I'm so scared and excited to death

erchambers2006 · #1 07-12-2006, 07:53 PM

ditto to check you pms

irishpipes · #2 07-13-2006, 11:42 PM

Hey Future -

I wouldn't get too worried about the influence of your high school friends. At a large SEC school with a huge recruitment, you probably will not see your friends that often during the process. I had a similar desire to separate myself from my high school persona during rush, and it was no problem. There will be dozens of rush groups (or whatever your school calls them) so the chances of being in the same one as your friends is slim. You may want to limit your contact with them during the off-hours if you are worried they will try to influence you. You will meet so many new people that you will be able to get through the week without your high school companions.

Some high school friends remain important to us our whole lives, but they are few and far between. Once you become immersed in collegiate life, you will find that you don't have as much in common with most of your old friends as you thought, and you will naturally drift apart and become close with your new college friends. College is the best time you will ever have - Greek life or not. Enjoy it!

ADPi Conniebama · #3 07-14-2006, 02:48 PM

You know, I'll tell you . . . I have been talking to the Greek advisor (at a smaller southern greek system) at the school where I advise and she said that we need to look at groups of girls "going through" together. Which is kind of funny because we are under the assumption that they are looking at "staying together", when they could be looking for seperation or their own identity. (that is at a school with about 200 going through recruitment)

I am sure at BAMA or where ever you are going the sororities won't know more then that a whole bunch of girls are from Birmingham or Huntsville, or Opelika Ms or New York City. So, all you have to worry about is "tent talk" and recs. Because the sororities are going to "recruit" yall all seperately and each one of yall will get a different impression (good or bad) from the same sororities.

Keep us updated if you wish.

FSUZeta · #4 07-14-2006, 04:52 PM

connie, what did she mean that you all needed to look at "girls going thru together?"

at fsu, even back in the day, we did seem to know when a group of girls was going thru together--they seemed to go back to the same houses and they scheduled which houses they went to together. i don't remember anyone being concerned that they were going thru en mass-we were more concerned with two girls going thru together -we were always worried that if we did not pledge both girls, the one offered the bid might not accept.

ADPi Conniebama · #5 07-14-2006, 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by FSUZeta

connie, what did she mean that you all needed to look at "girls going thru together?"

at fsu, even back in the day, we did seem to know when a group of girls was going thru together--they seemed to go back to the same houses and they scheduled which houses they went to together. i don't remember anyone being concerned that they were going thru en mass-we were more concerned with two girls going thru together -we were always worried that if we did not pledge both girls, the one offered the bid might not accept.

That's right we needed to recognize the fact that girls from Summer orientation or from the same high school might BOND and might want to stay together not necessarily "en mass" but that they might "think alike" or at least listen to eachother during recruitment. She just recommended that we keep that in mind. Which of course we already knew, but I haven't really thought about the opposite happening where the girls might want to think "seperatly."

There is so much to think about when recruiting from the inside and my hint, for a pnm in a "group" is to let the sorority you are interested in know that you are interested in them "no strings attached" as it were.

I hope I made more since that time.