Rush - What to NOT do or say

SigKapCoug · #1 06-23-2006, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

At first I thought you meant the girl did it on accident, and I wondered why everyone would think she was a bitch. Then I read it again and I was

yeah. Luckily, the table was glass, so it was an easier clean up that if it had been wood or something.

kiteflyerzl · #2 06-28-2006, 09:53 AM

1. If you go to a school where they haven't moved to "no frills" recruitment - ie they still do skits, event decorations are elaborate - do not let the event itself be the reason you choose the group. Just because a group has a talented cast of actors and can decorate a room like it's the Taj Mahal does not mean they will be the best sisters FOR YOU! Choose the group where you feel that the women will be the most accepting of you. These are the women you'll want to lean on when you've been up all night studying, you're homesick, your boyfriend dumps you for the cute blonde in his psych class, etc. If they can't help you then, who cares that they qualify for an academy award or could give MarthaStewart a Run for her money!

2. I know someone said this before but don't let a roommate pressure you into joining a group together. In many cases you've just arrived at school and your roommate is the only person you know. You probably don't even know her very well but it's easy to cling to the one familiar thing. Keep in mind that you'll soon have a whole new group of friends and the group your roommate would choose may not be the best fit for you in the long run.

3. Don't be afraid to report recruitment infractions. If you are the victim of a recruitment infraction that negatively impacts your experience, know that you are not alone and also realize that the group has probably been operating that way for a while and will continue to do so until someone steps up and says something. If the infraction positively impacts you (like bid promising) stop and think for a minute - yes you may have just been promised a bid to a group that you really thought you wanted to be a part of, but do you really want to join a group that doesn't play by the rules or believe in treating people fairly?

4. Be yourself! Any good rush hostess will be able to assess whether or not they can find common ground with you. They want to be able to make you feel at home. If you are honest in your conversation with them you'll either really hit it off with her or she'll realize she needs to introduce you to SuzySister because you and she would have xxx in common. If you eventually do not meet anyone you have anything in common with then the group is probably a bad fit for you but if you hadn't been yourself you would never know for sure!

ThetaPrincess24 · #3 07-12-2006, 07:53 PM

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Originally Posted by kiteflyerzl

4. Be yourself! Any good rush hostess will be able to assess whether or not they can find common ground with you. They want to be able to make you feel at home. If you are honest in your conversation with them you'll either really hit it off with her or she'll realize she needs to introduce you to SuzySister because you and she would have xxx in common. If you eventually do not meet anyone you have anything in common with then the group is probably a bad fit for you but if you hadn't been yourself you would never know for sure!

I cant stress this enough. Most sorority members will be able to pick up on this as well......Not being yourself is no different than lying. Members will be able to smell this lie like a fart in a car.......so make it easier on yourself and the members and BE YOURSELF!

sbelle223 · #4 07-14-2006, 07:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ThetaPrincess24

I cant stress this enough. Most sorority members will be able to pick up on this as well......Not being yourself is no different than lying. Members will be able to smell this lie like a fart in a car.......so make it easier on yourself and the members and BE YOURSELF!

ThetaPrincess is absolutely right...In the end, you don't really want to pretend to be something you're not because you might end up in a chapter that thinks you're one person and you're really someone else...And you'll probably end up really unhappy because you'll have nothing in common with any of the girls. Do yourself a favor and just be the polite/kind/fun/outgoing person you know you are.

brittai927 · #5 07-26-2006, 12:29 AM

Last year I had a PNM basically complain to me for a whole party about College Station and how much fun she had at a party the night before but how too many freshman pre rushees there were. She went on and on. PNMs are not supposed to go out during rush week, and I'm sure she knew that.

No talk about Boys, Booze, Bible (religion), Bank, or Bad News (talking about other chapters)

cutie_cat_4ever · #6 07-31-2006, 09:52 PM

Here's an interesting story that I encounted when rushing for this one sorority (which is a true story). And I wonder how to deal if such thing does happen to a rushee (though most likely it won't happen I assume)

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I was rushing for XYZ this one fall and met this one active who was really nice to me. Then we talked and became slightly closer. One day, she called me up to have lunch and we sat down and chat. All of a sudden she was trying to persuade me not to rush for XYZ because she knew XYZ was not for me. XYZ is a social based sorority, which I already knew, but I was also interested in the community services they did, and most of all, their sisterhood bond.

I was shocked later on when she was telling me some negative stuff that's going on, and I didn't know how to response. I really wanted to rush for that sorority, but I didn't know why she approached me in this way. She tried so hard to persuade me not to rush.

So I responed her, "if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be; I would still like to continue on the process and try my best."

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So how would you deal with this situation?

SmartBlondeGPhB · #7 07-31-2006, 10:49 PM

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Originally Posted by cutie_cat_4ever

Here's an interesting story that I encounted when rushing for this one sorority (which is a true story). And I wonder how to deal if such thing does happen to a rushee (though most likely it won't happen I assume)

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I was rushing for XYZ this one fall and met this one active who was really nice to me. Then we talked and became slightly closer. One day, she called me up to have lunch and we sat down and chat. All of a sudden she was trying to persuade me not to rush for XYZ because she knew XYZ was not for me. XYZ is a social based sorority, which I already knew, but I was also interested in the community services they did, and most of all, their sisterhood bond.

I was shocked later on when she was telling me some negative stuff that's going on, and I didn't know how to response. I really wanted to rush for that sorority, but I didn't know why she approached me in this way. She tried so hard to persuade me not to rush.

So I responed her, "if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be; I would still like to continue on the process and try my best."

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So how would you deal with this situation?

I would seriously question whether I wanted to be there.

1) She should not have been telling you any of that. It's sorority business and not yours. What else is she going to spout off?

2) She could have been looking out for you. Maybe she really did feel that her house wouldn't be a good fit for you. I have come across many women rushing at a school that has a very good Gamma Phi chapter and while I often think they would make great Gamma Phis, I usually also think "at any other school". They just wouldn't fit into THAT chapter.