What do you make of this story?

[James]

Friends talk to girls in a calm sincere manner and act supportive while litening to tales of their days.

Friends also give advice about problems and spend a lot of time on the phone involved with inconsequential conversation . . .

Potential love-interests call up and talk in a flirty manner, guage the pace of the conversation and usually use the conversation to . . .. ASK THE GIRL OUT.

ZTAngel said it pretty well when she said cultivate a certain aura of mystery. But also leave it clear you aren't looking for some best new buddy, or you'd get a pet. You want physical contact with this girl. This necesitates spending time together with both of you on the same page.

You seem to act like a friend while wanting to be more but not coming out and saying anything directly.

Also, many women don't like uncertainty, so you have a limited time to either represent yourself as friend or boyfriend material. Because if you don't do it quickly, she'll define you for herself and usually error on the side of caution and less exposed feelings.

When in doubt ask her out to something specific at a specific time. It will solve all problems for you because she'll either say yes or no.

Until you do that you don't know where the hell you stand with the girl. And if she was interested, you are leaving her in an uncomfortable position of uncertainty.