Co-worker?

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He works in the same headquarters library I work at. There are over 120 employees in it. Transfering to another branch (whether lateral or promotion) is rather easy.

He is not in my same department. He is a Library Technical Assistant (does computer instruction). I am a Youth Services Librarian. He covers one reference desk in shortage situations (like we have right now), but he has a different supervisor. In fact, our chains of command do not coincide till at least the chief of the main library (3 people above me), and probably higher than that.

Two co-workers got married earlier this year. They had met while working at the main library. Again, different titles and chains of command. The wife was transfered to another library in the system after the marriage. I do know of another couple who worked in the system (did not meet through the system, though) where the husband could not get promoted to be the head assistant of the branch where the wife worked at, even though he would not be her supervisor. Another couple did meet and marry and worked at the main library for a while- but he was in the IT department and she was a reference librarian so there was minimal interaction in the workdya. And there is another married couple in the system- but she's at the main library and he's the chief of a couple branches, so again very little interaction.

I hope that he makes the first move. I truly do. I may be very outgoing and assertive, but I do fear rejection. It is hard for me to stay patient.