My Rush

[gatorgirlie87]

ok, ive gotten a little sidetracked with one of my summer classes but theres not much to say with my rush prep, im kinda at a standstill, im having a really hard time finding recs and thats what it seems like im focusing all my rush energy at right now. i guess the worst case sernerio would be i dont find any, which isnt good i know, but can someone tell me if this would completly kill me? i mean im not going to stop trying but will i not stand a chance without them? im so worried!

[kddani]

Originally Posted by gatorgirlie87

ok, ive gotten a little sidetracked with one of my summer classes but theres not much to say with my rush prep, im kinda at a standstill, im having a really hard time finding recs and thats what it seems like im focusing all my rush energy at right now. i guess the worst case sernerio would be i dont find any, which isnt good i know, but can someone tell me if this would completly kill me? i mean im not going to stop trying but will i not stand a chance without them? im so worried!

Recs are very important at a competitive rush school like UF. Be persistant. Ask around to people you know.

[FSUZeta]

gatorgirlie,

you will need recommendations at u of f. if you are from a large town/city there may be an alumnae panhellenic association there. you can go on the national npc website-there should be a listing for alumnae panhellenic chapters/associations. if your city does have one, get a name and phone number and contact that woman. tell her you are a local girl who will be participating in formal recruitment at u of f in august, and you were wondering if they(the alumnae panhellenic) had a recommendation board-that you are trying to find recommendations. if they do not have a board, this lady might(and i said, Might) offer to assist you. then again she may not. if you get nowhere with this avenue, contact your former teachers(h.s., m.s. and elementary). some of them might be sorority alumnae, or may know someone who is. ask even your male teachers-their wives may be a sorority alumnae. have you parents ask co-workers. ask your neighbors. ask your friends moms. ask ladies in your church. if you know girls in sororities, ask them to help you get recs. find those recs. it will be very hard on you, especially as a sophomore at u of f, if you do not have recs.

alphafrog, i really think that your post was uncalled for. pnms come on this site for recruitment advice, not critiques of their writing style. if her style(or mine, for that matter) disturbs you, put her and/or me on ignore. let's all try to play nice.

[kdonline]

Originally Posted by gatorgirlie87

but can someone tell me if this would completly kill me? i mean im not going to stop trying but will i not stand a chance without them? im so worried!

From someone who graduated from UF:

No. It won't completely kill you.

At some houses, it is a ticket to be asked back to second round - "for another look" at you. But getting a rec for a house does not guarantee you'll be invited back to second round at any of the houses... though as I mentioned some will honor this old school courtesy.

If a sorority is interested in you long enough to bring you back to Prefs (4th round) - and if their sorority requires it - they'll get the rec - without you knowing anything about it.

But DO try all the options the previous posters have given you. All it takes is sending out some more emails, in a timely manner.

BTW, when you chat with other PNMs, you'll see that MANY of them have no idea what recs are.

[UF56]

As a recent alum from UF I would say you need to try to get a rec for most sororities there. I can think of 7 where without having one will probably get you cut after 1st round and the only reason being is that there are anywhere from 1200-1600 girls rushing and the trend is more and more PNMs are starting to have recs which goes to what kdonline was saying about honoring the automatic invite tradition for having a rec.

[adpiucf]

Honestly, if a PNM is doing enough research on her college and sorority life, she should know whether recs are necessary. If you're not sure-- get them anyway. I think it is better to be prepared and feeling confident coming in.

[FSUZeta]

but in defense of the pnms,

if they have visited their schools panhellenic website, and also visited each chapters local and national website, they attended the greek informational meeting during orientation and read any recruitment info. mailed to them, and none of that information tells them that at their school they need to have recs., but in reality they do, whose fault is that?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

but in defense of the pnms,

if they have visited their schools panhellenic website, and also visited each chapters local and national website, they attended the greek informational meeting during orientation and read any recruitment info. mailed to them, and none of that information tells them that at their school they need to have recs., but in reality they do, whose fault is that?

NPC's for not having the balls to admit that at big schools (and even at small schools sometimes) rush can be cutthroat and stressful and elitist and not all fuzzy puppies and cupcakes.

YEAH I SAID IT, IT'S FRIDAY!

[ADPi Conniebama]

Originally Posted by 33girl

NPC's for not having the balls to admit that at big schools (and even at small schools sometimes) rush can be cutthroat and stressful and elitist and not all fuzzy puppies and cupcakes.

YEAH I SAID IT, IT'S FRIDAY!

AAAAAAAAMMMMMEEEN