Getting a Bid from Someone You Didn't Pref

[PeppyGPhiB]

were a PNM and this happened to me, I'd be raising you-know-what. By no means does this seem to be "mutual selection," and any woman going through rush should be able to decline membership to any group. Am I the only one that thinks this is an incredibly clueless policy on the part of panhellenics? It undermines the recruitment process, particularly if a woman ends up committed unknowingly to an organization she may know little about. Was snap bidding not working?

I think it's great that campuses are aiming to be more inclusive, but women (and the sororities) should still be able to decide whether they want to join a specific chapter.

[carnation]

I'm betting it came from a combination of young and inexperienced Panhellenic directors plus some pushy sorority members. Beginning jobs in student life pay abominably so with inexperience,a lot of sketchy stuff flies by and I have seen some things happen since my 6 oldest girls started college (the first went in 2000). Things that no one challenged, not even local alum clubs or advisors, so nothing was done.

But that's one of the very worst...

[dvs-dz]

OK, I'm confused.

Is this a situation where the PNM did not write Cruddy Phi Cruddy on her bid card? If so, then I would think that the bid offer from CPC would be non-binding as the PNM did not bind herself on the bid card.

I've only known one instance where a PNM was put in a sorority which she didn't pref, but that was by her choice (she was a bit of a ditz).

[FSUZeta]

yes. carnation means that the girls put ONLY the names of the two chapters where they actually attended the pref. parties. then magically, when they opened up their bid envelope, there was cruddy phi cruddy, whom they had dropped early in the recruitment week!!

i tell you what, this political correctness/everyone is even/we are all the same is really starting to get to me!!

[Zillini]

That's appalling! If I became aware of this sort of situation I'd be on the phone with my NPC delegate or Area Advisor ASAP. How utterly devasted those PNMs must have been. Without receiving that dreaded phone call saying they didn't match, they had to have believed they received a bid from one of the places they preffed and assumably loved. They're entitled to that phone call as well as the one offering a snap bid. That's just plain wrong!!!!!

[UCFStefanie]

I can speak from experience.

I ranked a Chapter #1 all week long (Theta) and went to all of their rounds except prefs. I only went to prefs with one group, Chapter AB.

But opened my bid to find my #1 choice (Theta). Believe me I was suprised and estatic. How it happened lord only knows.

After prefs my Rho Gamma had me put down all groups that I would accept a bid from. My rho gamma and the graduate assistant of Greek Life both knew who my #1 choice was. So It could be a possibility that because I ranked all chapters I would accept a bid from that someone accepted a snap on my behalf rather than giving me the call that I had been dropped.

The world will never know. But years later, I am happy as a duck and thankful that things worked out the way they did. It taugh me a lot and I wouldnt chance a thing.

[SoCalGirl]

Originally Posted by UCFStefanie

I can speak from experience.

I ranked a Chapter #1 all week long (Theta) and went to all of their rounds except prefs. I only went to prefs with one group, Chapter AB.

But opened my bid to find my #1 choice (Theta). Believe me I was suprised and estatic. How it happened lord only knows.

After prefs my Rho Gamma had me put down all groups that I would accept a bid from. My rho gamma and the graduate assistant of Greek Life both knew who my #1 choice was. So It could be a possibility that because I ranked all chapters I would accept a bid from that someone accepted a snap on my behalf rather than giving me the call that I had been dropped.

The world will never know. But years later, I am happy as a duck and thankful that things worked out the way they did. It taugh me a lot and I wouldnt chance a thing.

I'm pretty sure one of the more recent Greek Advisors at my school would pull stuff like that, accepting bids on behalf of the PNM. She was always trying to make sure recruitment numbers looked good but I think she went about it all wrong.