rumblytumbly's rush

[adpiucf]

Originally Posted by crzychx

It breaks my heart to see someone get a bid & not even give the house a chance. God knows how many girls would've loved a bid.

That may be true, but it is still her choice and I don't think it is our place to give her a hard time for making the decision that she feels is right for her. I give her credit for continuing to post and answer questions!

Quite honestly, I see the potential nightmare in encouraging SIP, but if more PNMs who wanted to SIP, did SIP and were released from recruitment rather than be placed into a chapter someone else may have wanted, we would likely have more committed long-term members. Sure, plenty of women receive their 2nd choice or lower... and end up happy. Even more get their first choice and end up happy. And somewhere along their 4 years in college, they decide they don't want to be part of a sorority anymore, for whatever the reason, and drop.

I'd rather see someone not show up at Bid Day b/c she knows it is not what she wants, then to put up a pretense and spend a lot of time and money, and for the chapter to invest their time and hearts into someone who doesn't want to be there.

I'm not coming down on your crazychx, but I am reading this thread and I feel a lot of anymosity coming from sorority women to this girl. If she hadn't been matched, this thread would be covered with (((hugs))) and regrets and good luck wishes. Instead, we're being critical. Yes, I feel that if you give your 2 or 7th choice a shot you may love it, but that has to be a snap decision you make on Bid Day, and if you're so disappointed and unhappy at seeing your top choice did not make you an offer, you may go home crying instead. Or worse, lock yourself into the bathroom of your new sorority house, spreading your misery to the rest of the happy chapter and new sisters.

So, I'm happy that Rumbly made the decision that this wasn't what she wanted. Maybe she'll rush again and get into the chapter she wants to become a member of; maybe that sorority will be a different sorority than it was this fall. Maybe she won't get into the chapter she wants if she rushes again. But the fact is that this fall is over, and she didn't join a sorority. Let's stop pressuring her. I imagine that this is a hard time for her as it is.

[_Lisa_]

Thats OK adpiucf, I know you aren't coming down on me & I understand what you're saying.

And Adelphean, I definitely wouldn't want a girl crying at the house if she didn't want to be there. I don't know how other schools do it, but at UK the girls that don't want to sign their bids don't ever have to meet the other pledges or sisters.

My comment was mostly made to show how I feel in regards to everyone keeping an open mind. It makes me sad to see someone not keep an open mind & be willing to give any sorority a chance, when there are so many girls that received no bid & would be willing. Thats all, I'm not trying to come down on the OP.

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by crzychx

My comment was mostly made to show how I feel in regards to everyone keeping an open mind. It makes me sad to see someone not keep an open mind & be willing to give any sorority a chance, when there are so many girls that received no bid & would be willing. Thats all, I'm not trying to come down on the OP.

I agree. We had one girl a few years ago who eventhough she put us on her bid list she wanted to be in another chapter. When she opened her bid and discovered it was from us and not the other chapter, she went to her dorm room and cried and refused to come to our bid day activities. HOwever we wanted her to be a member and cared about her even at that point enough that we sent to her dorm room two seniors (who LOVED Theta with all their heart and soul) to talk to her. They convinced her to come to our floor and hang out with the members and new members. She and we were so glad she did and decided to give us a chance afterall. Not only did she end up loving our chapter, but she also was voted "Best New Member" by the chapter and became quite a productive member!

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

I agree. We had one girl a few years ago who eventhough she put us on her bid list she wanted to be in another chapter. When she opened her bid and discovered it was from us and not the other chapter, she went to her dorm room and cried and refused to come to our bid day activities. HOwever we wanted her to be a member and cared about her even at that point enough that we sent to her dorm room two seniors (who LOVED Theta with all their heart and soul) to talk to her. They convinced her to come to our floor and hang out with the members and new members. She and we were so glad she did and decided to give us a chance afterall. Not only did she end up loving our chapter, but she also was voted "Best New Member" by the chapter and became quite a productive member!

I think it must be acknowledged that 18 year old women are emotional and well, irrational sometimes. (Guys around the world flock to this post) When Suzie PNM gets her bid and it's ABC not XYZ, she doesn't see "YAY I got ABC" but "XYZ HATES ME"