When is it ok?

[chitownxo]

I had this situation with my best friend from high school, who was like my sister. A couple of years ago, she got involved with someone, as my grandma would say wasn't a quality person. In simple terms, he was, and still is, a dirt bag. He worked less than Kevin Federline, stayed in bed or played video games till 2 or 3 in the afternoon, all while supposedly writing a screenplay that would set Hollywood on fire as she supported him by working two jobs. He also hit on all (and I mean all) of her friends, "borrowed" my then boyfriend's credit card, and made fun of my mentally retarded aunt at a family gathering. They broke up, and she asked me what I thought of him. I told her exactly what I thought of him.

Guess what? They're married now. Once they got back together, she told him everything I said about him, and now we don't speak since he convinced her I was jealous of their great realtionship. Yeah, sure. I don't miss him at all (and am looking forward to his future apperance on an episode of Cops or America's Most Wanted), but I do miss her. Looking back, I could have been a little more tactful. That is, instead of saying, "He's a slimeball leech with a serious hygenie problem", I could have said, "I worry about his lack of ambition".

Lesson here is: be tactful or stay neutral.