Lavaliering/Pinning/Letters In Phi Mu Alpha???

[Boodleboy322]

Originally Posted by Tarc

Hello, all. I am from the Kappa Sigma chapter of PMA at Valparaiso University.

And yes, it is also generally seen as a precursor to engagement/marraige.

Also, it is generally seen that you only ever get one lavaliering. If you happen to break up with someone that you lavaliered, generally you cannot re-lavalier. Again, it is not without precedent, but it is quite a social faux pas.

I personally don't see the lavaliering concept to be an issue. I agree with my brothers at KS in that it seems like a controled methodology that premotes the "family" bond without revealing secrets.

Anyone interested in amending has my support.

Regards,

Boodleboy322

[FightingScot82]

The issue at hand is that there are people walking around, for whatever reason, wearing the insignia of our fraternity. For legal liability sake, this means people can hurt our good name while "representing" us. According to our order NOBODY who has not been an initiated brother can wear our letters or Coat of Arms (it's NOT a crest). Now for chivalry's sake, sure, give up your jacket or hoodie to your significant other when need be, but don't make it a common thing to have that person wear our letters for leisure.

Edward J Stringham, Iota chapter, wrote in the 1914 Sinfonia Yearbook: "Always remember that you are only one of many, yet a thousand eyes are upon you and will judge the whole Fraternity by your deeds, words, and character." This being said, don't let somebody not initiated act with our letters on them in any way, because you never know how they will represent us.

[Boodleboy322]

The Fraternity is a social and male fraternity. There shouldn't be any issue if the Ms/Mrs. has them in my opinion. No harm - No foul since the letters pertain to the group and not your woman.

Originally Posted by FightingScot82

The issue at hand is that there are people walking around, for whatever reason, wearing the insignia of our fraternity. For legal liability sake, this means people can hurt our good name while "representing" us. According to our order NOBODY who has not been an initiated brother can wear our letters or Coat of Arms (it's NOT a crest). Now for chivalry's sake, sure, give up your jacket or hoodie to your significant other when need be, but don't make it a common thing to have that person wear our letters for leisure.

Edward J Stringham, Iota chapter, wrote in the 1914 Sinfonia Yearbook: "Always remember that you are only one of many, yet a thousand eyes are upon you and will judge the whole Fraternity by your deeds, words, and character." This being said, don't let somebody not initiated act with our letters on them in any way, because you never know how they will represent us.