Help me

[valkyrie]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

Any advice for how to put these people off in a nice way?

Asking questions like "when are you getting married" or "when are you having teh babiez" is rude, nosy, and entirely inappropriate. Why should anybody be expected to coddle individuals who ask rude, nosy, and entirely inappropriate questions? Wanting to rise above it and be nice is all well and good, but I don't think there's anything wrong with telling people who ask these kinds of questions that it's none of their business.

[DeltAlum]

Tell them you're gay.

OK. Don't.

[adpiucf]

I'm already breaking out in hives just thinking about all of the 8th cousins 4 times removed and the great aunts getting their claws on me... In case you couldn't tell, I'm not big on these family get-togethers. Lots of drama, eating, nit-picking and keeping up with the Jonestein's. My immediate family also is not as well-to-do as the rest of them, so I feel like we get to sit in the black sheep section (I'm the only one who went to college).

ETA: The Mother of the Bride had the audacity to invite my mom to the bridal shower and write on the invitation "We don't expect you come because it's so far away (about a 7 hour drive). Please don't feel obligated to come or to bring a gift." Is there a more refined or tackier way to point out, "We know you're poor and we don't really like you, so this is just a courtesy invite?" I was offended for my mom. My mom is the kind of woman, who if she had only $.20 to her name, she'd spend it on a gift for a shower or birthday gift for a friend of a friend even if she wasn't invited. Just so she could congratulate them and offer her best wishes to share in their happiness.