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Originally Posted by adpiucf
With the huge number of legacies going through recruitment, and the large number of PNM's at recruitment at some schools, when are these phone calls and emails supposed to happen? At schools where I have assisted with recruitment, chapters (not just ADPi) often don't finish with membership selection until after midnight sometimes... and PNM's have a very early "call time" to come and pick up invites for the next morning.
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As someone who sits through the selection meetings every night, every year, makes sure the invite lists are correct to turn in to Panhellenic by the deadline (typically 5am for us), gets my kids off to school in the morning, then is back at the Chapter house for the next round of parties with a smile on my face and trying to look like I had more than a few hours of sleep, yeah there is no time. Not with the number of legacies we now have going through Recruitment each year. (Side note: Is it any wonder I end up sick every year after Bid Day?)
Sure it would be a lot easier on a campus where only a few legacy PNMs were going through. But that's not the case on a lot of campuses, particularly SEC schools. Auburn is the most extreme example of this situation I know. I heard that the ADPi Chapter last year had 1 1/2 times quota worth of legacies going through. What was quota at Auburn last year? Something like 80+? (Sorry, don't remember) There's no way anyone in that Chapter could make around 100 phone calls. That is the primary reason by ADPi stopped requiring Chapters to call the alums when their legacy PNM is released.
As a Mom myself, I know it's got to suck big time! But as an Advisor, I'm grateful not to have to make all those calls. If someone calls me though I'm more than happy to speak to them. They probably will not like what I have to say because I'm not going to violate the confidentiality of our selection process.
I do my best to explain the difficulties in the process. I find that email Carnation spoke of to be appalling. This is our sister who is hurting and angry at her sorority. That email just poured salt in an open wound. I try as best I can to be supportive and explain the situation. It doesn't help much, but most of the time I think I've been successful at helping her get over her blinding rage.
I also instruct my Pres, Recruitment Vice Pres and every other officer to direct these calls to me. I will not allow my officers to be abused by angry alums which is often what ends up happening. The officers don't understand what they can and can't say, nor are they skilled in grief and/or anger management. Most of the time the active would end up in tears and the alum would still be boiling. I need my officers focused on the task at hand for the next round of parties. So I take on the responsibility of dealing with these difficult situations.
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