from school. She also took off about 5 years from work after I was born so that she could fully devote her time to raising my sister and me. She made us lunch and dinner everyday, took us to all our dance lessons, went to PTA meetings, etc. I don't take it for granted at all. I'm glad that mother was there to watch me. I was closer to her and she was completely involved in my life which helped to keep me out of trouble.

KSig RC · #22 09-05-2006, 10:37 PM

These threads are always retarded, because the level of assumption is through the roof.

Amy, some dudes are probably scared off by your "RAR POWER WOMAN CAREER" status, some are probably scared off by your (comparatively) 'celeb-familiar' lifestyle, and some are probably scared off by your height.

However, some dudes (shinerbock, for instance) just have a different view of what they want from their lifestyle - and honestly, it's not a bad goal, to make enough to give your wife the option to stay at home. It's not implicitly denigrating to women - he's not saying "AND I'LL BEAT THE PISS OUT OF HER IF SHE TALKS BACK" or anything, at least that I know of - it's just a different idea of what is ideal.

It's just that it's not even a discussion - it's a celebration of how our way is best for us (which is probably only partially true), and it never actually goes anywhere. If anything, it should be a reminder of why forcing shit with a significant other is a worthless task - no one really hears other people about this sort of thing. That's why it amazes me when people are contemplating marriage, but fighting over simple ideas like "Should we have kids?"

These kinds of things epitomize compatibility issues.

Rudey · #23 09-05-2006, 11:30 PM

Yeah I think I'd beat the piss out of my wife if she talks back.

-Rudey
--Now what you cooters?

AchtungBaby80 · #24 09-05-2006, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by KSigkid

But for some women, they want to stay at home "popping out babies." They work until they have a child, and then they stay at home or work part time. Some women would rather be themselves and stay at home, rather than be someone else and be a career woman.

True. I have a friend just like this! She's the awww-I-wanna-stay-home-with-my-eight-babies-oh-and-honey-the-casserole-is-ready-let-me-bring-you-your-slippers kind of gal. There's nothing wrong with that. I would rather wear tapered leg jeans for a year than live like that, but hey, whatever floats your boat.

KSig RC · #25 09-05-2006, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Rudey

Yeah I think I'd beat the piss out of my wife if she talks back.

-Rudey
--Now what you cooters?

I rock hoes.

Rudey · #26 09-06-2006, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by KSig RC

I rock hoes.

I beat not only the piss, but also the poop out of her.

-Rudey

amycat412 · #27 09-06-2006, 01:43 AM

I did not mean in my post that every woman was like me. I was pointing out that not all women want to be housewives or want to be with men who have more conservative/traditional views on life and relationships.

KAY10 · #28 09-06-2006, 03:02 AM

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Originally Posted by texas*princess

"Financially carry the load"... can you clarify?

Are ya scared that a woman might make more than you someday? It is a problem if she does?

No. I'm not scared of a woman making more than me. I could care less. I just know that man better provide for his wife rather you agree with it or not. Marriage is hard. Period, and I wouldn't do it.

Now, I'm not going to get into it with you, because just by the way you've jumped to conclusions by accussing me of being afraid of women making more than me, I'm not going to even waste my time detailing my thoughts to you. I can see it would just anger you.

KAY10 · #29 09-06-2006, 03:05 AM

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Originally Posted by shinerbock

Whats wrong with the man providing? Its pretty common here for women not to work (at least after she has children).

I agree with you man. That's what I'm talking about. He's got to be the provider.

KAY10 · #30 09-06-2006, 03:08 AM

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Originally Posted by macallan25

Agreed. Sure as hell aren't going to put the children in day care or something like that. The misses can stay at home.

Dude, someone tell texas princess that. You hit it on the nose. Let a man have a hard time making ends meet while kids are involved and watch that woman start having issues. I'm not saying she shouldn't. A woman is not designed to take that load. It's his job to provide for her. Period.