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Originally Posted by carnation
[ETA: At the risk of sounding insensitive, why is there so much concern over unhappy PNMs?
Nobody likes to see people be torn up, especially good people who deserve better. I've spoken before of how horrible it was when I had to sit in the room at Mississippi State where the girls got their returns and so many were cut by groups they wanted or groups that their older friends were in or their fellow PNMs were still being invited back to.
Rejection of any kind is devastating.
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I know how tough it can be both on the part of the PNM and the sorority women. And it's not easy to cut wonderful women. But, why let that be a big consideration when you (general you) already have your own sorority's health to worry about? That seems like a lot of added stress! Plus, not everyone will fit with the values of a particular sorority. And many PNMs won't fit in any sorority on campus. That's doesn't mean the PNMs isn't amazing...just that she isn't a good fit.
I think what concerns me is that more and more PNMs should be placed in the different sororities seems to reinforce the stereotype that NPC orgs are interchangeable, as if it's all one big sorority and each sorority is a different chapter within the big sorority. In reality, each sorority has it's own history and purpose, not to mention its own ethos. So, it's not surprising that it's not always a perfect fit. You know? (I don't know if that made sense!)
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