Obesity

[Sistermadly]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

If you have a friend that smokes, it is considered socially responsible and acceptable to tell that person to quit, yet if you have a friend who's obese (not overweight but obese), if you tell that person that (s)he needs to lose some weight for medical reasons, then you are being insulting and a bad friend.

I think that if a person is a grown @$$ adult, that the only thing you need to remember, regardless of whether that person is a smoker, or weighs 400 pounds, is Nobody asked me.

I'm not directing this at you personally, KLPDaisy, but the thing is - I'm not that person. I'm not living in his/her body. And you're not telling the fat person/the smoker anything that they haven't already heard a thousand times before, nor are you telling them anything that they haven't already thought themselves.

Just butt out. Seriously. Live your own life, and worry less about what grownups do with their own.

[tunatartare]

Ok so going back to this thread, I've definitely gained some weight in the past few weeks. Not a significant amount, and I'm not obese or overweight, but still. Last night my mother, in the fashion of all Russian Jewish mothers, decides to start nagging me about my weight, solely for the purpose of helping me, of course. She's yapping on and on about how dangerous it is for me with my history of heart disease, how no man will want to marry me (seriously), how I need to go on like a billion diets and whatnot. Which is very nice and all except that my mother is about 6 dress sizes bigger than I am. After she finishes up her spiel I ask her why doesn't she do all of the things that she suggests I do like going to the gym or dieting and she gets mad at me. It's really hard for me to keep a straight face when a person who's significantly larger than I am tells me I'm fat.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

Ok so going back to this thread, I've definitely gained some weight in the past few weeks. Not a significant amount, and I'm not obese or overweight, but still. Last night my mother, in the fashion of all Russian Jewish mothers, decides to start nagging me about my weight, solely for the purpose of helping me, of course. She's yapping on and on about how dangerous it is for me with my history of heart disease, how no man will want to marry me (seriously), how I need to go on like a billion diets and whatnot. Which is very nice and all except that my mother is about 6 dress sizes bigger than I am. After she finishes up her spiel I ask her why doesn't she do all of the things that she suggests I do like going to the gym or dieting and she gets mad at me. It's really hard for me to keep a straight face when a person who's significantly larger than I am tells me I'm fat.

Is your mother a dentis and does she work in Toronto? My is exactly like your mother. She used to harp on me about my weight (and I know I'm a big person), but she was bigger than me!

[tunatartare]

No she's a finance director and works in New York. But yea. My personal favorite was the comment about marriage. And BTW, the skirt I'm wearing now is a size 8 and it's huge on me, so I don't even consider that to be fat. Not many people do.

[blueangel]

I think I have a wierd mother. (in a nice way!)

Anytime I have a new boyfriend, she keeps saying to me, "What do you want a man for? They're nothing but trouble!" and "Don't get married!" LOL!

[tunatartare]

Originally Posted by blueangel

I think I have a wierd mother. (in a nice way!)

Anytime I have a new boyfriend, she keeps saying to me, "What do you want a man for? They're nothing but trouble!" and "Don't get married!" LOL!

Any chance you'd want to trade mothers? I've mentioned this in the D&R forum before, but back in the old country, it was thought that if a woman wasn't married by age 22, then she was destined to be an old maid forever and no man would want to marry her. My mom got married at 20. I'm 23, still single, and have no intentions of getting married anywhere in the foreseeable future. So as my entire family likes to remind my parents and I every chance they possibly get, there is no hope left for me.

[Drolefille]

I have the grandma who's doing the same thing, except her comments are more like: You have to be from your Dad's side of the family, you don't look like our side. You have the body from your dad's side.. we're smaller.

You don't have "Mom's family" hands, do you?

Ever thought about getting your nose done? Why not? Don't you wish your nose was skinny and cute like mine? (Yeah you bought yours grandma..)

And... "I've heard of the freshman 15 but aren't you supposed to lose that?"

I'm not obese by anymeans, but I'm overweight for my bodyframe and THANK YOU senile grandma, I'm aware of that.

My mom on the other hand has asked me if I want to do Atkins with her or if I'm interested in doing Weight Watchers or something like that. That I'm ok with because she's offering solutions not ripping on me

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally Posted by KLPDaisy

No she's a finance director and works in New York. But yea. My personal favorite was the comment about marriage. And BTW, the skirt I'm wearing now is a size 8 and it's huge on me, so I don't even consider that to be fat. Not many people do.

I've had that from my mother before. It was hurtful. Fortunately she can't use that one anymore because I am with someone who wants to marry me.

[BobbyTheDon]

Fat people need to be reminded everyday that they are fat. It's like an unwritten law.

Doesn't it make you cringe anytime you go to work, and you see that rather large woman eat those candy bars, and then two minutes later those chips, drink that soda. Then an hour later she says, " oh man, I'm starvin marvin!". Then when 9 o clock comes, she does the whole cycle again. Then she stuffs a full plate of chinese food. Then stares at the cute skinny girl who walks by with her salad. as the cute skinny girl walks away she talks shit on her with her other fat friends.

Poor cute skinny girl She doesn't deserve to be tormented by fat mean girls. Sigh...


If you are fat then try these two things

1- don't eat
2- eat, and the puke it up

Or you can try,

1- don't eat so much you fatty (you know you eat ALOT more than you should)
2- get up and move once in a while, instead of posting on GC about obesity
3- Don't get mad at what BobbytheDon is saying, and use what he says as motivation to prove him wrong!


KLPDaisy, don't get all freakin butthurt that your mom is calling you fat. You gained weight. She is telling you. So she is larger than you. She is your mom. She is old. Moms are usually fatter than daughters. She is also right. Go work out! Do something! Don't eat! Get Lipo! Barf! Iono! Lose that weight!